Citizen Erased Posted February 7, 2006 Share Posted February 7, 2006 Well, last night I found out my Dad, his new wife and my brother are moving to another state.... my GRANDMOTHER told me! She just said something in passing conversation because she assumed I already knew! She has known for like 2 weeks and so has everyone else (even my mother and they can barely even speak to each other!) I mean, this is just a load of cr@p! He has the ****s cos im moving in with my boyfriend, he thinks i am too young, but he is moving to another STATE with my brother! I mean, my bro is annoying but I will still miss him (over my dead body will he live with my mother and her absusive boyfriend). I still can't get over the fact that he has neglected to tell me, his own daughter, that he's going to another state! I wouldnt be so pissed if he had of told just a couple of people, but he told my elder sister and my aunt, everyone pretty much but not me! I am sorry that I am just complaining but this has really upset me... I just feel so left out of my own family! I am always the last to know but this has really hit me hard. Link to post Share on other sites
neek Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Ugh! That is awful! I'm sorry sweetie. I wish there was something to say to make it better but I would be just as pissed as you are if I were in your situation! That is a rotten thing to do to you. Have you confronted him about it? Do they know you know yet? Geez, I'm sorry darlin. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Citizen Erased Posted February 8, 2006 Author Share Posted February 8, 2006 I haven't confronted him yet cos I havent seen him since last night when I found out, but what can I say to him? This is the same as when he was getting married, he told everyone like a month before me and then I found out from my sister! I am so sick of being left out and this is just the last straw! I am still so annoyed and I dont know what to think because it just seems to me that I am simply not that important to my family to even let me in the 'loop' about things like this. God, this feels like Primary School again! Link to post Share on other sites
neek Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Are you close with your family in any way or do you pretty much keep separate lives? Does he know you want to be included in this knowledge? (I should hope it would be common sense to him!) I'm just trying to figure out why he'd keep it from you. Link to post Share on other sites
JayKay Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 Sorry to hear this Coco. Obviously, the communication between you and your dad broke down way before the move was planned. I would confront him, non-aggressively, and ask, "Why was I the last to find out my family members are moving out of state?" Try not to sound angry, or you will immediately put him on the defensive. Just say, "I am honestly curious as to why I was left out of the loop" Hear him out. Perhaps he is very hurt and angry about something and it has been festering. I am not excusing the behavior, but it's very odd that he hasn't talked to you about this. Is this his usual type of behavior? If not, something happened to cause it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Citizen Erased Posted February 9, 2006 Author Share Posted February 9, 2006 I have never really been close to my family, I for the main kept to myself because they spent half the time bickering and I wanted none of it. That was when I was a child though... I chose to live with my mum when my parents were divorced but so did my sister and he has told her??? She lives with her boyfriend and I am about to move in with mine and I would understand if he was upset about me moving in with a guy but he is fine with my sister and she is only a year older than me. Because I was quite around my family, they always just saw me as 'stupid "coco" always off with her head in a book' blah blah. I used to read, write and paint alot when I was younger, I prefered my own company but I was always treated like I was stupid when in fact I will achieve the most in my life then the rest of them. I am the only one to finish school and to have done really well and I think it is due to the fact that I was quite when I was young and I was always more interested in learning. I wasnt a nerd, far from it in fact, but I did enjoy study. I have alot of respect for my dad as a person but he still treats me like I am that stupid mousy girl with her head in the clouds. Little did they know I was paying full attention, I just found it better to sit in the background and observe. This is just another time that I have been left in the dark about decisions and yet everything which I do is now closely monitored. Its almost as if they are just willing me to stuff up! Link to post Share on other sites
Angel Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 You should tell him exactly what you said here. Tell him you are hurt and want to be included in family matters. Sorry you have to be going thru this. Link to post Share on other sites
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