dgiirl Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 Is it me or is it just plain weird? Half the time I'm not even aware a guy is interested in me. When I think he is, I'm too shy to act on it or i'm clueless about what to do. The whole "Can I have your number?" thing is so strange to me and throws me for a loop every time. It's the farthest thing from my mind to ask or hear. It's like I've been programmed for so long to NOT have guys interested in me, I've forgotten how to act. I'm also shocked when guys show interest in me. I'm not use to it and often ask myself why is he interested in me. What does he possibly want from me? I find myself riding a seesaw of emotions from being attached too soon, then flipping to the other side of the extreme of running away, freaking out and being distant. I just want to be level headed and relaxed. Is this normal? Does it get better in time? Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 a great healer and things tend to settle down, emotionally and in other ways, as time goes by. I think it's perfectly normal to be unsure and blow hot and cold when re-entering the dating scene. I was married for 27 years and I have to tell you, dating in the 90s was a whole different ballgame than it was in the 60s which was the last time I'd dated. Of course, there was also a HUGE difference between being in my early 20s and being 50. Women's expectations had certainly changed, as had mine. Thankfully, I survived just fine. I'm sure you will too. You'll find your balance. It may just take awhile, however. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted January 27, 2006 Author Share Posted January 27, 2006 I feel like i'm neurotic or something. Like I need to go back to therapy. But what I really need is to learn to control my anxiety. I know logically i'm overreacting, but it's hard to think logically in the heat of the moment. I never had to deal with guys for the last 10 years, and never really dated before that, so it's hard for me to remember that if a guy is talking to me, it's not just because he wants to be my friend lol. A few weeks ago, I feard I'll be alone for the rest of my life. Now I fear I wont! All I want to do is crawl into a hole and never come out. But I wont meet anyone that way, and I need to confront this fear. Link to post Share on other sites
hooghie Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 Dgiirl, Sorry you are going through this. I think your problem is focuses on your lack of confidence in yourself. You need to work on that and help yourself see that YOU ARE GREAT and guys should be honored to have the opportunity to talk to you . I think things will improve in time for you if you give it a chance. As you meet more and more people who are interested in you and gain self confidence & independence, it will become more natural for you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 Hi D! No, this is normal, trust me. Luckily for me, I met my wonderful husband the second guy I went out with so I didn't have to do it for an extended period of time. Still, the whole thing felt soooo strange. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 perfectly normal. does get better. relax. Link to post Share on other sites
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