Angeleyez2583 Posted February 6, 2006 Share Posted February 6, 2006 So I've been friends with my ex (we broke up almost a year ago) He's with a new girl, and they've been dating for 5 months. He called me up the other day stating how his new gf is extremely jealous and b!tchy.. and he stated that she makes me look like an angel... he told me he is not happy with her, and that he wants to break up with her( we talked twice on the phone last week about her) He also stated our relationship was really good and that the only problem involved alcohol. Everytime we drank we fought, but otherwise the relationship was really good. I don't know what to think about this... why would my ex complain about his new gf to me.. we dated for 2 1/2 years, and the problems only started occuring 5 months before we broke up (the drunk fights).. it's like he's starting to see the good in our past relationship.. So why would an ex call up an ex and complain about his new gf, while talking good about the past relationship??? Advice would be amazing right now :-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Unless he says "I want you back" don't make any assumptions. Just go with the flow and don't have any expectations. Personally, if my ex dumped me I darn sure wouldn't be a shoulder for her to cry on, especially how she treated me. My advice if he does want to start again is to cut down on the drinking. Link to post Share on other sites
Just Visiting Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 I would be pretty pissed if my ex did this to me. Who does he think he is? I hope you value yourself more than this. If you truly want to reconcile, then he has to work for it. Make sure his actions follow his words, and tread lightly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted February 9, 2006 Author Share Posted February 9, 2006 he's not a bad guy... we broke up about a year ago due to a drunk fight, started hanging out again in august.. and it always seemed like the feelings were still there... it's a complicated story.. but he's called me 4 times in the last week... always so friendly in that way... but he's def not happy with this new girl.. and then he brings up our relationship and how much it was better than the current one he is in now.. I know it's messed up of him, but at the same time it's bringing back old feelings and giving me useless hope... he even implied how he wanted to hang out tomorrow and come out for my bday sat night.. but... *the controlling b!tch would flip out on him and won't leave his side" as he stated... Link to post Share on other sites
Just Visiting Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I am sure he is not a bad guy overall, but look what he is saying about his gf. Doesn't that concern you? It just shows his total lack of respect for his relationships. Use your head woman, this guy is looking for a backup plan. Link to post Share on other sites
skeptik224 Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I would think that he's starting to reflect on the relationship he had with you because this current one is not working. My guess is that he's mentioning things to you to get a feel for where your at. He's checking to see if you're still into him. You need to play it cool, though. I agree with Just Visiting in that he shouldn't be talking about his girlfriend like that. (or anyone for that matter even if it's true) However, I think he's letting you know that he's not happy. I highly recommend not doing anything until he's out of this relationship. You don't want to be the "excuse" for him to get out. Relax, enjoy his company if you want to, but be smart. If he does say he wants you back, talk about it with him - but make sure he says it to you. Don't assume just because he's venting to you that he wants you. For any second chance to work, you have to deal with the issues that broke you up in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 I'm gonna throw out another possibility. First, I'm making an educated guess that he was the dumper, and you were the dumpee. He is striking out with his new gf. But, he doesn't want to be alone. He needs someone while he looks for a new girlfriend. And, he's feeling out whether YOU are willing to be that someone. Unless you're happy being the second prize, you might want to just cut contact. Link to post Share on other sites
melica Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 I was married for 20 years and went through a separation 10 years into it. We got back together for another 10 (no regrets, got the kids raised well together). I sometimes think my newest relationship makes him look like an angel. . . but I know better. If he were to call me, it would be out of comfort. Not love. You have a gut instinct, go with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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