melissa Posted August 28, 2001 Share Posted August 28, 2001 why would a man tell me he was falling in love with me after we had sex, but then never call when he says he's going to? he was my friend for a long time and says i'm big trouble for him... he's falling for me, etc. but i'm still waiting for a phone call after our first night together. i finally called him and everything seemed fine, but why won't he call me? i'm too old for this middle school game playing, but he's almost forcing me to feel like "well, if he won't call me i won't call him". a side note, the sex was okay but quick because he's "never been so excited before." why would he want to give that up? Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted August 28, 2001 Share Posted August 28, 2001 You wrote, "but i'm still waiting for a phone call after our first night together". Do you mean your first night of having sex, or do you mean this was your first night together, and you had sex? If you had sex with him on the first day, chances are, he might not be interested in a relationship. Call him once, and then stop calling him. Let him call you first. And whether it's been 3 days or 3 weeks, DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN until he calls you back. And if it takes him more than a couple days to call you back, he is not interested in you. At that point, stop talking to him, and move on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
melissa Posted August 28, 2001 Share Posted August 28, 2001 You wrote, "but i'm still waiting for a phone call after our first night together". Do you mean your first night of having sex, or do you mean this was your first night together, and you had sex? If you had sex with him on the first day, chances are, he might not be interested in a relationship. Call him once, and then stop calling him. Let him call you first. And whether it's been 3 days or 3 weeks, DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN until he calls you back. And if it takes him more than a couple days to call you back, he is not interested in you. At that point, stop talking to him, and move on with your life. It wasn't our first night together, we've been friends for a while, just our first sex. and the thing that worries me is that i know he has this rejection thing. he made a huge deal about it back in the day. he said that it's a woman's responsibility to make the first move all the time because men are afraid to. but i've already called him once... isn't that the first move? Link to post Share on other sites
BeenThere Posted August 28, 2001 Share Posted August 28, 2001 Question first, if that's okay... How often did he call and how much time did the two of you spend together "before" this incident? Has he backed off, or is this the "norm?" It wasn't our first night together, we've been friends for a while, just our first sex. and the thing that worries me is that i know he has this rejection thing. he made a huge deal about it back in the day. he said that it's a woman's responsibility to make the first move all the time because men are afraid to. but i've already called him once... isn't that the first move? Link to post Share on other sites
melissa Posted August 29, 2001 Share Posted August 29, 2001 Question first, if that's okay... How often did he call and how much time did the two of you spend together "before" this incident? Has he backed off, or is this the "norm?" We were aquaintances for about 3 months. still no call. he never was much of a phone person before that, anyway. i think i'm going to call him. ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
BeenThere Posted August 29, 2001 Share Posted August 29, 2001 Seems like its back to business, as usual. I just hope the accurance doesn't change the initial friendship. Sometimes its hard to get that "comfortable" friendship back once two people have crossed that line. I don't know enough about the two of you to make any determinations, but if someone "loves" you, then they WANT to call, they WANT to spend time with you...and they WANT to make the effort. I think you're heading for a let down, here. We were aquaintances for about 3 months. still no call. he never was much of a phone person before that, anyway. i think i'm going to call him. ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
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