The guy Posted February 8, 2006 Share Posted February 8, 2006 I want to get to know this girl in my college math class. She is shy towards people she doesnt know, but when she does speak, she is very joyful. She arrives either on time, or late to class( talking to her during lecture is not an option). She has a class after, so she leaves in a hurry. i have said hello to her about twice, and let her copy my notes once. I have known her for about two weeks. We have not had a real conversation. I want to get on the "friend" level with her. I just want to know someone I can hang out with and do things with. the only form of communication I have with her is an online portfolio that she updates, where I have sent her about 3 messages (mostly about class). From what I have noticed, she is an active person, and I want to invite her to play for example basketball/ or do homework. I do not know when a good time to ask her is, and I dont think we are on the friendship level yet. I just need some advice on how to talk to her when she isnt busy. I do not want to overwhelm her, but I do want to be her friend. It has been difficult thus far. Any suggestions would help a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Do you really want to be her friend or something more ? If you like her then try to pass her a note and ask her a question about class. Then when she is answering you , you could ask her if she would like to go out and get a burger later that nite . Ask her anything just to let her know you would like to see her outside of class. Link to post Share on other sites
The guy Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I really want to be her friend. If our friendship turns into something more, that would be awesome. Would asking her out blunt like that be too impulsive? I recieved a message fromher yestaurday saying "thank you so much for the notes. ttyl. :)" . I want to get to know her for who she is. I have experienced that people open up easier to friends. I have known her for about two weeks. I was 10 lbs overweight, and I started working out so appearance wouldnt be an issue, and Im down 7 lbs. Would a note during class be too "immature"? I want her to have a good impression of me. Would asking her to study this weekend be a bad idea? Link to post Share on other sites
aaespino Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 I really want to be her friend. If our friendship turns into something more, that would be awesome. Would asking her out blunt like that be too impulsive? I recieved a message fromher yestaurday saying "thank you so much for the notes. ttyl. :)" . I want to get to know her for who she is. I have experienced that people open up easier to friends. I have known her for about two weeks. I was 10 lbs overweight, and I started working out so appearance wouldnt be an issue, and Im down 7 lbs. Would a note during class be too "immature"? I want her to have a good impression of me. Would asking her to study this weekend be a bad idea? Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 LOL, dude - You want to be her friend? and maybe more.. .BE A MAN, You want to date her. Admit it. Read the signs, and if they're positive get some contact info instead some lame online deal. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatOneGuy Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 Looks like we have a level 5 insecurity case! (Word of advice: Never act insecure around a female, they can sniff it out, and they HATE it) Anyway, I say if you have a cell, trade numbers with her and try to have a study session with her when a test is swiftly approaching. Then, after working/socializing, take her out for a quick bite to eat and then let that be that. Next class day, say you had fun and would like to do it again sometime. And then POOF! Your in. Good luck buddy, im pulling for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 I am not saying I dont want to date her. I do. I want to get to know her, and then get into a more complex relationship. I met her a few days ago, I dont know if she will think Im wierd if I ask her for her contact info. Does anyone have any input on this? Considering I havent really had a real conversation with this girl? I can barley pronounce her name. Link to post Share on other sites
aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 She is definately not giving me any sort of attention/ aknowledgement. I talk to her, but she just short answers me. What does thsi mean? I feel as though I have to do something extraordinary for to take note of me.Am I wasteing my time? Why are girls so difficult? is it me? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Can you be more specific ? Like when you ask her things does it go something like this : Hey Judy ( insert her name ) What did you think of ________ ? If she barely acknowleges you and seems bothered or has vague answers or does not seem interested in persuing a conversation then she is either very shy or not interested. ( Or if you have not gotten to even the conversation and introduction phase ? ) There is only ONE way to find out if she is interested and if shes NOT, you can move on. Say something like : " Hey I was wondering if you would like to go have burger at the DQ after school ? ( Or pick the place to go eat, lol ) If she looks at you like you have *Rabies* or something then its a NO. If she smiles and stammers and looks at the floor and turns red then she likes you and hopefully you will get a " Sure * The big question is : How does she act around other students ? Shy around girls ? Shy around guys ? Or just shy around you ? Or just basically ignoring you all together because she is just not into you ? Link to post Share on other sites
Shark Skin Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 You havn't known her very long, so my opinion would be to keep up the small talk and eventually you will begin to pick up little things about her, her likes and dislikes etc.. At some point a moment will happen when you will have your opportunity, just be patient. Link to post Share on other sites
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