bluebubbles Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 I am having problems with my relationship. I have been dating a man for 2 ½ years and we live an hour away from each other. We are both on our mid 20's. He doesn’t like to drive to my house. He wants me to drive to his house all the time because he doesn’t like driving. When we go out, I always pay half. He is wanting to move in together so he can spend more time with his friends because he complains that he has to spend all his free time with me, which is only on the weekends because we both work during the week. Now, this Saturday he is going to a bachelor party and they are going to be at the strip clubs all night and he says that he is going to go whether I like it or not and he is going to do what he wants not mater what I say. This is making me physically sick. I love him but as time goes on I feel like I am falling out of love with him. When do does things like this I get quiet and I don't say anything. However, he knows that if he goes to a strip club, he can't touch. But, with his attitude being the way it is, I think he will do what he wants no matter what. I hate to throw away a 2 year relationship but what do I do? Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
whats wrong with me Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 When we go out, I always pay half....he "has" to spend all his free time with me...., When he does things like this I get quiet and I don't say anything.... he can't touch...I think he will do what he wants no matter what..Any suggestions? He is a jerk. You guys are dating, how would you feel if he was doing this to you if you were... married to him....pregnant....sick....at home with 2 kids? Any suggestions? Leave him before it gets worse. If you aren't sure about cutting him off, date someone else too and see if you can do better. Since you're only dating right now this would be a good time to "see" other people. I hate to throw away a 2 year relationship away This is NOT a relationship...and if it was is this the kind of relationship you would want to be in for the rest of your life? Last but not least, if you think I am being heartless or just voicing my own opinion, yes I am. And if you listen you will most likely save yourself years of hell. If you dont listen...years from now you will be kicking yourself in the *ss, for not listening. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 Seriously, he's a selfish jerk. And lazy. And if he won't drive to see you, frankly he's probably not that into you. It sounds like he is taking advantage of you. Tell him he can do whatever he wants at the strip club because he doesn't have a girlfriend any more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bluebubbles Posted February 15, 2006 Author Share Posted February 15, 2006 Tell him he can do whatever he wants at the strip club because he doesn't have a girlfriend any more. I'm thinking the same thing. He admitted once that he was taking advantage of me and for me to give him a second chance. That was last week. We'll see what happens. I'm so tired of thinking of him and worrying what will happen next. It's frustrating. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 Tell him he can do whatever he wants at the strip club because he doesn't have a girlfriend any more. Absolutely excellent line, brilliant. He sounds like a twit, dump him. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 Thanks.... Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 Thanks.... Ha! I just noticed your avatar!! That is hanging behind me on my wall!! Six foot high!! ! Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 I just bought a house, it is going to be my first major decorating purchase. Link to post Share on other sites
roxyg Posted February 15, 2006 Share Posted February 15, 2006 I'm thinking the same thing. He admitted once that he was taking advantage of me and for me to give him a second chance. That was last week. We'll see what happens. I'm so tired of thinking of him and worrying what will happen next. It's frustrating. Why waste your time worrying about someone whom seems to not care a lick about your relationship? He obviously is selfish and your own feelings are of no concern to him. When he is out at the strip club, go out yourself with friends or another man; this will not only get your mind off of him, but you will also be able to experience what it might be like to be out of that relationship with him. I hope the best for you! I've been in these sort of relationships before, and it's not fun sitting around worrying about what the guy you are dating is doing, it's quite unnerving! Link to post Share on other sites
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