aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 Im a shy guy. I'm not going to lie, my confidence level is low. Would it be a good idea totalk to a girl while I'm buzzed? It seems as though this is the only time I can talk to girls. Does anyone have any input. I mean buzzed, and not DRUNK. Link to post Share on other sites
carys Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 not at all it depends, if youre after a walking pu**y who you merely want for sex then talking to her like that would be a good idea, ie you dont have to know her /like her that much but if you want to meet a person, who will respect you and who you will want to respect as well, theres no point in doing it when youre going to be too out of your head to even pronounce your own name show her what she'd be getting if she did get to know you, ie be yourself Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Author Share Posted February 10, 2006 I clearly said ABUZZED, and not PISS DRUNK. When you are buzzed, you are still some what rational, but buzzed, you cant remember anything. Well, Just recently, She is definately not giving me any sort of attention/ aknowledgement. I talk to her, but she just short answers me. What does thsi mean? I feel as though I have to do something extraordinary for to take note of me.Am I wasteing my time? Why are girls so difficult? is it me? aaespino is invisible Add to aaespino's Reputation Report Bad Post Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 You have gone from girls in general to a specific gal you want to talk to. Is your problem with this one gal or do you have trouble talking to all girls? Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Author Share Posted February 10, 2006 Yeah, its one particular gal. she rocks my world and doesnt know it Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 I would strongly advise against relying on a substance to relax you when you need to chat up a chick. You'll never develop the proper skills to do this sober if you do that. Says the girl in AA. Link to post Share on other sites
Admiral Thrawn Posted February 10, 2006 Share Posted February 10, 2006 Yeah, its one particular gal. she rocks my world and doesnt know it You are setting yourself up to fail if you are just going to be infatuated with oen girl. Put things in perspective. There are plenty of girls out there who are like her. What she says or reacts to you wont matter because there will always be someone else. There is nothing catastrophic that will happen if this doesn't work out. So, be yourself, and do whatever you must to communicate a message that you are interested in her romantically and see how that goes. For example, you can say something as simple as you have admired her from afar and would like to get to know her better and see if there is any common ground or interests, and suggest to go out for coffee to explore that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaespino Posted February 10, 2006 Author Share Posted February 10, 2006 I do not do this alll the time. It is just to speak to this nice girl from a math class. Link to post Share on other sites
Admiral Thrawn Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 I do not do this alll the time. It is just to speak to this nice girl from a math class. There is no real right way or wrong way to do it. What is important right now is that you realise that nothing catastrophic will happen either way this goes. You are not going to die, get injured, or something like bad happening here, you are not charged with a crime that could end in the death-penalty, if it doesn't work out or go right - so just go up and talk to her and dont worry about it. If you do nothing, then nothing is going to happen, right? If you do someting, nothing may still happen, but there is also a chance something may happen, and you really connect with her. So, do something, and do it as soon as possible. Do not proscrastinate, there is no perfect time to do this, just go up and do it whenever you are able to go up to her and talk. Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 Im a shy guy. I'm not going to lie, my confidence level is low. Would it be a good idea totalk to a girl while I'm buzzed? It seems as though this is the only time I can talk to girls. Does anyone have any input. I mean buzzed, and not DRUNK. What you've got to remember is it's one thing talking to a girl while your under the influence of drinking and and another thing jut being this talkative confident person. What are you gonna do if she calls the next day and wants to see you and you're feeling sober and all your inhibitions are back? Using alcohol for confidence is a problem, alcohol takes away your inhibitions but it does not make you confident. You can't grow in confidence without facing it head on and conquering a few fears. Quite trying to be what everyone else wants you to be...all you need to do is be yourself and have confidence in who you are. If they aren't impressed by the real you...then screw 'em. Half the damn time I act like a complete moron on LS...I have even got neg repped for trying to make a joke. I don't care. This is who I am. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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