phalinn Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 I ignored her for some time after she dumped me but she insisted we should be friends. I told her i can't be her friend but she really wants to be my friend. Any hidden agenda behind there? Should i be her friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 No, my ex pulled the same crap with me. It's impossible to be friends with someone you still have feelings for. people need time to heal and get over what happened. Remaining friends breeds false hope. F*ck that. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 No, my ex pulled the same crap with me. It's impossible to be friends with someone you still have feelings for. people need time to heal and get over what happened. Remaining friends breeds false hope. F*ck that. F*cking exactly. Do not be her friend. She is just feeling guilty and you don't want her pity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author phalinn Posted February 7, 2006 Author Share Posted February 7, 2006 one of her last text today reads "lets focus on being friends and we'll see how it goes" plus she havent rule out the possibility of getting back together in the future...she just keep insisting not now....so does that mean being friends is my best chance for a second chance? Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 I have to go along with Lonestar. Just keep repeating her words over and over, silently to yourself: 'f-that!' She's right. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Sure. Be friends with her. It's akin to beating yourself with a baseball bat. Both accomplish about the same results. You're battered and brusied and the Ex is laughing all the way to the emotional bank. She gets her ego fed, you get yours destroyed. You can not be friends with someone you're in love with. All it will do is keep you down. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 RE: CaliGuy: " You can not be friends with someone you're in love with. All it will do is keep you down. " E-c-h-o...... from the chisel carving it out in stone. (Solemnly) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
E90Kitz721 Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 I tried that with my ex for 2months. He broke up and wanted to be friends, so we did. And what did it do to me? I'm still stuck at gear one, until yesterday, when I realize he's trying to get best of both worlds and told him I'm out of his life for good. And it liberates me. It still will hurt for a while but I think it's the right thing to do. Definitely do not stay friends. If she really wants you back, she'll come back. But don't put your life on hold hoping for something that may/may not happen. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 RE: Originally Posted by Lonestar:" No, my ex pulled the same crap with me. It's impossible to be friends with someone you still have feelings for. people need time to heal and get over what happened. Remaining friends breeds false hope. F*ck that. " Yamaha:" F*cking exactly. Do not be her friend. She is just feeling guilty and you don't want her pity." Cute video to lighten the mood, on the very versatile 'f' word: http://www.holylemon.com/thefword.html (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
skeptik224 Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Great web address. The f-bomb happens to be my all time favorite word! Link to post Share on other sites
Mariella43 Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 It's because you've ignored her that she's trying to resume contact. The old "let's be friends" is an attempt to suck you back in and keep you in her web. Just keep ignoring her (it'll drive her insane) and picture yourself as Jim Carrey in "Bruce Almighty" walking down the street to the tune of "I've Got Tha Power".......!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author phalinn Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 i told her once i dont want to be her friends and there're more important people in her life than me...but she keeps insisting we be friends and see how things go from there... what if she really wants to work things out but she's too 'ego' to say it? wouldn't be friends the best way for a second chance. maybe if i ignore her for good she might be thinking i really gave up and move on with her life? looks like she's not moving on now...i don't know...i'm still confused... Link to post Share on other sites
datdarkman Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 I fell for that same trick. After keeping NC for over a year, i ran into her (by mistake) and she came at me with this let's be friends bs. And like a fool, I fell for it. Do you know what I got out of being friends with her? Hurt, Pain, Depression, and High Blood Pressure. I didn't have to deal with those things when she was not in my life. So now that I'm not dealing with her (again and for good this damn time), it's peaceful again. And my blood pressure is low. So tell her NO!!! You don't need the drama. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Instead of being friends with the ex, take a baseball bat and beat yourself bloody and bruised. It's about the same thing except you will just have physical instead of emotional pain and trauma. Link to post Share on other sites
BYSI Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 dont do that! Just cut off the contact. She dumped you, if she wants u back, let her initiate it. But for now, dont ever contact her again. It is a BIG FAT NO NO to be her friends. It has been 2mths NC for me, as i can tell you, i recover so much faster than I thought. My life become simpler and easier. I repeat my self : no matter how confuse u are now, NEVER follow her game. Cut off! Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 plus she havent rule out the possibility of getting back together in the future Yes, she has ruled it out, despite what she says. No contact! Link to post Share on other sites
LN8840K Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 " lets just be friends and see what happens " thank you for playing back up boyfriend, tell em what he's won ! for being a contestent on back up boyfriend, here's what you're going to get ! a way to pass hours of your time while getting nothing in return, false hope that most doctors would prescribe medication for, and a feeling that some thing is just not right, but that's not all ! ! ! ! we can't forget that crushing feeling you will get when she informs you, I'm not going to have much time to talk anymore my new boyfriend wants to get serious and I need to respect that by eliminating all my male friends .... but I love you, you have been a great friend Hugs and Kisses giggle giggle ...... I think you should go for it Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Well about 2 weeks ago me and my ex broke up. We talked about wanting to "Stay friends" and we decided not to do the no contact stuff... Well... I think that staying friends is not going to work... We did break up on really good terms but he's break up excuses were lame... So, who knows what will happen but for right now... I made the last contact with him the day after we broke up and now I'm going for NC. It makes me not think about him... Now if they would stop playing his favorite song on my radio station I would be alright! Link to post Share on other sites
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