He Needs time?Or Did He just Dump me ?

[Foxy]

First I have to apologize for the length and the way it's written it's just that I am very upset and I'm not thinking straight right now. All right me and my b/f his name is Dennis me and him meet on the comp (i know it's dumb but me and him are from the same state you know so i was like OK i should try it and he knows my friends) We meet like uhmmnn...6months or so first i used to think online relationships where only for computer freaks and geeks but well i guess i was wrong, we totally liked each other from the beginning and like really got together b/c we where from the same state and i was supposed to come home soon (My parents are on a business trip so i have to be here in Minnesota until Nov)

 

Anyway well i mean we totally hit it off it was like we are soul mates or something like that you know it was perfect, but then he told me one day he loved me and I was like WHOA. I mean I freaked b/c no guy has ever told me they love me and like they never treated me the way they did. So like i mean i treated him kinda bad after that why your asking now b/c i was scared of falling in love and i was testing him to see if he would stay with me and also i had this friend who liked me who was like always telling me to like do things and just try to make him mad and i mean to be honest, i was trying to change him b/c he was so sweet i wasn't used to that i mean wow i never meet anyone like him even my friends where all like whoa b/c that guy treated me so good i mean it was just perfect.

 

Well and me all i could do is pick fights with him argue cuss at him so many more things like if he would say something i would just get mad and like always tried to change him and try to make him like my ex who didn't treat me as well but i mean i don't know i was used to those type of guys, and i always pick the wrong ones and i would compare him to other guys. To make a long story short I really stressed him a lot and any guy who didn't care about me would had just left.

 

He cared about me a lot and we had plans to do so many things well and then feel in love with him I wanted to change and that was like 3 weeks before he left to go to things his home country. While he was there I made so much drama like I would get mad and write him e-mails like if he doesn't call me or write me I would leave him but man I know I was crazy cuz like he talked to me 1 time per week and now when I think about it I regret acting like that b/c that was more than enough.

 

Well, and I would accuse him of cheating b/c my friend that one friend his name is Kendrick he would always tell me like oh there are a lot of pretty girls there and oh I bet he is going to sleep with someone else.

 

Well and that made me just mad you know i sent a message to his friend who was from his home town and told him that if he doesn't talk to me i am going to leave him and get with someone else, well and I'm Spanish but my Spanish is very bad so like for what my b/f told me i said that i am going to sleep with another guy and the guy is going to be Kendrick oh when junny my b/fd's friend told my b/f that he freaked he was so mad they tell me.

 

And well then he come back home after 21 days oh me just trippin lol and well when he come home his phone wasn't working anymore so if he would like want to talk to me he would have to go to his cousins house and call me or e-mail me from there. And he did that 3 times per week for like 3 hours or 2 we would talk,and there we go again my dumb butt had to make drama again nagging as usual (omg I was so stupid) about wanting to talk to him more and just bitching and bitching. But then I stopped cuz I knew that he was going to leave me if I kept on acting like that so like I was like I am just going to chill out and don't do nothing to hurt him.

 

But cuz his phone wasn't working we didn't really get to talk and he didn't really get the chance to like see that I have changed.

 

So anyway well 3 weeks ago me and him where talking on the phone and we where just trying to work our relationship out b/c we loved each other and wanted to be with each other, he told me that i have hurt him a lot and well i stress him a lot not even his mother acts that way b/c i wanna know where he is at 24/7 and if i could talk to him 24/7 and that i shouldn't act so demanding and not tell him what to do all the time he knows what he has to do

 

and he just said he wants me to be the sweet loving girl i was before all this and that he miss that more than anything. But then he had to leave cuz his friend wanted to use the phone to call to Honduras.

 

Anyway after that day things just changed well after that day he come online on Friday the 10th i wasn't online but i had written him a e-mail the night before saying that i had to tell him something important and that he should come online soon. Dennis (my b/f) wrote me back saying that he got the e-mail and well he is going to try to come online as soon as he can and talk to me and i should wait but he doesn't know when that was going to be.

