newbby Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 Very true, but v-day has different connotations. contact is contact, it doesnt matter what day you do it. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 contact is contact, it doesnt matter what day you do it. true, I guess I need to say what I really meant. If one wants contact, postpone it to another day. Especially breaking NC, come back and revisit the issue later. This gives one sometime to rethink their actions. Soft of like a Dear John / Dear Jane letter or any angry note / letter written out of spite. Write then put it away for a few hours or days then re-visit the issue. I've done being a fool before and waited some days. After that revisit and rethink the action helps one prevent breaking NC. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtbeyondwords Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 I am 1 month into the breakup, I belive that everything is confussing for both of us right now. She broke up with me. If she contacts me on vday do I ignore it? If I stick to NC and she realizes her mistake I dont want to give up any chance with her, when do I know to try again and when to give up? Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 true, I guess I need to say what I really meant. If one wants contact, postpone it to another day. Especially breaking NC, come back and revisit the issue later. This gives one sometime to rethink their actions. Soft of like a Dear John / Dear Jane letter or any angry note / letter written out of spite. Write then put it away for a few hours or days then re-visit the issue. I've done being a fool before and waited some days. After that revisit and rethink the action helps one prevent breaking NC. i think i see what you mean. so you are saying you are more likely to be rash on valentines day, but if you allow yourself the thought of maybe doing something later, it will help get past the danger period? an interesting thought. personally i treat it the same as giving up smoking. you are NEVER going there again. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 I am 1 month into the breakup, I belive that everything is confussing for both of us right now. She broke up with me. If she contacts me on vday do I ignore it? If I stick to NC and she realizes her mistake I dont want to give up any chance with her, when do I know to try again and when to give up? this is the mistake people tend to make. they think that theres a small thing they could do to make EX see. a chance meeting, that could change it all. "if she contacts and i dont reply, i am missing my one opportunity to turn all this around". if somebody REALLY wants to get back together, (and you really dont want your head messed around by someone who isnt sure), then they will do more than just a one day, half assed attempt at contact. sorry to hear you are hurting. the BEST way to get somebody back is to let them miss you (because you have no contact). sometimes it doesnt work, but it just so happens that the best way to get over someone, is to have no contact too! see, what a perfect world this is Link to post Share on other sites
Author CaliGuy Posted February 6, 2006 Author Share Posted February 6, 2006 I am 1 month into the breakup, I belive that everything is confussing for both of us right now. She broke up with me. If she contacts me on vday do I ignore it? If I stick to NC and she realizes her mistake I dont want to give up any chance with her, when do I know to try again and when to give up? You do understand that NC isn't a tool to try and win your Ex back, right? It's a tool to help you heal. To break the cycle. If you've implemented NC to try and make your ex change her heart, you'll be sorely disappointed. You can't force someone's feelings to change. Sure, absense does make the heart grow fonder but all NC does is speed up your healing process. Trust me on this. If your Ex wants to reconcile, neither hell or nor high water will stop them. She'll let you know. And she knows how to reach you. In the meantime, continue with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CaliGuy Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 A gentile bump since Valentine's Day is almost here. *shudder* Link to post Share on other sites
hurtbeyondwords Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 I have never wanted a holiday to end this quickly. END!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
fallenheart45 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 True that bro! Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 Thanks CaliGuy for referring this thread. It's bumped up, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Xillr8ng Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 . Trust me on this. If your Ex wants to reconcile, neither hell or nor high water will stop them. She'll let you know. And she knows how to reach you. . Yeah I am just now learning this valuable strech of info. Link to post Share on other sites
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