what do you think.

[Guest]

Hi there, hope you can help

>

> .How to find out if girlfriend is cheating without upsetting her??I

worried

> about my girlfriend. I recnetly found out that she has been chatting to

lots

> of men online and always refers to as a flatmate when in fact we are a

> couple who live together. Also she get text messages from the same people

> all the time and even late at night. This really worries me and i think

she

> might be cheating. I have tried talking to her but i can't do it directly

> because it could upset her. I know the evidence could be harmless and

> nothing to worry about but recently a guy posted a note on her site saying

> to meet at a club. She went and didn't come home. She said she stayed at

her

> mates. Since then she has been really lovey dovey with me and saying how

she

> loves me? Strange but this has worried me more.

>

i worried cause i think iknow the truth really. any ideas on what i can do.

 

Thanks in advance for any help.

[JadeStar]

I think you already have some proof that something is up. You said you know she chats online with other men. You know she receives text messages from them all the time. You have several options here, you can come out and ask her the deal with chatting online and the texts, (which shes probably gonna put off the fact she chats with these men and say, they are just "friends",) She may even do the same with the text messages. However, what shes doing is really taking away from your relationship. Or you could sit back and do nothing, and see what else develops but I would advise against that, becasue theres already obviously something going on. Or next time you know she is supossed to meet someone, then you show up where she is, and confront her there. Reguardless of what she says, it has to be up to you, if you feel you want to continue in a relationship where theres no trust.

 

 

 

 

 

Jade

[Bryanp]

How do you think your girlfriend would react if you were continuing to chat online with a lot of different women? How do you think your girlfriend would react if she saw one of the women tell you to meet her at a club in the evening and you go and never came home that night saying you stayed at a friend's house? You are being played by her and she is making you look like a total fool. She is totally disrespecting you and your relationship. If the roles were reversed, she would never be putting up with such crap from you. Why do you allow her to disrespect and humiliate you this way? If you do not respect yourself then who will?