notmakingsense Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 I'm just curious.... for those of you who broke up, went NC, moved on only to have your ex contact you again -- what's the longest period of NC you experienced? Months, Years? My ex and I never really officially split -- we just stopped contacting eachother. During one quick phone call almost 3 months ago now, she did say that she'd eventually call me when she was able to talk about things. Well, 3 months have passed, and I'm wondering now if she ever really intended on following through on that. I still have a small shred of hope for things, but that is almost gone now. Nor am I "waiting" for the call. I don't even think about her calling much any more. I'm just wondering if I'll be surprised months (or years?) from now. What were your experiences?
Author notmakingsense Posted February 13, 2006 Author Posted February 13, 2006 Holy cow -- 5 years? What happened? Starting this post must have brought me some Karma, because my ex contacted me over the weekend. So... 3 months for me.
blind_otter Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 7 months with psycho ex, then an 11 month relationship. He hasn't laid eyes on me in 15 months and still calls. I never answer. With my most recent ex, we first met years ago when he was still married and I didn't think on it much, he was off limits. Then we met again last summer and he was divorced 2 years, hadn't dated anyone yet, and still remembered me from when we first met...like in 2002 I think.
hopelessly_naive Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I had an ex contact me after three years of no contact.
Author notmakingsense Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 I had an ex contact me after three years of no contact. So what happened?
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 So what happened? She did use the word EX ..
Author notmakingsense Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 True, but we want the sordid details -- isn't that what these forums are for?
hopelessly_naive Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Yes I did use the word ex but that was a mistake on my part, we're back together now and happier then ever. Sometimes I think people just need time apart. Although three years is probably a little excessive.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Yes I did use the word ex but that was a mistake on my part, we're back together now and happier then ever. Sometimes I think people just need time apart. Although three years is probably a little excessive. Cool ...
Author notmakingsense Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Yes I did use the word ex but that was a mistake on my part, we're back together now and happier then ever. Sometimes I think people just need time apart. Although three years is probably a little excessive. Very cool! Its good to see success stories once in a while.
Dinnj1 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 one year... wishin' now, I never emailed her. yes, I broke the NC and apparently during a time when she was "in need" of friend... (I'm good for that ) now I detect an "He's still in love with me" attitude from her.
Author notmakingsense Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Yeah -- major danger of the dumpee breaking contact. I'm guessing most success stories will come from situations where the dumper breaks contact. In my case, I'm not sure what her motivations are yet. She might just be seeing if she can turn me in to a friend.... that will suck. I will soon meet with her for the first time in 3 months, so I guess I'll find out soon.
jerbear Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Yes I did use the word ex but that was a mistake on my part, we're back together now and happier then ever. Sometimes I think people just need time apart. Although three years is probably a little excessive. that is great!
jerbear Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 3 weeks and she ("dumper") was the one that broke NC. She said she had the worse 3 weeks, many things going on, misses me, now appreciates me, and wanted to be friends. I said nope because can't be friends when I have romantic feelings.
Author notmakingsense Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 I'm torn about what my interaction with my ex will be like. I will probably avoid all "serious" conversation. If she brings up something like she wants to be friends, my response will probably be very similar to yours. If she doesn't bring up anything serious herself, I will remain aloof -- like I don't really care about the outcome (even though on the inside I will!). I think I know her well enough to know that she won't ask me to reconcile outright.
skeptik224 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 She contacted me after 3 1/2 weeks with gossip about our ex's (who are now living together). I'm assuming it'll be another few weeks or so.
truballer4life Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 That is so weird my ex called me after 2 week of no contact sais she had a dream she called and was talking about getting back together and now after 2 week of contact i ask her does she like being single and she tell me she has a bf.
jerbear Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 That is so weird my ex called me after 2 week of no contact sais she had a dream she called and was talking about getting back together and now after 2 week of contact i ask her does she like being single and she tell me she has a bf. weird... just hope she doesn't call you later (weeks, months, years later) saying she had a dream of being married to you...
descartes Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Holy cow -- 5 years? What happened? Starting this post must have brought me some Karma, because my ex contacted me over the weekend. So... 3 months for me. Everything is on friendly terms now, which is great because our split was bitter. We may end up with a decent friendship. Glad to hear your ex got a hold of you!
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