kitten chick Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't want to take over lonestar's thread but I want to clarify that I don't drink to numb the pain or anything of that nature! I drink when I go out with my friends to birthday parties, holiday parties, etc. It also doesn't take much, I'm not a very big person. I also used to be like you lonestar, I didn't indulge in my emotions but ever since I started BC I cry lots so obviously I know there is an underlying problem causing it, alcohol is just the enabler. I was just wondering how you drank without it making you depressed because I can't seem to master that. Maybe it's not something I have control over. I'd still like to go out with friends and have a drink or two without falling apart when I get home. Anyway, I hope you recover soon Lonestar, you're one great chick and you deserve to be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 (Crying) doesn't change what happened to cause the tears in the first place. Mark this down on a calendar somewhere. This is the first time I've ever seen a member of the fairer sex understand that shedding tears actually changes nothing. Lonestar, you're one in a million, in the best possible way. :love: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't want to take over lonestar's thread but I want to clarify that I don't drink to numb the pain or anything of that nature! I drink when I go out with my friends to birthday parties, holiday parties, etc. It also doesn't take much, I'm not a very big person. I also used to be like you lonestar, I didn't indulge in my emotions but ever since I started BC I cry lots so obviously I know there is an underlying problem causing it, alcohol is just the enabler. I was just wondering how you drank without it making you depressed because I can't seem to master that. Maybe it's not something I have control over. I'd still like to go out with friends and have a drink or two without falling apart when I get home. Anyway, I hope you recover soon Lonestar, you're one great chick and you deserve to be happy. kitten chick, birth control will screw with your emotions. Maybe you can ask the doctor to put you on a lower dosage of the hormones and things might ease up. I had a tubal ligation, so I'm permanently controlled. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonestar Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Mark this down on a calendar somewhere. This is the first time I've ever seen a member of the fairer sex understand that shedding tears actually changes nothing. Lonestar, you're one in a million, in the best possible way. :love: :love: slubber :love: Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 kitten chick, birth control will screw with your emotions. Maybe you can ask the doctor to put you on a lower dosage of the hormones and things might ease up. I had a tubal ligation, so I'm permanently controlled. LOL I'm off of it, been off of it for a while. looong story, I'd rather not post it on the board. My bc was recalled because of the imbalance in hormones. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 This is the first time I've ever seen a member of the fairer sex understand that shedding tears actually changes nothing. Well actually, grieving is an important process both psychologically and physiologically. A study by Dr William Frey, a biochemist, was the first to identify quite how potent those emotional tears might be. Frey asked volunteers to watch a sad film and catch their tears in test tubes, then he culled the tears that they cried when they chopped onions. His results showed stark differences between the tears shed in sorrow and those caused by the fumes from food: The former contained 25 per cent more protein, including albumin, which is linked to stress. Concentrations of manganese, a mineral that’s found in high levels in the brains of depressed people, were 30 times higher in tears than in the blood. The substance adrenocortico trophic hormone (ACTH) one of the most sensitive indicators of stress, was also present in large amounts. It seems the act of crying eliminates these compounds, and Frey found that stress levels plummeted. And according to Lutz, other studies have shown that healthy people cry more and suffer fewer gastrointestinal problems, including colitis and gastric ulcers. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2002/20021208/spectrum/main2.htm http://www.boston.com/globe/search/stories/health/health_sense/102196.htm And to those who scorn women for crying, try this on for size: But between ages 12 and 18 a gender difference in crying develops. This is also the time period when women develop higher levels of the stress-sensitive hormone prolactin. Women have 60 percent more prolactin than men. One more theory for men crying less often than women is that men sweat more than women, thereby releasing toxic chemicals through their sweat glands. http://smdailyjournal.com/article_preview.php?id=53397&eddate=01/12/2006 Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 :love: slubber :love: :mad: Leave him alone he is MINE :mad: Link to post Share on other sites
cal gal Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I can understand why you were having a bad time and I am so happy that today is a better day for you. I've been a bit down the past week as my STBXH went to Hawaii on what would have been our 20 year anniversary vacation. He's there now wih his brother.... It gets me bummed out as our anniv is this week, the 1st, so I have a few more days to contemplate..... I'm trying to keep my mind off the thought of feeling that I was a part of a failed relationship, and my boys are trying to keep me distracted as well.... I really am glad that you are having a better day Lonestar. Bug Hugs to you! keep your chin up! Link to post Share on other sites
noclobber Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I admit it. I'm completely breaking down today. I'm really not as tough as I sometimes act. Life hurts, I hurt, I'm sick of crying, and I just want to be happy again. Back to our regularly scheduled progamming... oh no... what happened sweety? is the ex troubling you again? or is it the cigarettes??? whatever it may be... here is a bigggggggggg hugggggggg for ya! cheer up Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Well actually, grieving is an important process both psychologically and physiologically. I don't mean that crying isn't a stress release; it certainly is. (Though I'm glad to see that there's been bona fide studies to back it up, rather than anecdotal evidence.) My point was that bawling doesn't actually change the situation which caused the grief in the first place. F'rinstance, let's say someone blubbers because, oh, maybe dinner got burned. Crying may release the stress, but dinner's still carbonized, though it may now be suitable for an offering to the gods or something. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I don't mean that crying isn't a stress release; it certainly is. (Though I'm glad to see that there's been bona fide studies to back it up, rather than anecdotal evidence.) My point was that bawling doesn't actually change the situation which caused the grief in the first place. F'rinstance, let's say someone blubbers because, oh, maybe dinner got burned. Crying may release the stress, but dinner's still carbonized, though it may now be suitable for an offering to the gods or something. crying just gives me a headache. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 the stongest people can also be the weakest people....this I have seen with my own eyes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
noclobber Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 :mad: Leave him alone he is MINE :mad: damn you Lishy Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Sorry you're hurting, Lonestar. Here's some virtual sympathy. Hugs hugs hugs. Alpha's right: the strongest people are often those who are in touch with their vulnerability. And you are strong even as you're weak. Sometimes the only way to get over some of the PTSD is to just mourn what's happened to you in the past that keeps tripping you up in the present. So hope you had a good cry and can get up and face today now with some hope. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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