jon Posted August 16, 2001 Share Posted August 16, 2001 I tried out a dating service on the internet and have met a great girl through it. We have been dating for over 2 months now and we get along great,lots in common,share the same views,like/dislikes but still getting to know one another. We do have a great sex life and I look forward to spending time with her. I spend the night over her house on average twice a week and maybe a saturday night. It has been a longtime since I have felt this comfortable with somebody and also very attracted to. When is it appropriate to talk about dating each other exclusively? I think that is what is happening because we are with each other quite a bit but I do not want to assume anything! I have trouble at times expressing my true feelings for her because I think it might not be what she wants to hear at this time. We have talked about being faithful and cheating and both agree that if you are going to cheat on somebody why go out with them. I have also noticed that she is still a member at this website, I am no longer one myself. She has two more weeks left(this is common info,I was not spying on her)and hope that she dosent continue it. But if she does what would be a subtle way of asking her why she is? Does she not want to continue this relationship any further? Or just hanging on to me till someone she thinks is better to come along? Link to post Share on other sites
Ed Posted August 16, 2001 Share Posted August 16, 2001 If she is making the time to spend with you, and you are satisfied with the amount of time she is available to you, then there is no urgent reason to request an exclusive relationship. However, I think enough time and other things have transpired that it would not be out of line to discuss it and see how she feels about it. What if she wants to become exclusive? Congratulations! Don't go back to the website to see if she has removed her ad. You have to build trust to make it work. This would be as good a time as any to start. And what would you need to go to the website for anyway? What if she does not want to become exclusive? You might have to back off some if your feelings are getting too strong and you might want to back off a little anyway. But, I would keep seeing her as long as she remains discrete. Just keep your eyes open for other potential dates and continue to take precautions from STDs. You are using protection, right? You don't necessarily need to know why she doesn't want to be exclusive unless you intend on making a big deal out of it. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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