Ex keeps coming back

[BklynGuy]

We broke up 10 months ago. Went on a date again in Sept. 05. She was dealing with another guy but unhappy with him. I just kept away cuz she likes to have several men @ once. She was young and very sexually active w/different ppl. Seems like thats all she did before I came along since it didnt work with her long time bf. She was very pretty and attractive but thats about where the good ends. I treated her like gold and she basically sh**tted on me. Told me I was too nice. I used to open doors for her, pull out chairs, try to be a gentleman. Ok, screw you then I thought. All she tells me is about her sex life with men. Its disgusting!! I once said to her I wanna talk to ur brother, she said he'd probably tell me she's a whore. Im really starting to believe it now. I was depressed very deeply when we broke up but now Im starting to think it was really not meant to be. She's tellin me the other day she wants to see me yet this girl doesnt wanna be with me and does nothing for me...never makes any sacrifices, or goes out of her way in the smallest way for me.....never did. Ive stayed single since that breakup. B4 her I was in a LTR for 4 1/2 years that didnt work out....so Im not too keen on being in relationships. But how the hell do I avoid this type of woman? I definitely dont wanna end up with a whore again...it scares me that that's what my ex was. She would sleep with any man she found attractive. Ive never met another girl that's been like that or at least so open about it. Anyone have any similar experiences?

[bendit]

Bklynguy, she is using like TISSUE PAPER. She can have no real friendship with you that is based on mutal respect and dignity and interchange of ideas. You are getting nothing from her and she is USING you for attention adoration drama, you name it. Its a one way street. She is jealous making to get a reaction. She is trying to HURT you, to get a response, any response from you, creating craziness and chaos. She wants you to want her and ask her to come back and dump all those other guys. If you do, she will reject you and say she can't. There will always always be many guys around her serving the same function you do. She will use them all and give them NOTHING but misery.

 

Why on earth are you letting her mess with your mind like this? What is in it for you? You can do better. Being alone is 10 times better than what you are getting. As long as you let her do this, you will be STUCK and unable to move on.

 

You need to stop all contact with this SICK person immediately. Use blocks on her emails. Change your email addy. Use caller ID. Change your phone number if you have to. You hooked up with a mentally ill person who uses people and gives you nothing but misery in return. So far you have allowed that, but I am hoping you wise up and put a stop to this emotional abuse ASAP.

 

Never ever ever again talk to this emotionally ill person. You are being used like a piece of Kleenex. Eventually, when she is bored of this or she realizes you are on to this little game of nonsense she plays, she will drop you so fast your head will spin. And then she will find someone else to abuse in about the ten minutes it takes to find another chump these days with myspace and match.com out there. Don't be a CHUMP any longer. Stand up for yourself. You owe her NOTHING. Not one thing for the abuse you have experienced at the hand of this dangerous person.

 

I have been through this and found out the only way to get rid of them is IGNORE them. That hits them where they hurt and it will send a clear message that you are DONE; and she will move on. If you tell her you are going to do this she will get a kick out of what she was able to do to you and she will be back trying to hurt you again.

 

Please Please do yourself the favor of a lifetime and completely and with the utmost precision, cut off every piece of contact you can with this person. Leave no LEAKS in your defenses. And that's what this is about--building a fortress for yourself so that you can move on from this poisonous person. Begin today to wash her toxins from your system and rebuild your life without her getting in the way and screwing it up.

 

She is trouble. Take my advice. I have been there. She is a proven source of misery for any man unfortunate enough to cross her path.

 

regards

[Anyways]

hi bkguy...you definitely deserve better and don't stop being a gentleman. my ex and i recently broke up about a month ago and i still love him. he is a gentleman just like yourself...open doors for me, pull out chairs, open car doors even with the remote and i love him for that. i admit that he spoiled me at times and i love that. i also spoiled him a lot. the more good things he does for me...the more i wanted to do even more for him. unfortunately, he changed a bit and started lacking communication. i think we could have worked it out but i think he has a lot of pride. anways, that made him special and different. i had a really great man that treated me good for the most part and turned me on sexually like i have never been my entire life. and guess what? if you are really from brooklyn, ny...he is too. i just hope you don't know him...hehehehe. we just had some differences that we couldn't seem to work on. i fell in love with him bc he is so strong minded but that is also what is pushing me away. he's great for the most part but i just wish he'll think with his heart more than his brain. his strong character became quite intimidating that i was scared to open up to him bc i didn't want to get hurt. i know he still cares about me and i don't know what will happen but i really just don't want to play games and i don't have time for guessing....pride and all of that. i too was in a relationship for almost 5 years prior to him and i just wanted to learn from my mistakes.

 

Bad news is...there are a lot of girls that just talk about sex and who they sleep with constantly bc they are really shallow and insecure within. if she really valued herself enough, she wouldn't sleep with so much men. i don't know how old you are or how old she is....but i did have some friends that acted that way when they were younger and some still do bc they are actually lacking other traits such as brains and personality....that their looks are actually the only thing that gets them attention. actually...not even their looks...just giving ppl ass to feel loved and important. i'm sad to say that i had and still have some friends like that.....some ppl learn and some stay that way bc it is a deeper problem they have within.