tinkershells Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Me and Matt haven't had a break since we first met. We met in Aug of 2004, and it was awesome and both of us had never felt the way we felt before. At the end of October, I had to leave for six months for an overseas deployment with my job (navy). We kept in touch with each other for the entire 6 months thru email and phone calls. We grew even more crazy about each other. We both could not wait for My return in March of 2005, but in February, I got news that I would be leaving Virginia and transferring to Colorado in early May. Me and Matt were crushed. I got back to the states the first week of april, and we spent two weeks together before i left for colorado. We both wanted to just forget and move on, but we couldnt, and we stayed in touch, talking to each other for hours on the phone everyday. Matt soon made plans on moving to colorado after he got out of the navy, and he finally got here in Oct of 04. It was kind of hard adjusting to living with each other, but we had so much fun. A month later, the day after thanksgiving, we went skiing and I suffered a horrible accident and broke my leg and tore my knee, my surgeon sentenced me to 3 months of no walking, and taking it easy. Since this happened, Matt has had to do literally everything for me. Housework, food preparation, assist me in showering and getting dressed. He has so much resentment for me now. And I do for him also. All we do is fight, and now, three weeks before I can walk and we can go out and have fun again, he tells me, he has found an apartment, and is moving out. I know that if he just waits until I can walk again, things will be back to normal, but he won't listen. He told me tonight that he isnt in love with me anymore, but that he still loves me, and will still come and take care of me until i get better. I don't understand. What should I do? and what does this all mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 My heart really goes out to you guys. I don't know, but having such a trying situation like the one you had puts the relationship to the test. I've gone through that development where the other person moves out as well and the distance appart brought us back together. Try to be as pleasant with him as possible and he might start seeing you the way you used to be to him. In the mean time, get your leg strong and have a social life. Make yourself happy and he will see the person he fell in love with once again. He may not come back, but at least he will remember. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 RE: Tinkershells: " I don't understand. What should I do? and what does this all mean? " It means someone should take his sorry a*s out behind the barn and beat the living sh*t out of him until he begs for forgiveness for being such a sorry, low-down bastard! Who, but a yellow cur, -would walk out on someone they profess to love when they need them most? Can you tell I'm a little angry on your behalf about this? Give him his walking papers! -Rio P.S. Any chance he's going skiing anytime soon? (Probably shouldn't tell you what just went through my mind, nor what the little smile at the corners of my mouth are all about, right now, but it was, actually, pretty damn entertaining. Also, hope the next time on the ski slopes finds you with a hunk of a guy with a huge heart (and everything else to match it), who can 'nurse you back to health' without you ever having to actually be in need of it.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkershells Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 well thanks rio bikini, you did make me smile, and i couldnt agree with you more. Link to post Share on other sites
descartes Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Now that just sucks. This is a good reminder that distance makes the heart grow fonder and close proximity 24/7 will make you feel inclined to rip somebody's balls off! I am caring for two incapacitated people right now, the sitch is hard on everybody involved. I agree with the above reply, it's no good for your man to just up and leave because he feels burdened or whatever. But if you find you still love him, perhaps living apart will allow you two to reconnect. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 (Smile) You are more than welcome, TS. Anytime. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Hey tinkershells, Lots of fun people to hang out with in Colorado. I wish I was still there myself. My friend collided with some trees backcountry skiing a while back and she had to do something else for a while during her healing. You can at least hang around here for amusement. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkershells Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 true. the only prob is that this knee thing took an active person and made them sedentary and made them gain 20 lbs and a ton of disgusting stretch marks. so me and matt were planning on working out together as soon as i got better. and now i have no motivation and no guy is gonna want me looking the way i do right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 true. the only prob is that this knee thing took an active person and made them sedentary and made them gain 20 lbs and a ton of disgusting stretch marks. so me and matt were planning on working out together as soon as i got better. and now i have no motivation and no guy is gonna want me looking the way i do right now. 20 lbs? Is that all? Pfffft. Besides, how can you have a ton of stretch marks and still have only gained 20 lbs? By my math you would have gained 2224.6 lbs., that is if we are talking about metric tons. And I know that is you in your avatar, so no claiming that you are homely. Just start getting whatever exercise you can handle and eat sensibley. And drink shots over beers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkershells Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 stretch marks from losing all the muscle in my left leg. no one wants a fat beautiful girl. all men want a skinny ok to moderately ugly-looking girl. Link to post Share on other sites
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