JUSTDON'TKNOW Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 For people dating, or seriously involved, or married... Ever feel like your SO don't notice you?? I've been feeling like this lately. I am happy with me for the most part, I am attractive and average weight wise etc. but I feel sometimes he does not see the changes in me, then this makes me thing OK, I have to shop, have to spruce up my wardrobe, I do this and still I don't feel better like I thought I would. Ya know those relationship where the guy/gal wants their SO to dress better, appearance etc wise? Well I am on the other side of the fence.. which is loney I must ad. I take great care of myself appearance wise... everyone notices new clothes I wear or even if I did my eyebrows this morning... he does not. I am not going to say... is it because he is a guy because again, I am on this side of the fence. What is wrong with him or me??? He does compliment me at times, not as often anymore but I am ok with that - totally. It's like I could easily get dressed looking like a box of crayons and he would not notice. But he will say, that girl looks good in that or that girl is not attractive which bothers me none of course, but what about me? I think I am going to put on a clown outfit next! haha, wonder if I would get any reaction to that? He and I get along wonderful, have a one of a kind relationship and I am thankful... I just feel like this peice is missing, is it that important?? Guys/ Gals, chime in here! Any one on this side of the fence with me??? Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted February 4, 2006 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Men have trouble with vision. No, really. The reason they can't find socks, see the milk right there in the front of the fridge, or notice your new 'do is they have poor field-to-ground distinction (seeing something with other stuff around it). You're not alone and it's not that he doesn't care. He probably figures he's told you once or twice so you should know Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted February 4, 2006 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Yes, Outcast is right. I know my boyfriend thinks I am hot. He tells my family we he is alone with them. I catch him looking at my butt. But he rarely tells me straight out. I have told him before that I would like it if he would telll me that he thinks I am pretty. Men just don't think the way we would like them to, sometimes. I think you should reward your boyfriend everytime he does say something nice, by giving him a big kiss and "thank you." He may get the idea that saying nice things to you, will get a positive reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTDON'TKNOW Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 Outcast, I have to say I am happy you responded to my thread. I've followed your comments on posts for a long time and I like the way you can straight out say what the problems and fixes are to relationships. I know you've had a rough go - but I am thankful for your insight! Im satisfied now with your replies.. Link to post Share on other sites
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