JohnM Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Wasn't too sure where to post this. Just thought of it now. Whenever i get even a little sad or when having even a minor argument with someone i tend to get pretty teary. I can feel my eyes welling up and although i know this is only natural its a bit embarrassing when i start getting all teared up over such petty things. Don't know why this happens lol. I don't even know if i'm looking for an answer or just opinions on this Reply away if thats possible! Link to post Share on other sites
unhappily_married Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Great! I'm not the only one. There are times where I could ball my eyes out for no real reasons....songs, movies, something said...whatever. My H says its my hormones but to be honest I think its my situation....see thread marriage failing. I have always been an emotional person....i cry at weddings, births and if someone else is crying it takes a lot of effort to not ball as well. Just sharing my thoughts! Have a great day! Link to post Share on other sites
StarbrightSB Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I am so much the same! It comes in spurts for me though. There can be weeks, where i can cry over a baby commercial, then there are times where nothing will upset me. Guys crying always get me though, i CANNOT watch a guy cry and not get teary! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 It's probably other (personal) things that bother you - not the argument at the given moment, just like UM stated. You could be a little depressed overall (which doesn't mean you need meds to "cure" you). Just try to make yourself happier. Better days will come. P.S. Everyone is sensitive! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 But i'm a guy.... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 But i'm a guy.... Oh... well that changes everything... You silly! What difference does it make? You ARE a human being, aren't you? Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 What RP said. Sounds like you have a gift of empathy and compassion. Wish more had it! My husband does this, too, when he's being a real person instead of the wooden Pinnochio society expects boys and men to be. It's one of the things I like best about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 I'm not ashamed of my emotions. Just when i'm getting over emotional about absolutely nowt. On another point it could be attached to sadness, i am a bit down atm. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 People who are shy (and suffer from depression and/or anxiety) are generally exceptionally sensitive. They have found a physiological reason related to the amygdala (a part of your brain) and it affects 10% of the population. There's not a whole lot you can do about it, it is who you are. You can't control your emotions, the only thing you can do is control your reactions via therapy, meditation, etc. The good news is that you are probably also much more sensitive to other peoples emotions and actions and are able to see through people much more easily. My friends always wondered why I was always the first to figure out which of their boyfriends were going to turn into jerks and now there's a scientific reason why. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 I'm shy and sometimes suffer from anxiety. 'also much more sensitive to other peoples emotions and actions and are able to see through people much more easily.' - seems spot on. Nice diagnosis doc Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Takes one to know one It's more common than you would think. All of these issues generally go together and I know you posted that you were shy before, seemed like maybe depressed too from a couple of posts back on this thread. You might find some more people just like you on a social anxiety board. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 Just looked at a social anxiety board. That looks pretty major lol, maybe i've just got a minor case of it Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 There's high functioning (minor cases) people on there and low functioning people (major cases). You may not have it at all but you still might find people who will understand you a bit better than the people here. It was just a suggestion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hehe, I appreciate the suggestion. I just got a bit taken back when i saw self harm cases linked to social anxiety. Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Did you by any chance grow up in a home where you were neglected or abused? And/or where there was alcohol/drug abuse? If so, you had to learn to be sensitive to other people's needs in order to survive. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hehe, I appreciate the suggestion. I just got a bit taken back when i saw self harm cases linked to social anxiety. I would have been too. If you want to ask the admin here for your PM rights I can point you in the right direction. Otherwise, keep posting here, I've seen lots of other posters here that deal with shyness issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnM Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 None of those issues thankfully Becoming. I'm working on overcoming my shyness, i'm fine 1 on 1. Just need to start plucking up more courage to talk in groups. Link to post Share on other sites
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