Tiger073 Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Hey guys, im a college student. Im not used to going to a lot of dances and learned how to dance (grind)/and gain enough confidence to to so during my last few years of high school. The social events at my college consist of mainly dances, and my problem is I have no idea how to approach a girl to dance with her. So far ive been asking "do you want to dance?", and some do, but overall have not been too successful in getting yes replies. I deal with it, figuring they just werent interested (and feeling a little hurt). Recently though, I asked a girl if she wanted to dance and she replied (i couldnt really tell if it was harsh or not) "its a dance and you dance and if someone wants to dance on you they will, dont ask them." Needless to say, I walked away somewhat hurt and went back to my dorm. I just dont know how to interact and approach a girl to dance with her at dances. What I do appears not to be working, and Im not necessarily aiming for hookups or anything (though that would be nice) but am mainly interested in just learning what to do. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Before asking someone to dance you do this search with your eyes. Who's looking at you? Go up to those girls. Then instead of asking someone to dance right away, make some small talk first. After getting aquainted (no deep conversation needed) ask her if she wants to dance. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 When you look for whos looking at you, if you spot them doing this give them a smile. If they smile back then theres a good chance you're in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tiger073 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Share Posted February 20, 2006 Thanks guys, anything else? Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 If you make eye contact with a girl, then shortly after you can dance behind her. Close enough so that she knows you're there, but not actually touching her. Some guys just put there hands on the girls hip or start grinding into them, but I like to let the girl decide if she wants to or not ie. I'm not forcing her to dance with me. Basically, if she starts backing up and grinding into you, she wants to dance. If she starts moving away then she doesn't want to. It's that simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Speaking personally I LOVE to dance and this is what I do : If I am with a friend we go out on the floor and start shaking our boo-tays , lol . Then as you dance you check out all the guys checking you out and you start dancing towards them and boom you are dancing with someone ! ( In your case dance solo and smile at chicks . If I saw you dancing alone and smiling at me ,I would ease over to you...hehe I have never asked or been asked. Its just something you do on the floor solo if you are brave enough then all the sudden everyone is dancing. I have started the dance floor quite a few times. My philosophy is : I want to dance and thats just what I do and people pick up your vibe and start dancing with you,. Many men make a big deal about saying they can't dance. I tell them Hey everyone can dance. Its just moving to the music ! Don't take this so seriously . Its all about FUN Link to post Share on other sites
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