help me i've been hurt

[TRACEY]

please help me me and my boyfriend broke up this past friday

 

it has only been a couple of days but i'm sick i can't eat i can't sleep what do i do???????

 

what happened was we were together for 11 month's and friday

 

the girl he's been seeing this whole time called me to fill me in she told me all about there relationship and how she was pregnant by him twice. first she had a abortion and this last one she was 5 month's and lost it

 

but the bad thing is that he knew that i wanted to have a baby and he went out got another girl pregnant twice i can't get over it. and then from the beginning of our relationship i questioned their relationship they said they were just friends yeah right i knew that wasn't true but i gave him the benefit of the doubt and that's where i must of screwed up.. what do i do that's all i can think about morning, noon, and night

 

my house fills so empty without him here how do i move on when he's still calling and trying to get me back and i don't want to put myself back in that situation since i really really can't trust him help me please

[simon]

the best thing to do is to start living at this point in time. its not easy but nothing is at the moment. so square up and live.

 

with most sympathy,

 

simon.

please help me me and my boyfriend broke up this past friday it has only been a couple of days but i'm sick i can't eat i can't sleep what do i do???????

 

what happened was we were together for 11 month's and friday the girl he's been seeing this whole time called me to fill me in she told me all about there relationship and how she was pregnant by him twice. first she had a abortion and this last one she was 5 month's and lost it but the bad thing is that he knew that i wanted to have a baby and he went out got another girl pregnant twice i can't get over it. and then from the beginning of our relationship i questioned their relationship they said they were just friends yeah right i knew that wasn't true but i gave him the benefit of the doubt and that's where i must of screwed up.. what do i do that's all i can think about morning, noon, and night my house fills so empty without him here how do i move on when he's still calling and trying to get me back and i don't want to put myself back in that situation since i really really can't trust him help me please

[Cynthia]

It's a good thing you don't want to return to an obviously negative situation. I think the best thing would be a change of scenery, if possible. Go stay with friends or relaties for a week or two, with someone who you feel close to or comfortable with. Whenever there is a situation which you really can't resolve, the best thing to do is to just talk things through with someone with a sympathetic ear. I know it sounds like a cliche, but time really does heal all wounds.

 

C

please help me me and my boyfriend broke up this past friday it has only been a couple of days but i'm sick i can't eat i can't sleep what do i do???????

 

what happened was we were together for 11 month's and friday the girl he's been seeing this whole time called me to fill me in she told me all about there relationship and how she was pregnant by him twice. first she had a abortion and this last one she was 5 month's and lost it but the bad thing is that he knew that i wanted to have a baby and he went out got another girl pregnant twice i can't get over it. and then from the beginning of our relationship i questioned their relationship they said they were just friends yeah right i knew that wasn't true but i gave him the benefit of the doubt and that's where i must of screwed up.. what do i do that's all i can think about morning, noon, and night my house fills so empty without him here how do i move on when he's still calling and trying to get me back and i don't want to put myself back in that situation since i really really can't trust him help me please

[Excelsior]

I have a few suggestions on how you can lessen the pain a little bit. Unfortunately, it's not just going to go away...Before I give these suggestions to you though, let me encourage you with this- You're not alone, anyone who has ever seriously desired a relationship with another or been involved with you has felt your heartache. You might want to talk to someone who has been through the same thing, they would be in the best position to listen to all the hurt you've felt.

 

Here are those practicaly suggestions-

 

Keep yourself busy doing every day things..

 

For example, do your laundry, immerse yourself in your work, buy groceries, visit a friend, or whatever it is you would do a normal day that doesn't involve your ex...- but don't just sit at home...It will be hard to leave that house of pain, but unless you want to drive yourself crazy, you've got to get busy. Don't ignore the problem and act like it doesn't exist, but don't sit and stare at a wall and dwell on it either. It's all about finding a balance.

 

One last thing...and please, please do not perceive this as me telling you that you're being immature or anything- The last thing I want to do in your pain is discourage...but- Try thinking about someone else. Maybe one of your friends had a bad day, or a bad week. Try to think about how you can help them. Helping other people and seeing their struggles can often put our own pain in perspective, as well as heal that pain by restoring some of the self worth you've lost because of your boyfriend. Think about it...

 

I wish you the best, I know this is a difficult time.

 

Sincerely,

 

Excelsior

[Excelsior]

Down below i typed

 

"you're not alone, anyone who has ever seriously desired a relationship with another or been involved with you has felt your heartache" - this not what i meant to say! sorry...i just meant to say...."or been involed with someone has felt the same heartache"

 

sorry about that, i hope it didn't cause trouble

 

~excelsior

I have a few suggestions on how you can lessen the pain a little bit. Unfortunately, it's not just going to go away...Before I give these suggestions to you though, let me encourage you with this- You're not alone, anyone who has ever seriously desired a relationship with another or been involved with you has felt your heartache. You might want to talk to someone who has been through the same thing, they would be in the best position to listen to all the hurt you've felt. Here are those practicaly suggestions- Keep yourself busy doing every day things..

 

For example, do your laundry, immerse yourself in your work, buy groceries, visit a friend, or whatever it is you would do a normal day that doesn't involve your ex...- but don't just sit at home...It will be hard to leave that house of pain, but unless you want to drive yourself crazy, you've got to get busy. Don't ignore the problem and act like it doesn't exist, but don't sit and stare at a wall and dwell on it either. It's all about finding a balance. One last thing...and please, please do not perceive this as me telling you that you're being immature or anything- The last thing I want to do in your pain is discourage...but- Try thinking about someone else. Maybe one of your friends had a bad day, or a bad week. Try to think about how you can help them. Helping other people and seeing their struggles can often put our own pain in perspective, as well as heal that pain by restoring some of the self worth you've lost because of your boyfriend. Think about it... I wish you the best, I know this is a difficult time. Sincerely, Excelsior

[broken heart]

I can understand your hurt feelings. I'm kinda in the same boat minus the other girl and pregnancies. My guy dumped me last night saying that he didn't want a relationship with anyone. I feel like hell, have never cried so much in my life. I've been crying on and off all day. Haven't had anything to eat since Tuesday night. Don't understand how someone can say that they really care about yet break your heart. In a way I kinda think that maybe he didn't want to end it, but did because of all the other stress in his life (see my earlier post re: the love of my life dumped me last night) He said that he wasn't giving me what I wanted or deserved. His best friend said that there was just so much stress that it was most likely easier to end things with me than be a crummy boyfriend. The other night eveything seemed fine. We were out having a good time and I said "this is really nice" and he said that it was nice and that it felt good. He stayed with me that night and was very cuddlesome holding me etc. Then the next thing I know, I was dumped with him saying the opposite. He said it didn't feel right, but the night before apparently it was. He seems so confused about everything. I just don't understand why he would give up someone that wanted to be there and help and continue to love him. Why?????

 

I am sorry that you are going through what you are. I don't have any advice. I wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that I feel your pain.