 

All right it took his butt 14 days to get online and i sent him a message asking him where he was and like if he wants to work things out and he was like: He doesn't want to break up with me but he needs time and i was like uhmnn.....all right so i can find a new man and he was like Kim you can do whatever you want all i need is time. And i asked him uhmnn...Do you still love me and he was like i think i love you but i don't know i love you that's why i need some time and that he rely care about me and all but like he told me he need some time to think about thing's and like he said he do care about me that's that's y he don't wanna break up with me he never said is over cuz he wanna b with me more then anything all the time I was just thinking what the F.

 

And then i called him he was like i stressed him a lot and like i said in the beginning i needed time he does too but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about me, he is just having some personal problems right now that are very important and he needs to handle and he doesn't want to keep like letting his anger out on me and then i will stress over it. And told me that I always compare him to my ex b/fds he hates that and my nagging and acting like his Mom but he likes that and way more I mean he acted like he needed some time thought but I don't know.

 

See I am so scared I cant even tell you how much I am hurting right now cuz this is all my fault and like I feel so bad I cant eat all I think about is him.

 

And damn how long am I supposed to wait? And like i don't know what to do and please people don't be to harsh on me OK i am seriously very hurt right now so please don't call me no bitch and crazy cow cuz uhmnn i know i messed up just please help me and tell me what i should do, cuz i want him no mater what i need him he is my baby i damn i messed up i know just please someone give me some help i need him back i love him please help me and sorry i made this so long nad like i hope you are not to confused .Oh and by the way i will be going back home in december .

[Daisy]

Hey Foxy. I have a quick question. How old are you? And how old is your boyfriend?

[Foxy]

i am 17turning 18 next week he is turning 18 next month

[Dave]

I hate when people are given an opportunity and they mess everything up. WHy can't you take advantage of such a great boyfriend, and instead of sabotaging your relationship, why don't you try to make it as pleasurable as possible?

 

Do you really prefer some ASSH*LE in your life, who will treat you like SH*T? Maybe then you will think that that's the kind of treatment you deserve.

 

Well, I would not blame him if he broke up with you, because I think, he seems, from what you have described, a very kind and patient person. You have mistreated him, and nice people do not deserve this kind of treatment like you have provided.

 

I pray that he gets back to you, and I also pray that you will come to your senses and begin realizing that good things do not happen very frequently in our lives, and when they do, they need to be taken advantage of...

 

Good luck!!!

 

First I have to apologize for the length and the way it's written it's just that I am very upset and I'm not thinking straight right now. All right me and my b/f his name is Dennis me and him meet on the comp (i know it's dumb but me and him are from the same state you know so i was like OK i should try it and he knows my friends) We meet like uhmmnn...6months or so first i used to think online relationships where only for computer freaks and geeks but well i guess i was wrong, we totally liked each other from the beginning and like really got together b/c we where from the same state and i was supposed to come home soon (My parents are on a business trip so i have to be here in Minnesota until Nov)

 

