DirtySmoke Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I have been with my girlfriend, recently turned fiancee for nearly 5 months. We've known each other for nearly 7 months. We dont live together, we live apart but see each other as much as possible. We had agreed with each other that I wasnt to talk to any other girls aside from her and the same for her with guys (we are both very jealous people). One night she told me she was going to bed. Okay, cool. So I start my nightly routine of checking my website (that I run) and play a game. Around an hour later, I decide to get on her messenger name (since we know one anothers passwords). Messages from her ex boyfriends start popping up. Then it logs me off because shes logged back in. I try calling her, no answer. I continue calling until she answers, then she trys to lie out of it. Eventually she tells me. We're trying to patch this up but I take it very personally. I thought she was one of the most honest people ever. I really did. Now I dont know what to do. I love her so much, honestly, that I'd give my life for her and I know she loves me the same but I feel out of place. I dont see me ever trusting her again. I dont know if I should try to work things out and chance me getting hurt again (i cant stand the feeling...i cant) or just try to move on (i really cant live without her). Its like my life is messed up and either way I go, I wont be happy. I need advice on this situation please. Link to post Share on other sites
rustysquirrel Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I can't offer advice because I'm in a similar spot. What I can do is say that you're not alone in the world here. Trust is hard to regain once it is lost. And you, yourself, will want to be able to trust her again, assuming she deserves it, but will find it VERY hard to do. Trust depends on honesty -- if you have reason to think she is honest, trust is warranted. If you have reason to think she is not being honest, then she doesn't deserve your trust. It's a tough spot, and I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
MrsHellFire Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 First of all if she is lying this early in the relationship, then it's not good at ALL! She's hiding something and obviously still has feeling for her ex, unless she hid it b/c she just thinks you won't understand their friendship. If she has feelings for him, let her be free to be with him. There is no use getting married just to find out later she cheated on you with him. I wouldn't trust a liar either. Link to post Share on other sites
CoffeeHouseHumor Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 sounds like the movie Little Black Book Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Dude, why is she your "fiance" after 7 months. I can smell a disaster waiting to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
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