Super89Rex Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Hey all hows it going. Well I have managed to get another date with a girl I’ve been seeing for a few weeks now; this will be our secondofficial date. I am extremely nervous; I really want to go in for a kiss tonight but don’t know how to go about doing it. I think that doing this is definitely the way to let her know that I am really interested in her (I don’t want to end up in the friend zone, argh) But I think things are going well between us, Sunday night we talked on the phone for about an hour; she had wanted to meet up Saturday night when she went out with her friends but I declined saying I had plans with some buddies, it seemed to work out in my advantage as it seems to have sparked her interest. I am going to pick her up at 6 after work tonight, take her out to eat somewhere; but I wasn’t quite sure where after.. I want to go somewhere where the opportunity will arise to make my move, I was thinking maybe we can drive down to the river and go for a walk, hangout in the car, listen to some music or something. We also are going to rent a movie, so maybe afterwards go back to her place to watch it. I just need advice on how I should go about this “first” kiss thing, once I know she likes me back (kissing me back is the ultimate indicator of this) then I am good to go, its just this first contact that makes me nervous.. I was thinking of maybe putting my arm around her back while we are walking, or touch her hands over the table to help break the initial physical contact barrier. Advice please! Thanks in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Super89Rex Posted February 7, 2006 Author Share Posted February 7, 2006 Any ideas guys? I need some valuable responses/advice before 5! Thanks guys, any input would be appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Well if the weather permits, I love the idea of a walk by the river (any view of the water is the perfect setting for me). What's also good about the walk is that it kinda alleviates the pressure a bit. I know you want to kiss her and she's probably looking forward to it too. But staying at her house for a movie or even in the car just listening to music might be too obvious. Just my opinion but one of either of those settings are so confined it cld create an overly tense atmosphere for what should be relaxed and easy. A fresh air + a nice view can put anyone at ease and when the timing's right you can always stop along the rails for the big smooch! And if you're lucky she might invite you back to her house anyway so it's def. a good start. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Two approaches: 1) Nonverbal: make sure that you're either standing facing each other, or sitting beside each other facing. To determine her receptiveness, use one of your hands to "brush the hair out of her face" even if there isn't any in her face. Watch her facial reaction when you do this. If she closes her eyes, or opens her mouth a bit (or a bit more), that's a pretty clear sign. Then just lean in. Don't try to remove her tonsils right away -- just touch your lips to hers. Pull away slightly, then do the same thing again. If she's into it, you'll know very quickly. 2) Verbal: announce your intention to kiss her, without phrasing it to suggest that you're asking if you can. Two I've used successfully in the past: "I'm having a hard time keeping from kissing you right now" and "Try not to panic, but I'm about to kiss you." Not to put too much pressure on you, but definitely go for the kiss tonight. You don't want to wind up as "just friends". My personal rule of thumb is, if there isn't a proper kiss by the end of the second date, forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 I was thinking of maybe putting my arm around her back while we are walking, or touch her hands over the table to help break the initial physical contact barrier. Unless she has super high interest in you, these are ill-advised ideas. This early in the game, you should keep your hands to yourself! Let her initiate the touching. The hands over the table thing is going to be extremely awkward to her. There's nothing to be nervous about here. The kiss should be executed at the end of the date, as you're walking her to her door. Just square up to her, say goodnight, lean over and plant one right on her lips. Incidently, I would highly recommend stopping these one-hour phone conversations. Save the chit-chat for the date. You have to be a challenge. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Let us know how it went! Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80689/ Hope it's not too late but for anyone else who's reading, check out my thread and let it be a lesson on how not to work the dynamic. Do not get preoccupied with when to kiss her. The most important thing is to focus on the date itself - have a good time. If you do that, everything else just kind of falls into place. The easiest time to kiss a girl is when you're walking her back to her car or to her door (like a gentleman) and you give her a nice good-night kiss. If you feel the opportunity is there then go for it but be careful about staging events like this - women can sense when they're being set up for a smoochie session. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Super89Rex Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 (if you have read my new thread) AND... I guess its a little too late now! MAN!! I hope I didnt screw this up big time, there has to be something I can do to rectify my stupid puny attempts to make contact, I wish you guys would have responded sooner! HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
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