Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 WTF! He called. Said he just dropped off my things in front. I'm like, in front of where? He said in front of my building. So I go out there and there's a bag of stuff, but it wasn't "my" stuff (only a plate). It was all the presents I ever gave him! (kick in the teeth). Some of them were expensive gifts that were never used. Tags still on them. One was still wrapped from Christmas, never opened. And get this, a few weeks before he dumps me (on 1/20) he calls to thank me for the surprise CD and two cards I left for him in his mailbox while he was out of town visiting his dad in the hospital. Well, that was in the bag too. Unopened. Along with the cards that were unopened! WTF!!! What the hell is wrong with him? Surprisingly, the Christmas teddy bear I gave him was not in the bag. Is that supposed to mean anything? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Jen.. Please leave him alone.. He did this to hurt you.. If you continue to try to get your stuff back all that will happen is your will continue to get hurt.. Please let this stuff go... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 But why did he spare the teddy bear? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 But why did he spare the teddy bear? Who really knows.. he might like it.. or he may have known that it would bug you that he still has it and didn't put it in the bag.. A game... it is just a stuffed animal...but he knows you would look for it in the bag.. Please don't give him the ego boost of being right.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 You know what I really hated? When he called I could tell that he was holding back tears. I know him...I've heard him cry many times. I know when he's getting.....for lack of a better word.....verkelmpt. I hated it because my natural urge was to comfort him, and I wanted to. But I can't. So I didn't. And I hate how I care. Why can't I just shut that f***ing emotion off? I guess that's why the lack of teddy bear makes me think...why? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 You have come too far in the last week or so to let him get to you.. He is an assclown.. he knows what stuff you want and he decided to take a pot shot at you.. It hurt you.. that is why you must leave this alone till you are emotionally detached.. Link to post Share on other sites
cal gal Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Jen, I am a gal that has a ton of material things and finds most all of them to be so insignificant! They are just THINGS honey. My XH thought that we needed everything under the sun, but I wasn't raised to understand anything but to be happy with anything- even if it wasn't much. It's just "stuff" - unless it has a very strong sentimental value, forget about needing it and move on.... you will feel much better to get past all of the worry and wondering. You can always accumulated more **** later if it's that important. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 The thing I wanted back most does have sentimental value. But I am just so thrown by this last cruel act of his. Why'd he do it? All he could say while he was dumping me is "I don't want to hurt you." So why did he do something to deliberately hurt me? I still don't get why he kept the bear. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 I hate this f***ing guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 I hate this f***ing guy. I hope someday that I will too. I think he must be really mentally ill. He has depression, but who the heck doesn't open Christmas gifts or cards? Even if you get something from someone you don't like....I think most normal people would still open it. And those were things I gave him when we were still dating....before he met my family...long before he dumped me. I'm so effing confused. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Here's a story for ya! I opened my Christmas gifts from her in her car while she drove me to the airport (on my way to visit family for the holidays). In retrospect, I assume she didn't want me to come inside because I'd see her gifts to her other guys. Anyway, at her suggestion, I left my gifts in her car, since I wasn't going to stuff them into my already full suitcase. Since we broke up right after I returned, I never got them. When I spoke to her last week - she asked me if I wanted them. ??????? Uh...NO. Don't need any reminders. Your ex does sound manipulative and sadistic. I'm glad you're not with him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 9, 2006 Author Share Posted February 9, 2006 When I spoke to her last week - she asked me if I wanted them. ??????? Uh...NO. Don't need any reminders. I don't blame you. Perhaps it was her way of trying to be nice, or assuage her guilt by giving them to you because she knew you knew she still had them. Who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 What was the one thing of sentimental value that you wanted but didn't get back? Was it the bear or a dish? And yes, I know, gang. It's not really about either. But humor me, ok? Link to post Share on other sites
fooled Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Hey, Jen - how about I go get all your stuff back and you can get it from me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 9, 2006 Author Share Posted February 9, 2006 Hey, Jen - how about I go get all your stuff back and you can get it from me? You planning a trip to the windy city? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 9, 2006 Author Share Posted February 9, 2006 What was the one thing of sentimental value that you wanted but didn't get back? Was it the bear or a dish? And yes, I know, gang. It's not really about either. But humor me, ok? I can't really explain it without creating a long story. But he does know that it was important to me, and I think that's why he didn't give it back. Link to post Share on other sites
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