clubking Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 I have written before and appreciate everybodies advice. I have kicked the MJ problem (almost 4 week after smoking everyday for 20yrs every day) and have asked my wife- we are sperarated (4 months) to go to a couples councler. She said she would. This brought me so much joy becuse I still am in very much in love with her and long to be back together as a family. She said I must frist see my primary Dr. about possibale depression. I agreed and have an appointment on Monday to talk with him about this. I honestly do not know if I am depressed?? However if this will bring her back to the table for discussions I am willing to do just about anything. She still will only allow me to have the children (we have two daughters 12 & 10) two days a week. I am sure she is afraid that if I have them more and if we get divorced I will want shared custody (no or very little Child Support). I miss them and long to be more a part of thier lives (school). I am currently paying 52% ($1750.00) of my take home income to her and am unable to do just about anything except live and buy groceries when the girls are her. Am I living on false hope? Can I bring my marriage back to life? Should I not get my hopes high? Please help with advise. I would love nothing better than to return home and be a Husband / Father in a family with a Wife/ Mother and two children. Clubking:) Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 court-ordered and do you have an attorney or have you consulted one? It seems awfully high. GA uses a calculator to determin CS based upon a formula. As for shared custody, if it comes to that, why not? They're equally your children too. Concerning the rest, hopefully your wife will see the changes in you and the two of you can work it out and get back together. Stranger things have happened, you know. In the meantime, just be the best father you can be under the circumstances, don't crowd your wife but be available and pleasant and keep working on you. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 In the state I live in and the one's that border me, visitation has nothing to do with child support. The parent who earns the most income pays usually. So, split custody doesn't necessarily mean "no child support". Most men would think that is fair, since they usually make more money but it's just not the case. It seems as if you're paying ALOT. I have two children and my percentage is 32% to receive. Why are you paying 52%?? Alimony shouldn't be warranted since she requested the separation. Good for you on the MJ kick! Keep it up. Talk to the counselor to see if you need meds for depression. Sometimes people do not often know they are depressed. Link to post Share on other sites
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