ddh33 Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 OK this might sound familiar or childish to some of you but I'll say it anyway. There is this girl that I like in my honors economics class (20-something people. which only academically "excellent" students can take). We are both freshmen in college and don't know each other. In the past 5 classes (2 classes a week), she kinda turned around her head (I was sitting behind her on her left, about 7 feet away) to look at me (not entirely "looking" straight at me of course) for a few seconds or quickly glance at me when I wasn't looking her way. It was really obvious. Somtimes when I looked her way I saw her head turn...She looked at me once the first class (that was the first time I ever noticed), and 3-7 times in the other classes. The only class she didn't do it was when we were taking a test for 2/3 of class time. A class is 100 minutes long. I'm pretty sure it's not my wrong perception because when I first noticed that, I wasn't paying any attention to her yet. She couldn't be looking at others either because there's nobody in that direction. Her good friend (girl) is sitting on her left but she doesn't have to turn around to look at her...Oh and she often turns her desk to the left a little (to look at me more easily??) I'm almost sure she's looking at me. What should I do? I want to talk to her after class, but I'm afraid I'm wrong somehow or she just looks at me because I look weird (which I don't see why) or she's just bored. That would be embarrassing. I have her email because the professor sends emails to everyone and I see their address. Could I send her an email? What do you guys think? More info below...thanks! A month ago, on the first day of class she was sitting next to me. We talked for a minute during class activity about class stuff (nothing special). We didn't introduce ourselves. Then the professor passed out handouts to the class. I got the last one...there wasn't enough. The professor already started talking. I thought I would feel kinda embarrassed if she didn't have one and I had one, so I decided to give mine to her. She hesitated and said "it's okay" at first, but I said the same thing and didn't pull back my hand. She finally accepted it and said thank you. She said thank you again after class, without looking at me. Then I asked her a question about class, and that's the only time I've talked to her. After that she never sat next to me. (She came in late that time. She usually sits with her friend.) I don't think she's shy from her talking in class (like 2 times) and around her friend. There's also once I saw her talking to a guy. But she could be shy around guys or guys she likes...I really don't know. She could be. Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 i would just try to start up conversation after a class with her...and see where it goes from there i mean even if she doesnt like you, its not gonna be weird if you talk to her about class stuff... anyways if shes looking at you a lot then yes there might be an attraction there, but who knows with women? i would just go for it and at least try... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddh33 Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 Yeah I know I need to talk to her and get to know her...probably after class. The problem is, her friend is always sticking to her...I already get a little uneasy talking to girls I like. I'd get more so with her friend around. And I really don't know what to say first and then next either. I think I need a chance to be with her alone, like at the library or something. In that setting I'd feel comfortable introducing myself, then blah blah. But can I get a chance like that? Or do I need to do something to make it happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 well since you're a shy kid and all when there is a crowd this is gonna be a tough one. what i would do is simply wait till after class, approach her and her friend and ask her for a contact number for help with the classes you have with her. just make it brief too as to not make the situation awkward. say like "hey *her name* listen i sort of am having trouble with *the class you're both taking* and was wondering if you could help me out? I cant talk right now cause i got another (class, appointment, something!) but is there some way i can contact you?" or if you're shy about asking for her contact info, simply leave yours for her to reach you with. I would just leave an email address, then when she replies, just respond by asking her for her screenname or phone number to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I would suggest you play dumb on a question and get her to give you the answer . Then while she is explaining the answer just say " I think you have pretty eyes " If she is shy or not interested you are not going to get much of a response. But if she likes you and has been waiting for you to notice her then she will enjoy your attention and you might see her eyes sparkle a lil bit Do something if you like her. Find out in a casual way if she likes you back. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddh33 Posted February 10, 2006 Author Share Posted February 10, 2006 That's a good idea. I'll see if I'll have one of those chances to play dumb. Link to post Share on other sites
MatchstickFear Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 The problem is, her friend is always sticking to her.. Like Harry Potter said (4th or 5th book).... "Why do they always have to walk around in packs?"... or something like that. haha Maybe try talking to the both of them after class sometime. If she does like you, and she's told her friend about it, then it's very possible the friend could back away and leave you two alone. And if the friend doesn't leave - it doesn't hurt to get to know the both of them! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ddh33 Posted February 16, 2006 Author Share Posted February 16, 2006 Like Harry Potter said (4th or 5th book).... "Why do they always have to walk around in packs?"... or something like that. haha Maybe try talking to the both of them after class sometime. If she does like you, and she's told her friend about it, then it's very possible the friend could back away and leave you two alone. And if the friend doesn't leave - it doesn't hurt to get to know the both of them! Thanks for the input. But I feel really uncomfortable about approaching her after class. I just suck at starting up conversations with strangers. The more into the term the more uncomfortable I feel...She still gives me glances sometimes though but I'm inclined to think they might be my illusions. Link to post Share on other sites
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