Sneakee Monkee Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 Well, I tried to post this before, and I don't think it went through, so if this is a double post, I apologize: Tonight, DH Bought me my first car. My first car that is my very own. He's very proud of this accomplishment, and I am so tickled. He phoned his mum earlier to let her know, but she seemed rather short and asked only "Can you afford it?" We chalked that up to the fact that she just got back from Philly today w/ her husband for a cancer treatment specialist checkup. He was prnounced clear btw. So it was a good trip. No, she said, don't come by, she didn't feel like walking outside to see the new car. Okay. Off to dinner we go, and when we get back, theres a message on the phone. Someone in MIL's house dialed us, but must not have realized it because they didn't leave a message- rather the machine recorded a converstation going on in the room between herself, her husband and 2 sister in laws. The most audible and easiest to understand part of the recording was my mother in law saying "So why does she even need a car of her own? It's not like she's going to get a job." WOW! I've always felt like my m-i-l didn't care too much for me, but my husband always said it was all in my head. Don't think so. Not unless I'm the only one who can hear that recording and by the look on his face, I think he heard it too. Now, we're not living in Trump Towers, but we do alright. I haven't worked in about 4 years because DH says he doesn't want me to. And that's really been alright. And it's really been the practical thing to do. Mother in Law's free babysitting that she does for all her "blood" grandchildren strangely has never been extended to my son, a "step". That free babysitting at any time day or night though, has been very convient for my 2 s-i-laws. As has her open purse policy, bounce a check, go to mum, don't worry about the payback. We've never borrowed a dime, much less a dime we didn't pay back. Money isn't an issue for her either, though, because while she somehow didn't have money to buy her own lunch at Spagetti Warehouse at DH and I's Justice of the Peace wedding, she's magically been able to spend $2000 on a dress for one s-i-l and is splurging for that wedding in Vegas. Again, money isn't the issue- I'm just setting up precedent. I know these little things have always irked DH, but being a wanna be mama's boy- he lets it all go. When I beg off going to visit and say, nah- you go ahead w/o me- he says, then I'm not going. Hello? I don't want to go, because I feel very strange around these people. He's always blown it off that I'm being a B*tch or paranoid. I am almost happy that this has happened because now it's like "look, see- she doesn't like me, now will you leave me alone about going over there every freaking weekend?!?" I really don't understand her attitude- other than she just doesn't like me. She herself has only been working a few years, and she had her own car before that. Somehow it's not alright for me though. So should DH say something to them? Or do we keep it to ourselves? What do we do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sneakee Monkee Posted February 2, 2006 Author Share Posted February 2, 2006 Ah, I did make double posts! So now to see if I can delete one of them! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 My mil can be such a b@@@@,and say the meanest things !! I really am not going to be a mil like that to my child's future spouse .. Really can make you feel like nothing you do is good enough.. I could tell you about my mil but it will be long so pm me if you would like to exchange stories about the inlaws!! Plenty to tell.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sneakee Monkee Posted February 3, 2006 Author Share Posted February 3, 2006 Thank You for your reply. I do want to feel like I am overreacting (mostly because this really isn't anything new for me- rather humorous that they can't figure out how to use a phone)... BTW- I ended up getting an even BETTER car today- I didn't sign my papers last night (but I drove home an 05 Taurus), and the car I've wanted since they've been redone in 2000- an Impala- was said to be out of our budget yesterday so I settled on a 2005 Taurus- Somehow that came up in converstation today with the finance manager, and for 11 bucks more a month- I got my dream car- an 04 IMPALA!!!!!!!! You BETCHA that I can't wait to go rollin up with a grin! ) Thank you for the comfort and understand, advice and room to vent!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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