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Ok, there is this girl that I've known and liked for years, and just this last year we've become good friends. So I decided to tell her how I felt. She told me that she thought I was cute, smart, and funny and that she wished she liked me, but that she doesn't. She later said she was really sorry that she didn't lke me because "I'm a really great guy". Talking to her today I just found out that she likes another guy that she met like 5 months ago, and that this other guy likes her too. Is there anything I can do? or did I lose my chance with her because I waited too long?

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bluechocolate

Is there anything I can do?

 

Unfortunately the answer is no.

 

What you can do however is back off from the friendship. It's not going to do you any good to see her going out with other men while you hang about waiting for her to change her mind.

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Thanks for the advice, my friends from school agree with you. But I do remember however a guy doing the same thing to her, just kinda backing off from the friendship, and it really hurt her. She is a really good friend, and I don't want to hurt her. Is there any other way I can approach this?

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Undoubtedly you will meet & develop similar feelings for someone else, but if you hang around with her too much you're not going to allow that to happen. Which is why you have to back away from the friendship. Of course it will be sad for her to lose a friend, but that really isn't what's important here. And she knows that.

 

What you have to consider first & foremost are your feelings. It's going to depend on how much you think it's possible to be just a friend without ever being jealous & without ever thinking something more can come of it. Who knows? You may reach that point very quickly. But you know it will take a lot longer & quite possibly may never happen if you hang in the friend zone.

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thanks a lot for the advice, and I hope your vday will be better than mine :( .

You should never tell a girl that you like her before you have gotten physical or before she has told you, it really kills it

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