eoo Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 i have a thing about a girl who works in a different department to me but our paths cross at meetings every so often and I have to contact her on the phone by email a bit. the thing is i cant work her out at all. she can be really cute funny and tease me a bit but other times she is icy cold. it is difficult at meetings with other people. i have only ever met with her alone once but i never know how to handle her. now i have noticed i start being a bit strange in return. i dont know if there is tension that is making things crap at work or what. she does have a job where she has to be professional but i also find i end up taking over meetings when she is there and thenfeel like an arse later. she isnt even my type to be honest but she has seriously got me confused. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 she can be really cute funny and tease me a bit but other times she is icy cold. Check if someone else thinks this too. Or try to look at it objectively. It may just be your perception - when you obsess about someone, little things get magnified. But if other people notice the hot and cold thing too, it's a red flag. i also find i end up taking over meetings when she is there and thenfeel like an arse later. Here's a good rule of thumb: don't send your heart after a girl until you're 100% sure your interest is reciprocated. Up until then, dial down the excitement, just be friendly and fun. And if she's not friendly back, don't work harder to impress her - move on. she isnt even my type to be honest but she has seriously got me confused. If she can mess up your life this much when you hardly know her, think what damage she could do living with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Danni22 Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 not sure from your post what your positions at work are but is she senior to you or one of the managers or something. My impression is that she makes you feel you have to impress her so she is maybe higher up than you. if that is the case she probably feels uncomfortable when you take over and withdraws a bit rather than confronting you as she might with someone else which probably means she quite likes you as well otherwise she wouldnt give a toss about picking you up on this in front of others. I have been in this position as I am a female manager and its very difficult. Can you possibly put a lid on the trying to impress in work and instigate some time away from work for example do you have an excuse for you to meet with her about something but have missed lunch and can go over it in a coffee shop then you could drop roles a bit and you will be able to see her in a bit more relaxed setting. I dont think the coldness is a red flag as its too difficult to put attraction behaviour into meetings at work, the only other thing I would check is if she is attached as that could also have led to the coldness and withdrawal. Link to post Share on other sites
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