I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 Assuming both the bride and groom are young and either presently living at home or just recently moved out, whose parents pay for the wedding? Is it a 50/50 split, or do the parents with more money pay a greater portion, or the parents who don't approve of the marriage as much pay less, or--god forbid!--are the parents not always expected to pay for their children's wedding? This came up in conversation with my boyfriend. We're not planning on getting married any time soon, but it did make me curious about all this. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 Traditionally, the brides family pays for the wedding.. the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner, rings, tuxes and some other things. The bulk is traditionally on the brides family. Today a lot of people pay for their own wedding, without their parents help, or supplemented by whatever their parents feel they can give. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 Magda has the tradition right about who pays for what. But times are changin' The parents are giving you a gift when they pay for your wedding. I believe that both sets of parents should give want they want/can, and you should be able to decide how to best spend it. For instance if the groom's parents were much better off, would it make sense to have a huge formal rehearsal, and a extremely economical wedding, just because the funds have purposes? I think it makes more sense to combine the money and use if for what is needed. The wording of the invitation is dependent upon who pays for the wedding. If it's a remotely traditional wedding, the invitation tells you who pays for it. The "hosts" are those that pay for it. Sometimes the "together with our parents" line means that the bride and groom paid for everything, or that they paid for most, and their parents contributed some. Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
MyDutyPaid Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 25 years ago when members of my family got married it was the bride's family who paid for the wedding. Subsequently most weddings I've been too the couple have paid out of their own pockets and had gifts of money from one or both sets of parents - and she should scoop up a lot getting paid for dances! But everything with ones means. Going into debt for the sake of a wedding is never wise. Save that for your 25th wedding anniversary and make your children pay for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 I am getting married soon and we are paying a great portion, but if there is anything that is not getting paid by us it most likely is getting paid by my daddy or someone in my family that offered. There are few exceptions where his parents and sister are helping. It really should depend on WHO can afford it! It's not cheap! Link to post Share on other sites
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