Author For You I Will Posted March 15, 2007 Author Share Posted March 15, 2007 Hi! An OW means other woman, as in mistress. I will try not to bash you...I am the Wife of a serial cheater. The OW's in my H's life were all told THEY were the only one, and they were all told all sorts of lies about how horrible I was and how bad things were at home. I'm not saying your situation is not as you say, I'm just agreeing with the other posters who suggested that you browse through the infidelity as well as this forum...It seems like so many woman are told the same thing day in and day out. Occasionally you do read a success story on OW, but from what I can tell, it's the exception rather then the rule...You are so young. At least consider getting out of this now before you invest too much of your emotions,etc. in it. He is not showing you very much respect by flaunting your affair in front of coworkers and others. They know he is married, and although they may pretend that they are ok w/ it, my bet is that there's alot of gossip going on behind the scenes...Good luck and I wish you the very best.. Hun, I'm not involved w/ a MM.. for over a year now!! I was just typing an UPDATE from what i wrote over a year ago....my last post was how happy I'm...you should read it Thanks for the other responses! Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Hun, I'm not involved w/ a MM.. for over a year now!! I was just typing an UPDATE from what i wrote over a year ago....my last post was how happy I'm...you should read it Thanks for the other responses! oops. sorry about that...should have read more carefully... Link to post Share on other sites
Seen_It_All Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 LOL...I always laugh my a*ss off when OW fall for that old "I sleep on the couch" BULLSH*T story these guys tell. In the beginning of your post I laughed when you mentioned "he sleeps on the couch...." I remember thinking, "yeah, SURE he does." And once again, you've proved me right. I'm so glad to see a success story on here. It's wonderful when someone finally opens her eyes and sees these users for what they ARE. Link to post Share on other sites
Author For You I Will Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 9 years later.. Wow I look back on this & cringe! What a young stupid girl I was. Very interesting to see how far I have come:) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 9 years later.. Wow I look back on this & cringe! What a young stupid girl I was. Very interesting to see how far I have come:) It's amazing what a little maturity will do to your point of view. You sounded very naive in that first post. Glad things are working out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
the_artist_1970 Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Ok. Well, Iam 23 years old & Im seeing my manager from work, who is 31. I just recently started this relationship & Im very confused. For one, he is married, has a young child & he is my manager. Employees & managers are not supposed to do anything together outside of work. However, he is not affected by this rule & we even go out to bars w/ other employees & everyone else witnesses how we act together. Even though he is married, their relationship has been over for a long time now. His wife has affairs & he is well aware of this. He confronts her, yet she denies it. She is figuratively mean to him & is always yelling. He sleeps on the couch & never wants to be around her. Anybody's question would be "Why don't you get a divorce?" Well, his reply is that "it is what it is." He doesnt want to do that to his daugher. He had a difficult childhood & wants the opposite for her. He had a gf for 3 months, but ended it w/ her b/c she became very mean & bitter. He says that his wife is used to the fact of him always being there & how she takes him for granted & is always in a bad mood. He finally yelled at her the other day, & told her to leave him alone. She calls sometimes when we're together & will leave 10 messages. I love when we are together & nobody has ever made me feel this way. He's very gentle. I know Iam a stupid girl & that we should just end it. I just like spending time w/him, as he enjoys it as well. I think I could fall in love w/him if we keep seeing eachother. I know im wrong. I need some advice!! ~FallingHard I really hate to see someone so young fall into the trap of settling for being the OW to a MM. You are too young to start accepting taking a backseat to another woman and allowing yourself to be pulled into a secret relationship with a MM. Don't be so quick to believe MM, They lie Link to post Share on other sites
Babs22 Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 9 years later.. Wow I look back on this & cringe! What a young stupid girl I was. Very interesting to see how far I have come:) The original post is from 9 years ago. OP just posted an update. She left MM 5 months after the A started and is doing well now. She is one of the lucky ones who was able to see what a dead end the A was. Thanks for updating us For You I Will. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovemesomehim Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 (edited) I had to edit my original response...GL Edited February 19, 2015 by Lovemesomehim Link to post Share on other sites
Chasing_mya Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 You are so young, only 23 years old and have your ENTIRE life ahead of you. Why are you wasting precious time on a married man who will NEVER leave his wife? He has already made it clear that he has no intentions on leaving her regardless of how miserable the marriage is. The facts are he has you and is enjoying you for the moment. Stop blocking your blessings and leave him alone. Open yourself up to an available man that has more to offer you than a few minutes of sex and isn't attached. Save yourself the drama and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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