girlfriend needs space need

[Donnie23]

Okay so heres my situation, Me and my ex girlfriend had been seeing each other for 6 months. She is amazing and I am totally in Love with her. She was the first to tell me that she loves me. We have already been through alot together. Our relationship started when she was away in treatment. We wrote each other every day for 2 months until she got out. Since she got out she became pregnant and had a miscarriage. We weren't trying to have a baby, and with any other girl I probably would of been okay with the miscarriage, but with her lets just say it hurt us both deeply. Also I had a freak heart attack where I was in a comma for 6 days and almost died in November and she was there for me the whole time. Because we are both in recovery it has been advised to us to not be in a relationship for a while until we both get some time sober and learn to take care of ourselves before we can take care of someone else. So we decided to take some time apart but we still talked on th phone every day, and saw each other a few times a week. This went on for like a month were we talked every day and every night she would say how much see missed me and how she wished I was there with her, but we both agreed that staying apart for a while would make us alot stronger in the long run. She and I would both talk about being together long-term(We are both in are early 20s and would talk even about marriage someday). She would be really adamate when I would say "If we get back together" and she would quickly correct me and say "you mean when we get back togther right?" She would always say how i was worth the wait and how better yet We are worth the wait Then all of a sudden one night she called me and said that we shouldn't talk on the phone anymore because with the intimate conversations we were having and being on the phone 5 times a day for extended period of times it was really like we were going out without just with no title. She said her feelings hadn't changed and all the stuff we talked about before still sounded great to her but we weren't doing what we had intended and working on ourselves right now. I told her if that was what she wanted I was okay with that. But since then(it's been a little over a month) whenever we see each other out she won't speak to me, won't look at me, and pretty much acts like I do't exist. I am to be honest very hurt and confused. I keep having thoughts that her feelings have changed and she doesn't want to eventually get back together. We had always talked about how much we were looking forward to Valentine's Day and with it coming up I really want to ask her to go out with me that night. i plan to tell her it won't change anything between us right now, I'll still give her space. It would just be really nice to spend that day with her. I Love this girl more than I have ever loved another in just 6 months even though I hadve been in 2 relationships over 1.5 years before. I am really hurt confused and could use some advice.

[WindDrifter]

Mate let her go. Don't contact her. She is either trying to push you away or just needs space. Give her all the space she needs. Leave her alone. Get some control into the relationship. Let her be.

[pippen_2k]

Once they ask for space, give em a lifetime of it