seeing where I stand in a relationship

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Had a discussion tonight with a girl I have been dating for almost three months. I have not been the best one to communicate with when it comes to affairs of the heart. So I asked(talking on the phone) her if we could get together and talk face to face about something she said well what is it. So we talked a little. I asked her how we stand in the relationship. She seems to think there is something missing,(as do I)but we have only been dating for not quite 3 months, we still have plenty to learn about one another. We both get kinda of toungue tied when comes to talking about things like this. She said she enjoys spending time with me as do I,it was good to actually hear it from her. We both have the same ideas about how a relationship should at least start out. We both respect each other and have our own friends to hang out with we are not the center of each others universe. Our sex life is great and so are our conversations to a point. With all this in mind has anyone come upon something simliar in there past/present relationships?

[Tony T]

It sounds like you're doing just fine. The feelings that something is missing can come and go. Maybe the chemistry between the two of you is still developing.

 

Hang in there and give things time. Everything sounds like it's going very well. Keep the communication going, talk about your feelings, talk out problems, discuss yourself and get to know your lady better.

 

I think things are going great between the two of you. It may not be time yet to be wondering about what is missing. Give all the parts time to come together first.

[Ejs82]

What exactly is your point? Have people encountered WHAT in their relationship before? Clear it up a little and you might get an answer relevant to your real question.

 

Had a discussion tonight with a girl I have been dating for almost three months. I have not been the best one to communicate with when it comes to affairs of the heart. So I asked(talking on the phone) her if we could get together and talk face to face about something she said well what is it. So we talked a little. I asked her how we stand in the relationship. She seems to think there is something missing,(as do I)but we have only been dating for not quite 3 months, we still have plenty to learn about one another. We both get kinda of toungue tied when comes to talking about things like this. She said she enjoys spending time with me as do I,it was good to actually hear it from her. We both have the same ideas about how a relationship should at least start out. We both respect each other and have our own friends to hang out with we are not the center of each others universe. Our sex life is great and so are our conversations to a point. With all this in mind has anyone come upon something simliar in there past/present relationships?

[Lauren]

It sounds like your relationship is fine. As you pointed out, it is early in the relationship. You certainly do have much to learn about each other. Respecting one another and communication are keys in any relationship. You have those in your relationship, you are doing fantastic. It isn't always easy expressing feelings because it makes you vulnerable. Being open and honest in communication is very vulnerable. It is also very rewarding when both parties are being that deep with one another. Keep up the communication - what you are feeling, what you want, etc. Give yourselves the chance to truly know one another and give this relationship time. It sounds like you both care about one another and have a great thing going!