I found her. Think I lost her. Don't know why.

[NotherGuy]

This is a story of boy meets girl...

 

I took a day off from work last week and decided to spend time in the city with a friend of mine. I had no plans for that night, I just needed a day off to relax.

 

While in tha park late afternoon, a girl walked by that caught my attention. There was something about her that compelled me to want to meet her. I told my friend I'd see him later and went to find her and saw her walking out of the park when I stopped her and managed to say hi and introduce myself. We hit it off and started walking around the park together. I felt really at ease with her, I felt very comfortable just being myself and I could tell she liked being around me. For background, I'm 29, she's 23. We ended up spending the rest of the day/night together going around the city, enjoying each other's company. At one point we were on a bench at the river while the sun was setting and I thought she might have wanted me to kiss her there. I won't get into the details, I just felt it, but I didn't follow through with my intuition. She was taking a lot of pictures of me the whole day - promised to mail me copies, etc.

 

There were a lot of coincidences involved in aspects of the things about us and our interests. I never believed in the term "chemistry" between two people, but this day and this girl changed my mind. She seemed to grow very comfortable with me, I felt very calm and peaceful around her, and I guess we just "clicked". However, she lives about 500 miles away with her dad and the day we met was the last full day of a short trip she made to the area to visit a friend. At the end of the night, it was late and the buses weren't running in her friend's town so I offered to drive her back. We called her friend & got directions. On the way there, we realized the directions were wrong and ended up at my place to to get better directions online (instead of bothering her friend really late at night - it was past midnight already). I showed her around the house, we ended up in my bedroom, I showed her some of my artwork (I'm an artist) and while on my bed we started kissing - eventually passionately. The physical stuff started to progress a bit further than kissing and then she resisted a little. I could have probably continued but for some reason I didn't - I guess I thought it might be more important to slow myself down rather than have her return from her trip thinking it was a meaningless one night stand. I really did want her to stay, she even seemed to want to stay a little while longer, but I was tired and wasn't thinking straight and didn't want to make a mistake that might hurt her. So we got directions to her friend's place and I drove her there shortly after that. I pulled into the driveway and she told me the next time she's on a trip here, she definitely wants to see me. When I asked her when she thinks that might be she said "I'm not sure... it's a long trip for me." We kissed in the car again a couple times before she got out. When she got out, I don't know how to describe it but she had a bit of a confused look on her face, maybe she was just tired, but she also didn't look back at the car and then I drove off.

 

I couldn't help thinking about her all the next day at work. I e-mailed her when I got home to find out if she got home OK from her trip and to tell her that I really did want her to stay that night but didn't want her to see that in the wrong context, which is why I held back. I also gushed in that short e-mail just a bit by telling her I thought she was great & beautiful, etc. I couldn't help it, I really did want her to know that I was thinking about her.

 

She didn't reply to that and so I sent her another short e-mail a couple days later, wishing her a happy birthday, that I hoped to hear from her soon.

 

No response to that either. A few days later (yesterday), I left a phone message for her asking to see if she got back home from her trip OK and that I hoped to hear from her.

 

No call back yet. It's been a week since we met and I can't help thinking about her and that day and wondering why I haven't heard back from her. For the life of me, I can't figure out what I might have done wrong that day, if anything. She clearly liked me and things seemed to be progressing positively. It was all unexpected for me, just as it probably was for her, but it felt so right that I am so confused now as to what to do.

 

I really need a woman's perspective on this. It's killing me to know what's going on, what part of the puzzle I'm missing.

[Artlover]

I hate to break this to you, but she might have a boyfriend. Even if she didn't mention it. Sometimes people do weird things when they're far from home. Things they would never do normally. Or, perhaps she's not into long distance relationships. Maybe she was hurt before in a similar situation. Who knows?

 

I'm really sorry this has happened to you. I could feel the sincerity of your feelings through your post and it sucks when things like that happen. I've experienced similar romantic encounters in the past and sometimes that's really all they are, a brief encounter.

