girl courting the guy?

[hanksandbubbles]

Hey everyone,

 

I've recently taken a fancy to my friend's really good guy friend. My friend knows about this and is being helpful as she has giving me his msn, and we "randomly" runn into him around campus, etc. However, this guy has never had a girlfriend and has a major wall around himself when it comes to meeting new people. He and I talk when my friend is with us, and even when we are left alone for a few minutes. However, he is obviously more comfortable with my friend than me...which makes me feel shunned sometimes (the evilness of threesomes). This guy does not appear to be very 'touchy', which makes me doubt myself when it comes to gently patting his arm, etc. I do not want to be super flirty with him, as I fear that could frighten him away. My question is: how do you approach people with walls up? He's chatty, but he seems like a difficult person to get to know.

Dang it! I seem to choose the right guys, don't I??

 

Thanks! and hopefully this makes any sort of sense

-hb

[SuperMonk]

Gonna save you some time. Forget him. He's not into you. I know when I'm not into the girl or I'll make the least amount of effort compared to a girl I'm interested in.

[aaespino]

I beg to differ. Some guys are just quiet. I am one of those guys. I say just "randomly" bump into him on your own. Ask him questions. Get to know him. Give him signs that you are into him, or even tell him straight out after a few conversations. If he doesnt get it, or just isnt into you, he will tell you. Quiet guys can be wierd sometimes.

[Mydish1]

i used to be that quiet/closed off type of guy.

 

in the beginning it can be hard to break into their space. But when you do its worth it. However with types like him it's hard to tell if he's interested. Compared to regular guys it may take longer than usual with him, but i would say give it a shot.