im just wondering

[cso.dave]

hey....im justwondering how some of you guys or girls friendships with the opposite sex began, because i think that randomnly talking to someone is awkward, so im just wondering

[ddh33]

Same question I have...anyone help us out!

[Mary3]

You need to practice saying hi to everyone with a smile. From the garbage collector to the post man and the lady at the check out stand. Once you open up to EVERYONE it does not seem such a monumental task to hi to someone you are interested.

 

Make sense ? Just get used to being friendly to everyone that crosses you path and you will find that people are receptive to friendly people. If you fear rejection this is the best exersize. Begin by saying hi to your neighbors and associates and pretty soon its pretty regular.

 

Whats the worse thing that can happen to saying hi to someone. ? They reject you ? Move on to the next one. It gets easier and opens up a world of trust and promises.

[Lucasarts]

well if its awkward to you, then you aint gonna be gettin any friends of the opposite sex or anyone for that matter

 

you have to live through some awkwardness in order to know someone, its hard i know to just go up and say hi and people might get bad first impressions of you, but thats just the way it is.

 

Lucky for you, there are situations in life that may present themselves to you where that awkward moment wont happen. like saaayy...You have to work on a project with a female peer/colleague/fellow student. Because you two were assigned a project beyond the your control, an introduction as well as a lot of interaction/communication between you two MUST happen. Unfortunately if the girl is not desirable, then that does suck, but it does help brush up your skills with talkin to women...plus undesirable girls ALWAYS have hot friends to hook up with.

 

Even in the workplace and not doing some project or group thing, the interaction is going to be there because i mean you really cant just go around ignoring everyone b/c you're too shy. Well you can but i doubt thats how you wanna go about the workplace...

 

another good thing is going to a new school, job, residential location, etc. because you can completely revamp who you are socially. Say you were a loser in your old school, and you have to move somewhere else. Well opportunity presents itself and you can be a completely new man/woman. Dont change your views or perspective, just simply be more social and fun, it gives the sense that you arent shy and people wont be as shy around you.

[Curmudgeon]

Almoast 15 years ago I started work for a new agency and was taken around to meet the entire headquarters (about 150 people). One of the last ones I met was a very enticing woman who looked at me like someonewould look at a bug under a microscope and was deciededly not very friendly. A liitle voice in my head said, "I'll fix that."

 

I began to seekher out during breaks and started light conversation about job-related matters regarding her function in the organization which, overtime, also began to involve me. After awhile we began talking about matters outside of work but nothing too personal.

 

Three years later I was divorced from the ex (not related to this woman or any other) and I continued to talk with the "Ice Maiden" occasionally. She'd promoted to another agency but our work still threw us together occasionally.

 

Finally, five years after we met I asked her out. We were married two months later and that was going on 10 years ago.

 

Our friendship evolved very naturally over the course of five years with no pressure whatsoever. Simple, impersonal beginnings often yield delightful results because they don't challenge anyone's comfort level.