NC while divorcing?

[Xillr8ng]

Hi all. 38 wife 34.Together 17 yrs married12 yrs. no kids.Wife moved to girlfriends sep.11 said needed space to find herself.Within first month we talked as normal went to lunches together and dropping by the house regularly.. she was bringing up the past garb..My drinking(our drinking) and the rare but abusive things I would say.I said yes to everything and cried sorries no defense to it.No cheating or beatings in the marraige.She was using every thing bad that I have ever done even before marraige,small stuff.She left everything including the cats she loves.I asked for a second chance somewhere in the future and she agreed.She has seen the changes in me.I have not handled this like I would have before.We have not fought.I have been as kind and gentle as ever a man could be.I have left the bank account open(she uses it) and continued to pay her bills and cell phone.I am four months no drinking no smoking and threw away all the bad associations that she hated(drinkin buddies).There is nothing left of the selfish man I once was.She still wasnt coming home.I have given her every oportunity to get her things including saying "I will leave the house just call me ahead of time".She will not get her things.

UPDATE:divorcing both with attorney.She has not called and neither have I....2 1/2 weeks now.Through my attorney I have offered MC and would pay all costs.She is considering it but still wants to continue DIV. Should I call her or will I just be doing more damage? thnk you all