 

I wouldn't call or e-mail her anymore. She knows you want to speak to her and she knows how to get in touch with you. You can never guess what exactly is going on in another person's life. She could be in a relationship that's serious, but in trouble and she wants to figure that out for now. Or maybe she sensed your feelings and she got a bit scared. Either way, just give her space and if it's meant to be, she'll get in touch.

 

Otherwise, try to hold on to the nice memories, don't let yourself get bitter and save some of those nice feelings for a girl you can have, in the future.

This is a story of boy meets girl... I took a day off from work last week and decided to spend time in the city with a friend of mine. I had no plans for that night, I just needed a day off to relax. While in tha park late afternoon, a girl walked by that caught my attention. There was something about her that compelled me to want to meet her. I told my friend I'd see him later and went to find her and saw her walking out of the park when I stopped her and managed to say hi and introduce myself. We hit it off and started walking around the park together. I felt really at ease with her, I felt very comfortable just being myself and I could tell she liked being around me. For background, I'm 29, she's 23. We ended up spending the rest of the day/night together going around the city, enjoying each other's company. At one point we were on a bench at the river while the sun was setting and I thought she might have wanted me to kiss her there. I won't get into the details, I just felt it, but I didn't follow through with my intuition. She was taking a lot of pictures of me the whole day - promised to mail me copies, etc. There were a lot of coincidences involved in aspects of the things about us and our interests. I never believed in the term "chemistry" between two people, but this day and this girl changed my mind. She seemed to grow very comfortable with me, I felt very calm and peaceful around her, and I guess we just "clicked". However, she lives about 500 miles away with her dad and the day we met was the last full day of a short trip she made to the area to visit a friend. At the end of the night, it was late and the buses weren't running in her friend's town so I offered to drive her back. We called her friend & got directions. On the way there, we realized the directions were wrong and ended up at my place to to get better directions online (instead of bothering her friend really late at night - it was past midnight already). I showed her around the house, we ended up in my bedroom, I showed her some of my artwork (I'm an artist) and while on my bed we started kissing - eventually passionately. The physical stuff started to progress a bit further than kissing and then she resisted a little. I could have probably continued but for some reason I didn't - I guess I thought it might be more important to slow myself down rather than have her return from her trip thinking it was a meaningless one night stand. I really did want her to stay, she even seemed to want to stay a little while longer, but I was tired and wasn't thinking straight and didn't want to make a mistake that might hurt her. So we got directions to her friend's place and I drove her there shortly after that. I pulled into the driveway and she told me the next time she's on a trip here, she definitely wants to see me. When I asked her when she thinks that might be she said "I'm not sure... it's a long trip for me." We kissed in the car again a couple times before she got out. When she got out, I don't know how to describe it but she had a bit of a confused look on her face, maybe she was just tired, but she also didn't look back at the car and then I drove off. I couldn't help thinking about her all the next day at work. I e-mailed her when I got home to find out if she got home OK from her trip and to tell her that I really did want her to stay that night but didn't want her to see that in the wrong context, which is why I held back. I also gushed in that short e-mail just a bit by telling her I thought she was great & beautiful, etc. I couldn't help it, I really did want her to know that I was thinking about her. She didn't reply to that and so I sent her another short e-mail a couple days later, wishing her a happy birthday, that I hoped to hear from her soon. No response to that either. A few days later (yesterday), I left a phone message for her asking to see if she got back home from her trip OK and that I hoped to hear from her. No call back yet. It's been a week since we met and I can't help thinking about her and that day and wondering why I haven't heard back from her. For the life of me, I can't figure out what I might have done wrong that day, if anything. She clearly liked me and things seemed to be progressing positively. It was all unexpected for me, just as it probably was for her, but it felt so right that I am so confused now as to what to do. I really need a woman's perspective on this. It's killing me to know what's going on, what part of the puzzle I'm missing.