Anyway well i mean we totally hit it off it was like we are soul mates or something like that you know it was perfect, but then he told me one day he loved me and I was like WHOA. I mean I freaked b/c no guy has ever told me they love me and like they never treated me the way they did. So like i mean i treated him kinda bad after that why your asking now b/c i was scared of falling in love and i was testing him to see if he would stay with me and also i had this friend who liked me who was like always telling me to like do things and just try to make him mad and i mean to be honest, i was trying to change him b/c he was so sweet i wasn't used to that i mean wow i never meet anyone like him even my friends where all like whoa b/c that guy treated me so good i mean it was just perfect. Well and me all i could do is pick fights with him argue cuss at him so many more things like if he would say something i would just get mad and like always tried to change him and try to make him like my ex who didn't treat me as well but i mean i don't know i was used to those type of guys, and i always pick the wrong ones and i would compare him to other guys. To make a long story short I really stressed him a lot and any guy who didn't care about me would had just left. He cared about me a lot and we had plans to do so many things well and then feel in love with him I wanted to change and that was like 3 weeks before he left to go to things his home country. While he was there I made so much drama like I would get mad and write him e-mails like if he doesn't call me or write me I would leave him but man I know I was crazy cuz like he talked to me 1 time per week and now when I think about it I regret acting like that b/c that was more than enough. Well, and I would accuse him of cheating b/c my friend that one friend his name is Kendrick he would always tell me like oh there are a lot of pretty girls there and oh I bet he is going to sleep with someone else. Well and that made me just mad you know i sent a message to his friend who was from his home town and told him that if he doesn't talk to me i am going to leave him and get with someone else, well and I'm Spanish but my Spanish is very bad so like for what my b/f told me i said that i am going to sleep with another guy and the guy is going to be Kendrick oh when junny my b/fd's friend told my b/f that he freaked he was so mad they tell me. And well then he come back home after 21 days oh me just trippin lol and well when he come home his phone wasn't working anymore so if he would like want to talk to me he would have to go to his cousins house and call me or e-mail me from there. And he did that 3 times per week for like 3 hours or 2 we would talk,and there we go again my dumb butt had to make drama again nagging as usual (omg I was so stupid) about wanting to talk to him more and just bitching and bitching. But then I stopped cuz I knew that he was going to leave me if I kept on acting like that so like I was like I am just going to chill out and don't do nothing to hurt him. But cuz his phone wasn't working we didn't really get to talk and he didn't really get the chance to like see that I have changed. So anyway well 3 weeks ago me and him where talking on the phone and we where just trying to work our relationship out b/c we loved each other and wanted to be with each other, he told me that i have hurt him a lot and well i stress him a lot not even his mother acts that way b/c i wanna know where he is at 24/7 and if i could talk to him 24/7 and that i shouldn't act so demanding and not tell him what to do all the time he knows what he has to do and he just said he wants me to be the sweet loving girl i was before all this and that he miss that more than anything. But then he had to leave cuz his friend wanted to use the phone to call to Honduras. Anyway after that day things just changed well after that day he come online on Friday the 10th i wasn't online but i had written him a e-mail the night before saying that i had to tell him something important and that he should come online soon. Dennis (my b/f) wrote me back saying that he got the e-mail and well he is going to try to come online as soon as he can and talk to me and i should wait but he doesn't know when that was going to be. All right it took his butt 14 days to get online and i sent him a message asking him where he was and like if he wants to work things out and he was like: He doesn't want to break up with me but he needs time and i was like uhmnn.....all right so i can find a new man and he was like Kim you can do whatever you want all i need is time. And i asked him uhmnn...Do you still love me and he was like i think i love you but i don't know i love you that's why i need some time and that he rely care about me and all but like he told me he need some time to think about thing's and like he said he do care about me that's that's y he don't wanna break up with me he never said is over cuz he wanna b with me more then anything all the time I was just thinking what the F. And then i called him he was like i stressed him a lot and like i said in the beginning i needed time he does too but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about me, he is just having some personal problems right now that are very important and he needs to handle and he doesn't want to keep like letting his anger out on me and then i will stress over it. And told me that I always compare him to my ex b/fds he hates that and my nagging and acting like his Mom but he likes that and way more I mean he acted like he needed some time thought but I don't know. See I am so scared I cant even tell you how much I am hurting right now cuz this is all my fault and like I feel so bad I cant eat all I think about is him. And damn how long am I supposed to wait? And like i don't know what to do and please people don't be to harsh on me OK i am seriously very hurt right now so please don't call me no bitch and crazy cow cuz uhmnn i know i messed up just please help me and tell me what i should do, cuz i want him no mater what i need him he is my baby i damn i messed up i know just please someone give me some help i need him back i love him please help me and sorry i made this so long nad like i hope you are not to confused .Oh and by the way i will be going back home in december .

