lilmoma1973 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hugs to you Lonestar !! Who is rep whoring ? Shame on you ... Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 not to be tough all the time, don't you. It's even OK to be sad, disappointed, vulnerable and even drunk at times. I'm sorry you're going through a bad time but once it's out of your system, things will likely look better. For your sake, I hope so. Oh! Don't forget tears. They're good to and can be very cleansing. But what do I know? I'm just a guy! Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Big hugs Lonestar. I am having an eveing at home drinking since I was too tired to go out. Perhaps we'll think of some silliness to discuss tonight before we all pass out. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 You're allowed to have a pity party once in a while! And if you want to cry, CRY! Hope you have a better day tomorrow! Hugs! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I admit it. I'm completely breaking down today. I'm really not as tough as I sometimes act. Life hurts, I hurt, I'm sick of crying, and I just want to be happy again. Back to our regularly scheduled progamming... Cyber Hug, hon 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Sorry to hear you are down Lonestar...but while you're down there.... Just kidding, if you feel like chatting about it you know we will listen. Big hug for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 The night is over (at least where I am). Feeling any better in the cold harsh light of Sunday morning? I hope so. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Lonestar, remember tomorrow is another day. Smile, you are beautiful when you smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 How is the hangover hon? lol Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Lonestar, remember tomorrow is another day. Smile, you are beautiful when you smile. She's pretty cute when she's grumpy too! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 I can feel the . Thanks everyone!! It means a lot to me that you all care and reading your posts helped me not to feel so alone. I'm much better this morning and no, I don't have a hangover. I caught a buzz after a couple drinks and it ended up putting me to sleep by midnight. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: For you lonestar, good to hear you are feeling better. Alcohol is not the answer. Believe me, I know. :bunny: :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hpoe you are feeling much better today Lonestar!! Hugs to you and if you need a friend pm me... Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't know how you do it Lonestar. Every time I drink I end up crying for 12 hours. I think I'm finally calming down from last night. How does it not upset you more? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hpoe you are feeling much better today Lonestar!! Hugs to you and if you need a friend pm me... Thanks babe. I appreciate it! (((hugs))) Link to post Share on other sites
hooghie Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Sorry you were so down last night, but glad to hear you are feeling better today. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't know how you do it Lonestar. Every time I drink I end up crying for 12 hours. I think I'm finally calming down from last night. How does it not upset you more? KC I know you asked Lonestar this question, bit if I may interject. The drinking thing is not gender specific. I have done some of the most unimaginebly horrible things under the influence of alcohol. Hurting other people and hurting myself. We use alcohol to let our inner feelings come to the surface. We believe whilst under the influence that we are right and everyone else is wrong. We do things that we otherwise would not do, cry, hurt people, hurt ourselves rant and rage against the injustices we feel have been done against us. It is imperative that we understand that we need to think about what is bringing us down, dragging our souls down, making us unhappy, before we allow ourselves to wallow in this negative and self destructive behaviour. Alcohol is not the problem. Life is the problem. Using alcohol to numb yourself and release those demons is a BAD thing. Take your life and examine it. Identify what is bringing you down, and remove it. Completely. It is easy advice to give. I have not found the perfect equilibrium. I am sur there is one though. Alcohol is not the answer. Clear thought works better. But is hard to come by some times. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't know how you do it Lonestar. Every time I drink I end up crying for 12 hours. I think I'm finally calming down from last night. How does it not upset you more? Sometimes it does but most of the time it doesn't. I don't like crying or feeling hurt and I have inner defense mechanisms that kick in to stop me from feeling that way for too long. Maybe it's not a good idea to ignore my pain, which is what I tried not to do last night by posting here, but I prefer not to indulge in it. It's better to look for the reasons why I'm hurting and change them if I can. Tears run out after awhile. The last time I cried for 12 hours was when my brother died 3 years ago. I do still cry about things though, but not for long. I once read somewhere (might have been here) "activity is the enemy of thought." It's very true. Crying is a great release, but it changes nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 ........ Crying is a great release, but it changes nothing. Au contaire madamoiselle! Crying lets out in salty tears what you feel. Like turning on a tap and draining your pain. What is better is having someone who will hold you while you cry, who believes in you, who understands or tries to. Crying always leads me to some other place. To a place of peace and thoughtful recollection about what caused me to cry. :love: :love: To you Lonestar, and peace. Link to post Share on other sites
travellingman Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hpoe you are feeling much better today Lonestar!! Hugs to you and if you need a friend pm me... Great new avatar, lilmoma. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Au contaire madamoiselle! Crying lets out in salty tears what you feel. Like turning on a tap and draining your pain. What is better is having someone who will hold you while you cry, who believes in you, who understands or tries to. Crying always leads me to some other place. To a place of peace and thoughtful recollection about what caused me to cry. :love: :love: To you Lonestar, and peace. Yes, my love , but I mean it doesn't change what happened to cause the tears in the first place. If I had someone with all the attributes you described above to hold me, I'd probably cry a river. Since I face things alone, I don't have the luxury of breaking down. And thank you hooghie! Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Yes, my love , but I mean it doesn't change what happened to cause the tears in the first place. If I had someone with all the attributes you described above to hold me, I'd probably cry a river. Since I face things alone, I don't have the luxury of breaking down. And thank you hooghie! Sweetheart, don't give up. There IS someone there for you. You just haven't found him/her yet. I do not need to know what has caused you to feel this pain. I understand pain though. There are many here who do so also. If I could put my arms around you I would. So take these digital arms and believe that there is a man who understands, I know that sounds a little cold. Don't use alcohol to blunt the pain. It does not work. It leads to worse pain and anguish. Believe in yourself as I believe in you. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Great new avatar, lilmoma. Thanks i thought it was cute!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 You're a love, witabix. I know there is someone out there for me. Thing is right now I'm not ready for a relationship. I wish I was because I really really miss the intimacy, but I need to be alone awhile longer to make sure I don't make any future mistakes. At least not any that were under my control or caused by stupid decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Lonestar, be intimate with yourself for a while. (Not meant as a smutty remark) Take stock and when you are ready and least expecting it, he will walk into your life. The more you think about yourself and your needs the more you will realise it when it happens. BTW I am an unrealistic romantic, so maybe take my advice in this area with a pinch of salt. Link to post Share on other sites
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