Hurtfrustrated Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 I'm seperated from my wife of 23 years. She's a depressive and suffers from PTSD and other emotional issues. I'll try to be brief, 13 years ago she went into a major depressive episode and was in a out of hospitals over a two year period. Over that time I was being blamed by her for her illness and eventually one time in the hospital she calls me on the phone and tells me our marriage is over. We have two kids at that time they were quite young. We seperated then for a 6 month period but eventually through couselling and ( I think) my filing for divorce) and thing until this past year were fine. Well to make this story short, over the past year our marriage was failling due in part to her illness but also due to stress with one of our NOW teens and college. Well one night in October we we at a party that I really didn;t want to be at and I snuck some of her tranqualizers to calm me down and I also had a few drinks, not many three or four over a 5 hour period. Well later in the evening I asked my wife if we could leave, and she kept telling me in a little while. Well one thing led to another, then I found her with another man kissing I was upset but waited until we left this party.. In the car I blew up at her, I dont; remember anything after that but I apparently dragged her back into the car after she jumped out at the light. I have NEVER touched her that way EVER.. The next day she tells me she wants a trial seperation. Over the past four months I've been trying to fix things but apparently too hard and it seems I have pushed her further away. She called me last week to tell me that she wants the seperation to be somewhat permanent. We will still see each other but not every night and not for long periods. ( we were together 5-6 evenings a week) I'm so upset and can't see past my nose to figure out if it's time I give up on this or simply give her some space and let her illness settle down. Any ideas? BTW to be fair, I have been so insecure about our situation, I seem to try too hard to make things work and when they don't seem to be working the way I wanted them to, I get snarky, and complain that she's not trying hard enough. Now she says that she's no longer going to try at all. Link to post Share on other sites
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