freelove Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 So my girlfriend wanted to take a break with me because she felt I was taking her for granted and not showing her enough through my actions that I love her. She had put me on a pedestal and was showing me so much love, but I just fell into the routine of the relationship and did not reciprocate. She does however still want us to hang out and take it really slowly. How do I show her through my actions now that I really love her and am willing to do whatever it takes, without seeming needy or impatient for us to really give it another go. She was so patient with me throughout the relationship. I feel if I back off and take time for myself, I will be doing just what i did for the last year and a half. I really want to show her now, but don't want to push her away and I feel like now that she still wants to hang out, I can use these oppurtunities to create positive moments between us and show her that I love her 100%. Any advice on what to do in these future encounters!! Link to post Share on other sites
southern_sun Posted February 3, 2006 Share Posted February 3, 2006 By hanging out and taking things slowly will be all you really need to do. Can't force it upon her. You push it and you could possibly push her away. You can do NC as I'm sure a lot of people will recommend it here, but just take it easy. You have nothing but time and if she's the one you want, you give it the time you think it deserves. If she comes around, she does; if not, you tried! Link to post Share on other sites
Author freelove Posted February 4, 2006 Author Share Posted February 4, 2006 Thanks Southern Sun! Anyone else have any words of wisdom? Link to post Share on other sites
salmagundi Posted February 4, 2006 Share Posted February 4, 2006 I agree with the above post. I dont think NC is necessary if you are both still committed (its not a break where she could go dating other people too, is it?). If she still wants this to work and still wants to be in your life than keep her there. But definitely dont rush. The problem is that at one point you guys were a full on couple and acted like it. This can make it hard to play it cool now, when one thing (eg, a goodnight kiss) no longer necessarily will lead to another like it used too. Remember what first dating was like and try and follow that pace, I would say. But DEFINITELY dont load you relationship with expectations. Dont think you can go rushing back to the way your relationship was before. That could freak her out and make her feel pressured, making her flee. if its worth half the effort then going slow is the best thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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