GuySimple Posted February 18, 2006 Share Posted February 18, 2006 ...to get laid but so tough to get into a meaningful relationship? I don't get it. If I wanted to go out for a roll in the hay tonight it probably wouldn't take long to arrange a connection with someone very nice, attractive relatively normal etc etc., person. But, if I tried to get someone to have dinner and a movie or go out for a glass of wine and conversation it is really tough to find someone. Is it the closeness thing that people shy away from? I don't get it. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Link to post Share on other sites
Bellona Posted February 18, 2006 Share Posted February 18, 2006 I agree -- it should be the other way around. I think that some people just don't want to get involved in anything that will eventually lead to them becoming vulnerable; they may also be concerned about making a time commitment. Relationships come with all sorts of obligations, and it can be scary when you find yourself putting another first in your thoughts. I like it, myself, but some people just don't want to feel like they have to "answer" to someone. I don't think of a relationship as requiring me to "answer" anyone; it's an equal partnership and both branches need to bend. Link to post Share on other sites
nicolette Posted February 18, 2006 Share Posted February 18, 2006 Where do you go and meet the types of people that would have no problem "rolling in the hay?" Maybe it has something to do with the places you go to meet people? I knew this one girl who slept with every guy she met! I couldn't believe anyone could just do that, especially now a days with all the diseases! Anyway, although she did do that, she desperately wanted a committed relationship with someone. She was on a constant search, but was going about searching for it in obviously the wrong way. This makes me wonder though....could a guy sleep with a girl he just met, and think he could have a long-term relationship with her? Link to post Share on other sites
girlnotsosimple Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 Why is it so tough? I guess you will need to figure that out on your own. It may be your passive aggressive control freak ways. Or, if you are as two faced with the women you have being meeting lately as you have being throughout our 17 year marriage, that may be one reason. Your arrogance and inability to ever admit an error could be another… there are other reasons too numerous to count. PS … I will explain your absence to R tonight and you did not ask but W is feeling a bit better. For the record… contrary to your arrogant deluded writings on this web site, there is no chemistry or physical desire on my part… in fact right now you make me sick! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 To be a fly on the wall tonight Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2006 Share Posted February 25, 2006 To be a fly on the wall tonight Freaky... ...to get laid but so tough to get into a meaningful relationship? I don't get it. If I wanted to go out for a roll in the hay tonight it probably wouldn't take long to arrange a connection with someone very nice, attractive relatively normal etc etc., person. But, if I tried to get someone to have dinner and a movie or go out for a glass of wine and conversation it is really tough to find someone. Is it the closeness thing that people shy away from? I don't get it. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Yeah, it should be the other way around... Don't give up GS. The right one is around the block. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 WOWWWWWWWWWW - This is a tricky situation! (((((Drum roll)))))) Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellFire Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 "Or, if you are as two faced with the women you have being meeting lately as you have being throughout our 17 year marriage," WTH.. was guysimple and girlnotsosimple married?? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
IWalkAlone Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 ...to get laid but so tough to get into a meaningful relationship? I don't get it. If I wanted to go out for a roll in the hay tonight it probably wouldn't take long to arrange a connection with someone very nice, attractive relatively normal etc etc., person. But, if I tried to get someone to have dinner and a movie or go out for a glass of wine and conversation it is really tough to find someone. Is it the closeness thing that people shy away from? I don't get it. Shouldn't it be the other way around? As someone who easily falls into the "friend zone" with women, for me it IS the other way around. I can arrainge to have a meal or movie with a woman as "friends," but getting sex is like trying to make money by playing casino games. It works occasionally, but usually it doesn't. When it does it's random and overall it's more trouble that it's worth. Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I was under the assumption they were divorced? Aren't they? Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 This is a place to come to to share your feelings and get advice and other people perspective - I would hate my ex to come here! That was raw! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 This is a place to come to to share your feelings and get advice and other people perspective - I would hate my ex to come here! That was raw! if you notice.. it wasn't his ex.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Who was it????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Who was it????????????? his wife .. He just got busted... Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Who was it????????????? i could be wrong but i think it is his wife.......dude don't use the home PC what a mess Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=719973#post719973 They are separated. I hope things are OK and that he comes back to LS soon. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 If they are separated then what in the hell is she doing coming on here and acting like a loon? They aren't together so he can say and do whatever the *beep* he wants! Yeah, she probably left him but she still wants him in a sick way perhaps... typical. She doesn't want him but she sure as *beep* wants to tie a damn noose around his neck. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I know, I called her out on that earlier in this thread. I think she should have kept those thoughts private - No need to come here and make him look bad. Maybe that is why he isn't back yet. GS we're here if you need anything, don't forget that, k! Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I know, I called her out on that earlier in this thread. I think she should have kept those thoughts private - No need to come here and make him look bad. Maybe that is why he isn't back yet. GS we're here if you need anything, don't forget that, k! Private or not, it's none of her damn business. She has no say over him and he is free to come here and post anything he wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 This is a man leaving in the thick of it right now.. He posts this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81230/ Just a week after posting this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t79842/ They may be seperated but by the sounds of it they are/were working on the marriage and then he goes and posts about the women he is dating and also posts about dating younger women.. what was the wife to say ? sounds to me that her eyes were just opened up to where her marriage really sits.. Link to post Share on other sites
cal gal Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Wouldn't you think that he had to have an idea that she could log on to the site and see what he was posting... Still, I don't agree with her approach, as something that personal and private should be kept that way.... Also, Did anyone ever hear who's husband posted a few weeks ago saying that they were extremely hurt by what they found on LS??? I still wonder who THAT was directed to.... Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 They may be seperated but by the sounds of it they are/were working on the marriage and then he goes and posts about the women he is dating and also posts about dating younger women.. what was the wife to say ? sounds to me that her eyes were just opened up to where her marriage really sits.. Agreed. I know that people are keen to make this a "safe" place to post, but in all honesty why should his wife give a s*** about any of that? However she found out he was logged on here, the fact is she did - and as most people would do under the circumstances, she read what he posted. From what Art is saying, he posted stuff about their marriage, so why wouldn't she have something to say about that? I can't see why people are on her case about it. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 I can't see why people are on her case about it. Because she is acting like a dummy... even her *nick* is evidence of that fact... *girlnotsosimple*... oh boy... great rip-off from her X's nick... nyuk nyuk nyuk! Why is she railing anyway if, as she has said, there is no chemistry or physical desire on her part? She also said that he is making her sick. If those REALLY are true then she should just shut up, log out, and get a life instead of feebly attempting to trash her X. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Private or not, it's none of her damn business. She has no say over him and he is free to come here and post anything he wishes. My point was really, that if she had issues with him, she could have spoken to him directly or emailed him, instead of causing embarressment for him on LS, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 However she found out he was logged on here, the fact is she did - and as most people would do under the circumstances, she read what he posted. Here on LS one of the first things that posters tell other posters looking to find out info on their partner is to install a keylogger. I find it hypocritical that the same posters are down with the wife because she might have followed advice that has been given on LS a thousand times before..maybe see installed a keylogger Link to post Share on other sites
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