Stopping My Blaming Others

[Aquarius Guy]

Usually, I post a problem, describing how someone else is holding me back. This post/thread is more about my own challenges of self-improvement.

 

I tend to blame others for my situation, rather than Look at my OWN opportunities for increased effort.

 

I tend to analyze how others are wrong, rather than looking for ways I could better put my shoulder to the wheel.

 

So this post is meant to admit my tendency to blame others, rather than trying to apply myself to make my situation better.

 

I have allowed myself to be trapped by the actions of others, rather than looking at how I can work around what others have done, I also allow myself to be blocked by fearing what others might do, to disrupt my progress, so I don't even try some things. Instead, I should create a plan, and involve those whom I fear will block me, and negotiate my ideas/preferences with them, to get an agreement, not to block. Instead, I often let my fears just exist, without really challenging their validity. So sometimes I am blocked by nothing but my hesitation to ask for a plan. I am also prone to procrastination.

 

Hopefully, most readers will not understand being trapped by my failure to try to plan. I will try to reduce my over-annalyzing, and come up with steps toward actualization, instead of blaming others for my traps and blocks.

 

Maybe I will list out how I feel someone is blocking me, and then develop a plan for my own actions and work arounds, then formulate presentions of proposed plans.

 

Anyone identify with false blocks and inaction?

[Curmudgeon]

I've always believed in personal responsibility. While I cannot control what others say and do I can control my reactions. Most of the time, when something goes wrong, I just suck it up and deal with it. I figure out and pursue a solution without trying to over-analyze it. S*** happens!

[Aquarius Guy]

Dear Curmudgeon,

 

Thanks for your reply. I have been thinking of the concept you mentioned, that sometimes, in spite of reasonable efforts, things don't turn out as intended, or as hoped for. So, in response to a disappointment, just make a reasonable effort to make things better, and move on after that.

 

Anything you are working to improve for yourself?