[Gina]

i know what u r going through

 

my b/f and i have been together for nearly 2 years. Just out of the blue he dropped the biggest shock on me. we had just finished being.. intimate... and i told him that i loved him... he hessitated which made me worry, i asked him what the prob was and he said that he felt we were going to fast, even though when we got together he was chassing me and was determined to get me. i was crushed i felt asthough he had stabbed a knife in my back. i asked him what the problem was things were going fine. Then he said " i just dont want to be in a serious relationship fpr college" even though we were planning on moving in together next year. I was crushed i cried for hours. right now we do hang out and yes, have sex and he still tells me he loves me. On the outside nothing has changed but i feel awful. I cant help but feel like hes keeping me on the side till someone better comes along. He says hes not looking for anyone else but thats not too reasuring to me. i just dont know what to do weather i should not see him anymore or wether i should keep this up in hopes things will go back to normal

 

i dont know!

 

thanks for reading

 

Gina

First I have to apologize for the length and the way it's written it's just that I am very upset and I'm not thinking straight right now. All right me and my b/f his name is Dennis me and him meet on the comp (i know it's dumb but me and him are from the same state you know so i was like OK i should try it and he knows my friends) We meet like uhmmnn...6months or so first i used to think online relationships where only for computer freaks and geeks but well i guess i was wrong, we totally liked each other from the beginning and like really got together b/c we where from the same state and i was supposed to come home soon (My parents are on a business trip so i have to be here in Minnesota until Nov)

 

Anyway well i mean we totally hit it off it was like we are soul mates or something like that you know it was perfect, but then he told me one day he loved me and I was like WHOA. I mean I freaked b/c no guy has ever told me they love me and like they never treated me the way they did. So like i mean i treated him kinda bad after that why your asking now b/c i was scared of falling in love and i was testing him to see if he would stay with me and also i had this friend who liked me who was like always telling me to like do things and just try to make him mad and i mean to be honest, i was trying to change him b/c he was so sweet i wasn't used to that i mean wow i never meet anyone like him even my friends where all like whoa b/c that guy treated me so good i mean it was just perfect. Well and me all i could do is pick fights with him argue cuss at him so many more things like if he would say something i would just get mad and like always tried to change him and try to make him like my ex who didn't treat me as well but i mean i don't know i was used to those type of guys, and i always pick the wrong ones and i would compare him to other guys. To make a long story short I really stressed him a lot and any guy who didn't care about me would had just left. He cared about me a lot and we had plans to do so many things well and then feel in love with him I wanted to change and that was like 3 weeks before he left to go to things his home country. While he was there I made so much drama like I would get mad and write him e-mails like if he doesn't call me or write me I would leave him but man I know I was crazy cuz like he talked to me 1 time per week and now when I think about it I regret acting like that b/c that was more than enough. Well, and I would accuse him of cheating b/c my friend that one friend his name is Kendrick he would always tell me like oh there are a lot of pretty girls there and oh I bet he is going to sleep with someone else. Well and that made me just mad you know i sent a message to his friend who was from his home town and told him that if he doesn't talk to me i am going to leave him and get with someone else, well and I'm Spanish but my Spanish is very bad so like for what my b/f told me i said that i am going to sleep with another guy and the guy is going to be Kendrick oh when junny my b/fd's friend told my b/f that he freaked he was so mad they tell me. And well then he come back home after 21 days oh me just trippin lol and well when he come home his phone wasn't working anymore so if he would like want to talk to me he would have to go to his cousins house and call me or e-mail me from there. And he did that 3 times per week for like 3 hours or 2 we would talk,and there we go again my dumb butt had to make drama again nagging as usual (omg I was so stupid) about wanting to talk to him more and just bitching and bitching. But then I stopped cuz I knew that he was going to leave me if I kept on acting like that so like I was like I am just going to chill out and don't do nothing to hurt him. But cuz his phone wasn't working we didn't really get to talk and he didn't really get the chance to like see that I have changed. So anyway well 3 weeks ago me and him where talking on the phone and we where just trying to work our relationship out b/c we loved each other and wanted to be with each other, he told me that i have hurt him a lot and well i stress him a lot not even his mother acts that way b/c i wanna know where he is at 24/7 and if i could talk to him 24/7 and that i shouldn't act so demanding and not tell him what to do all the time he knows what he has to do and he just said he wants me to be the sweet loving girl i was before all this and that he miss that more than anything. But then he had to leave cuz his friend wanted to use the phone to call to Honduras. Anyway after that day things just changed well after that day he come online on Friday the 10th i wasn't online but i had written him a e-mail the night before saying that i had to tell him something important and that he should come online soon. Dennis (my b/f) wrote me back saying that he got the e-mail and well he is going to try to come online as soon as he can and talk to me and i should wait but he doesn't know when that was going to be. All right it took his butt 14 days to get online and i sent him a message asking him where he was and like if he wants to work things out and he was like: He doesn't want to break up with me but he needs time and i was like uhmnn.....all right so i can find a new man and he was like Kim you can do whatever you want all i need is time. And i asked him uhmnn...Do you still love me and he was like i think i love you but i don't know i love you that's why i need some time and that he rely care about me and all but like he told me he need some time to think about thing's and like he said he do care about me that's that's y he don't wanna break up with me he never said is over cuz he wanna b with me more then anything all the time I was just thinking what the F. And then i called him he was like i stressed him a lot and like i said in the beginning i needed time he does too but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about me, he is just having some personal problems right now that are very important and he needs to handle and he doesn't want to keep like letting his anger out on me and then i will stress over it. And told me that I always compare him to my ex b/fds he hates that and my nagging and acting like his Mom but he likes that and way more I mean he acted like he needed some time thought but I don't know. See I am so scared I cant even tell you how much I am hurting right now cuz this is all my fault and like I feel so bad I cant eat all I think about is him. And damn how long am I supposed to wait? And like i don't know what to do and please people don't be to harsh on me OK i am seriously very hurt right now so please don't call me no bitch and crazy cow cuz uhmnn i know i messed up just please help me and tell me what i should do, cuz i want him no mater what i need him he is my baby i damn i messed up i know just please someone give me some help i need him back i love him please help me and sorry i made this so long nad like i hope you are not to confused .Oh and by the way i will be going back home in december .

