Am I alone on this one?

[Little123]

Me and my boyfriend are both 24 years old and have been together for almost 2 years. We are both in the military and love each other very much. He has a son with another woman from a previous relationship. The problem is I am very much not a kid person. It hasn't started bothering me until recently because a few things have occured that made me aware of his presence in our relationship. He only has custody of him every other weekend but those weekends are very hard for us. Besides that our relationship is the best anyone could have. I am definatly willing to push through this because we love each other so much and I would never want to intrude on their relationship, but its hard for me. I'm sure I sound very selfish but I can't help feeling inferior to his kid. I just got relocated to a different station so I don't know many people and need someone to talk to for some advice. Any thoughts on how I can learn to accept and deal with this? Thank you for your help.

[ThatOneGuy]

I would like to take my first sentence to say Im not here to be mean, Im just going to tell the truth.

 

Your feeling inferior to the boy because you ARE inferior then him. That boy is the fruit of your boyfriends loins, he is his own flesh and blood. His son. You shouldn’t feel threatened or jealous, and for you to take such a hostile emotional reaction only speaks that your feel that your position in this relationship fails in comparison to a Man and his Son.

 

Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but you really shouldn’t be worried about it. Hate kids all you want and such, but you really shouldn’t be mean to that little boy. In fact, if you really wanted to earn some brownie points you could be extra nice and, I dunno, accept him?

 

Once again, not trying to be mean, but if you can’t find a place in your heart for your boyfriend’s only child, then stay away from them and give them their time together. A boy has the right to spend time with his father