Breed Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 There's no doubt about it im in love however; I've only been in this relationship 5 weeks, i think its too soon to tell her, so when would be the best time? What signs should i look for that i know that she feels the same way? HELP!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Dude... on the other thread you are talking about breaking up with her because your sexual needs are not being met and she won't give you BJ's or handjobs.. You are also hinting about cheating on her.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80703/ WTF ??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breed Posted January 30, 2006 Author Share Posted January 30, 2006 Dude... on the other thread you are talking about breaking up with her because your sexual needs are not being met and she won't give you BJ's or handjobs.. You are also hinting about cheating on her.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80703/ WTF ??? Oh dear god No i did not, go read it again, it was a hypothetical situation from you telling me i was being selfish. I will not get drawn into an argument with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Thats what im afraid of ehr sayign though, if she says she doesnt do it then i wouldnt be interested in persuing a long-term relationship with her. "from the other thread" How is this a hypothetical statement ? This is the woman you are saying you love.. Show her some love then 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 But Art Critic, those who would disagree with him are mindless, dontcha know. "If i want mindless critisism ill pop by my local pro-feminist bi-monthly meeting. " He wants what he wants and what someone else may want appears to be immaterial. Breed, I think you have a ways to go in the relationships department. If your measure of a good one is sex on your terms, there are women you can pay for that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 "from the other thread" How is this a hypothetical statement ? This is the woman you are saying you love.. Show her some love then GO AC! GO AC! GO AC! You tell him! Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 We have not even determined WHAT 4 letter word he is considering using and you guys are bashing him. Breed--can you elaborate? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 We have not even determined WHAT 4 letter word he is considering using and you guys are bashing him. Breed--can you elaborate? :lmao: I think he meant lust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breed Posted January 30, 2006 Author Share Posted January 30, 2006 How is this a hypothetical statement ? This is the woman you are saying you love.. Show her some love then Thanks, thats really helpful. A witty retort, didn't see that coming. Like i said, i'm not here to argue. I want help and advice. But Art Critic, those who would disagree with him are mindless, dontcha know. He wants what he wants and what someone else may want appears to be immaterial. Breed, I think you have a ways to go in the relationships department. If your measure of a good one is sex on your terms, there are women you can pay for that. Again, thanks for the constructive critisism and help. no, sarcasm doesn't really work on the internet my apologies. Curmudgeon, your insinuating that im a control freak and that i dont dont like it when i dont get what i want. In one way, i can be. I am dominant in my relationships, and usually go for more submissive girls as i find them more attractive. Saying that i have a long way to go in the relationship department is diabolical, you dont know me whatsoever, yet you seem to be able to rate and score my level of intimacy with women? Assumption is the mother of all **** ups i hope you realise. Also, you do not know my needs, i have never said that i measure women by her willingness to submit to my command, infact i find it arousing for a women to say no, makes me want her more. And no im not contradicting myself, my gf is not submissive all the time, shes somewhere inbetween and thats one of the many reasons i've fallen for her. I'm growing tired of defending myself from a community which in its entirety is supposed to help eachother, not bicker over stereotypes? I want your help, please help me with my problem by offering something constructive to the conversation and my situation. I don't want to make enemies over trivial matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I think Breed that what A_C has said at first you have taken out of context. You started a thread which said you had been having sex with this girl you have been with for 5 weeks and you are having problems that she wont give you a blow job and it may get in the way of your relationship. Fair enough. This thread then asks when you can tell her you love her??? It just makes no sense to us so please do elaborate Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I am dominant in my relationships, and usually go for more submissive girls as i find them more attractive. Also, you do not know my needs, i have never said that i measure women by her willingness to submit to my command, infact i find it arousing for a women to say no, makes me want her more. Anyone else see a BIG RED FLAG here? Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Ok, I read your other thread and I read this one. I pretty much agree with what everyone else said but here is your constructive advice. Don't say it. I've been in her shoes before. (If you want to PM me I'll share my personal experience) You may be sure that she's a great friend. You may be sure that you like dating her. You're also sure that you will break up with her if she doesn't perform certain sexual acts. In general, even being friends for some time beforehand, 5 weeks isn't long enough to know if it's love that you're feeling. Romantic relationships are much deeper and more intimate than platonic relationships. You haven't seen everything yet in 5 weeks. Some women believe it when men say that they love them or are in love with them and it makes the relationship more serious. Take your time, take it slowly, your feelings may very well turn into love but the relationship isn't ready yet for those words to be said. If it really is love then you know you have a ton of time left in the relationship to say it. If for nothing else, don't say it to protect her in the event that you do change your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Candidate for Date Rape?? Seriously, 5 weeks seems awfully short to be a) having tons of sex but no head or handjobs... b) considering to say you love her (especially in light of a) Out of curiosity, what is your age....I would venture to say in the 17 to 24 range with a guess of 22 Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Candidate for Date Rape I was thinking registered offender. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 All I know is (in my experience), you'll know when the right time comes. If you have to ask, then the timing isn't right. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breed Posted January 30, 2006 Author Share Posted January 30, 2006 I think Breed that what A_C has said at first you have taken out of context. You started a thread which said you had been having sex with this girl you have been with for 5 weeks and you are having problems that she wont give you a blow job and it may get in the way of your relationship. Fair enough. This thread then asks when you can tell her you love her??? It just makes no sense to us so please do elaborate Okie dokey I love her, but we're having troubles in bed. Please jen Jen ive read and respected your posts for a while and i know your better than to jump to conclusions Also, you do not know my needs, i have never said that i measure women by her willingness to submit to my command, infact i find it fun for a women to say no, makes me want her more when we're in a healthy and loving relationship with give and take qualities. I could have worded it better, but the statement stays true. Arousal is not always sexual. Making a women want her more does not mean some random stranger saying no to my advances, i meant my gf maybe gigglign and telling me i dont deserve sex because i havent given her a foot massage yet kind of "saying no". Your putting a stereotype against all my posts and leaning it in favour of it. kitten chick Thanks, maybe your right. I should air on the side of caution, like i said my love for her is just starting to blossom though the time we've spent together. Thanks for your post 933KJL Date rape? I think i missed the joke i don't get it. I'm 22 as i've said in past posts. Link to post Share on other sites
barfool Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I agree with kitten chick. Most likely this is the infatuation phase that occurs early in a relationship and either become something more or leaves entirely. Give it time. Let your feelings develop and hers as well. As far as the sex stuff goes, if you really like her as much as you say then you have to deal with the fact that she may never want to give you oral pleasure. If it is something she is not comfortable with and you care for her and respect her then you can not and should not make her. This is what comes with loving someone for all they are. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Wait to see if the feeling lasts for more than a few months. Then it's not just infatuation/lust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Breed Posted February 2, 2006 Author Share Posted February 2, 2006 It's been other a month I know my own feelings, but i cant read her thoughts but it all looks good. I may save it for valentines day, seems like as good as any day to confess feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
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