SmoochieFace Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Here on LS one of the first things that posters tell other posters looking to find out info on their partner is to install a keylogger. I find it hypocritical that the same posters are down with the wife because she might have followed advice that has been given on LS a thousand times before..maybe see installed a keylogger I just think that this *surveillance* crap is exactly just that - crap. They are separated. If I was GS I wouldn't give a damn whether my X finds me or not. And if she does... her spewing garbage about me would speak volumes about what a little *beep* she really is. Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellFire Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Smoochie, a separation doesn't necessarily mean there will be a divorce. Some use it as a time away from eachother to work through their problems, which it seems is what the wife thought they were doing. Screwing around and ****ing other women on that time is outrageous. Obviously he doesn't take the marriage too seriously and it's good she read his posts. She has every right to post her thoughts here like he does. "Embarrass" him my azz. He's anonymous on the internet. He cheated on the woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with.. LMAO.. his weak butt can deal with a tad bit of so-called internet "embarrassment". She has issues and anger to work through as well, and if this is a good outlet, then so beit. Link to post Share on other sites
Tenorman Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 I thought her response was awesome and if you compare his and hers posts, his backbone comes across as strong as a wet towel. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 I have to say that I would probably do the same if I found what my ex had been writing about me! It would be hard not to retaliate - On here we only hear one side to the story - As we all know, our exes would have something different to say than what we say! If I found my ex was writing stuff about me, I know I would retaliate as he has treated me like shyte yet he would tell anyone who listened how awful I was to him! I know in my heart that I did not do one thing to him, yet he hurt me time and time again and has no remorse about it! So even though her coming here is invading his privacy, and yes this is HIS place to come for help and advice, I sort of do not blame her as I cannot judge someone when I KNOW in my heart I would do the same thing! I hope all is ok with them! Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Smoochie, a separation doesn't necessarily mean there will be a divorce. Some use it as a time away from eachother to work through their problems, which it seems is what the wife thought they were doing. Screwing around and ****ing other women on that time is outrageous. Obviously he doesn't take the marriage too seriously and it's good she read his posts. She has every right to post her thoughts here like he does. "Embarrass" him my azz. He's anonymous on the internet. He cheated on the woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with.. LMAO.. his weak butt can deal with a tad bit of so-called internet "embarrassment". She has issues and anger to work through as well, and if this is a good outlet, then so beit. Depends on who left. If she ditched him then he has every right to do whatever he wants. Period. Reverse situation if he ditched her - she can do whatever she wants. Same thing with me when dummy XW decided to just split... leaving me high and dry will all the bills. Ha! She forfeited her so-called *rights* at that moment. Yeah, I told her where she could stick her *rights*... Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 So even though her coming here is invading his privacy, and yes this is HIS place to come for help and advice..... huh? Sorry, don't follow? How is her coming here an invasion of his privacy? This is a public forum. Anyone can post and read here. It's not his, hers, your's or mine. I've read hundreds of posts telling people how to spy on their partners, how to hack email accounts, install tracking software, study phone bills, etc. THAT I would call an invasion of privacy (justified or no), but not reading an internet forum. I sort of do not blame her...... Me neither - though I'd go further & say I can't apportion any blame to her at all. Like you said, we usually only get one side of a story here. If we assume this is real then we just caught a brief glimpse of the other. Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Well, isn't this a fine kettle of fish? How'd I miss this one yesterday? Brings up an interesting issue, doesn't it? Can LS really help someone who isn't really being honest? Don't know what the situation with GS really is, so I'm setting that aside to talk about a larger issue: if we're all just doing fiction here, what are we doing? Playing? I'm all for that. But most of the time we respond to folks because we really want to help them, as they help us. But our help can only be as good as the truth about the situation that's revealed. And while I'm uncomfortable watching a marriage spontaneously combust right before my eyes (it does seem too private, doesn't it?), isn't "public" exposure of truth ultimately more helpful? And GS, man, no one knows you here, so you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuySimple Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 Just to let everyone know that I am still alive and reasonably well. I am very much separated and have been for sometime. I unfortunately assumed that it was possible to be anonymous on this site which appears not to be the case. I would very much like to address a lot of your questions and the answers may surprise you. But, the purpose of this site is to seek advice, not to bring a private issue into the public forum. As a message to the LS administrators. The success of your site hinges on the ability of people to speak freely without fear of repercussions. If people’s anonymity is not protected people will be reluctant to share and seek advice on this site. To Girlnotsosimple, I got that dresser you asked me to pick up and I will drop it off tomorrow. Bye for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I am gutted for you GS I would not like my ex to see what I write here! I wish you luck honey and we are here if you need us! Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 As a message to the LS administrators. The success of your site hinges on the ability of people to speak freely without fear of repercussions. If people’s anonymity is not protected people will be reluctant to share and seek advice on this site. This is an odd statement---were you sold out? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 This is an odd statement--- I thought so too. To date LS is the only single forum I've seen that has over 20,000 members. If both parties in a relationship go to the internet to seek advice, independently of each other, there is a very good chance that they'll happen upon this site. It has happened a few times here where someones partner has been busted. I'm sorry for what has happened to you GuySimple, I would hate to find myself in your position. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 This is very difficult for GS now. ANything he writes will be read by his ex now! He has lost his right for some anonymous advice and help. even if he changes his name he will have to cover up what he really wants to write as his ex will be scanning the posts looking for him! I know this is a public forum but it is still a shame for him! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 This is very difficult for GS now. ANything he writes will be read by his ex now! agreed !! you have to believe that he is pretty upset.. and for her to even let him know that she knows was a hurtful thing for her to do.. she wasn't looking for advice.. she was just trying to hurt him Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I know that this place has helped me so much in recent months and because it is anonymous you can say things that you may be embarressed telling friends. For all of your feelings and thoughts to become open to your exs and whoever else she wants to show would be heartbreaking! We are all aware that we only hear one side of a story and we can only comment on what we are told, but sometimes we just need help or advice with how WE feel! I can see both sides of the coin - If I read what my ex thought of me I know I would have to put my side over! But in the same sense we all need to feel our own pain! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I think they should have removed her post or the whole thread. Other posts/threads get dumped so easily these days, so GS's was the obvious one as his personal and private indentity was ruined by his ex. She DID come on here to confront him, make him look like a fool and she could have emailed/confronted him offline, not in a public forum. He has lost his privacy to post, ask for help and share HIS personal thoughts...More than likely she'll be reading his posts and checking up on him now. That sucks. Yeah and I know this place is a public forum but IT IS still a place where you come to feel safe and vent. All that is gone now. Glad you're doing okay GS. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I think what happened to him was horrible, but I am alone here in detecting a whiff of hypocrisy with all this sympathy? Come on folks, had it been girlnotsosimple posting here for months & Mr. Simple jumping in you'd be all over him like a blue bottle on manure, probably even more so because he'd be the big evil man (let fly the daggers!). I have never assumed that I am 100% anonymous here & nor by the amount of personal photos that are put up have many others. I've said things that I know for a fact I wouldn't want certain family & friends to read, but if they do, such is life. The only guarantee (and even then it's not 100%) I have of complete privacy is in a one-to-one session with a health professional or the confessional. Link to post Share on other sites
Paul Posted March 3, 2006 Board of Directors Share Posted March 3, 2006 Hi GuySimple, As a message to the LS administrators. The success of your site hinges on the ability of people to speak freely without fear of repercussions. If people’s anonymity is not protected people will be reluctant to share and seek advice on this site. Our ability to protect your anonymity extends only so far as you're willing and capable to not share your participation on this site, whether that be ensuring your posts are free from identifiable details or that your use of the site is limited to a secure computing environment. We do our best to protect your personal privacy, as is outlined in our Privacy Policy, and recommend that all posters remain as anonymous as possible when posting. Ultimately, the responsibility to protect your own personal identity is yours alone. We've taken reasonable safeguards to ensure that the data you supply to us upon registration is not available to other members. We repeatedly remind members of the inherent dangers associated with personal contact and of the importance of participating in accordance with our Community Guidelines. Members that share computers with others should be sure to log out of their forum account when finished using the site and of taking necessary precautions in terms of their browsing history. E-mail addresses associated with forum accounts should be protected as well to prevent unauthorized access to e-mailed notifications, etc. Safe browsing standards apply here as with any other web site and we encourage maintaining a computing system free from malicious software and/or hardware. Best wishes, Paul Link to post Share on other sites
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