Lola Posted August 30, 2001 Share Posted August 30, 2001 This is in another posting, but it is something that everyone can relate to or learn from. It was suggested that everyone should read it, so I put it as a separate posting. Sorry if it is redundant. "Through decades of intense study of all sorts of relationships, psychologists appear to agree on the five key areas which make or break a relationship. Five crucial connecting points: 1. Chemistry: Instant attraction, you feel a little intoxicated when you are with them. 2. Compatibility: How much do you have in common? How similar are your backgrounds. (This is very important down the road) 3. Common Goals: While children, where you will live, things like that are important. Right now ask yourself this: Do you work well as a team (in life)? Do you place the same importance on planning "special" nights or weekends away? Do you both make an effort to make the other feel special? Do you both put effort into keeping the relationship fresh and exciting? 4. Pace: Are you moving through the same speed through life? Do your energy levels match? Is your attitude toward work similar? Do you think and talk at a similar pace? Do you seem to need and want similiar proportions of quiet time and excitement? 5. Timing: Are you in the same stage in your lives? Have you had other long-term relationships? Has he? If either of you have an ex that you haven't completely gotten over or the trauma from ending it, maybe the timing is not great. Are you both ready to "settle down"? The timing may not be perfect if there is a lot you want and need to do on your own before sharing your life with someone else. Being the same age doesn't guarantee you will have the same timing." The best quote I have ever read is: "Stay at the point of indecision as long as you can, because the longer you think about it the better decision you will make." (5 points is an excerpt from the book Hot Relationships, by Tracey Cox.) Link to post Share on other sites
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