[Daisy]

There's not much I can say to help you. I think it's important that you realize how horrible you have been to him. At least that's a first step. So maybe next time you run across a caring and honest guy, you won't treat him as badly.

 

As for this guy right now, I don't see how there can be anything you can do to win him back. Even if he does come back, I could see him leaving you in a couple months down the road because all you know how to do is treat him bad. I'm sorry, but I really don't see how you think you can use the excuse that all your ex's have treated you bad as an excuse for the way you have treated this guy. Everyone is in control of their own actions. Just because your ex-boyfriend was a dick doesn't mean you have to be one. You need to realize that you're ALLOWING yourself to be one. And if you continue to allow yourself to do this, all you will ever attract is the horrible guys. And such as in this case, if you do attract a good guy, you'll easily lose him because of your nasty attitude.

 

Maybe you should focus on making sure this never happens again. Stop using the ex-boyfriends as an excuse for your behavior. They're not MAKING you say the things you do. Be responsible for your own behavior. You're choosing to say the things you do. The big part is that you've realized this ... now you need to do everything in your power to stop it.

[Daisy]

I think this guy's taking advantage of you and you shouldn't let him anymore. Dump his sorry butt. Come on, he tells you he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship? Yet he's telling you he loves you? Most likely to get in your pants, by the way.

 

Use your head on this one. He's a college guy. He's told you how he feels, yet he's still getting some action. Of course he's gonna tell you some things you want to hear. Just to keep you in the picture. After all, you're letting him get what he wants out of the relationship ... and that's sex.

 

So stop letting him! Dump him. There are SOOOO many other guys out there that are worthy of your time and energy. Let him go find a different screw partner. You on the other hand, can do so much better than him. Just have faith.