Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I hear many women complaining that their husband doesn't listen to them or neglects them well here is a reason why. Are you a woman that he enjoys being around? That is it in a nutshell. I know married men that can't stand beinga round their wives. They dread going home because they know the minute they walk through that door she will chew him out and he doesn't even know what he did wrong. After a while he just starts tuning her out. It's background noise to him. If you are not aperson he enjoys being around he will tune you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I hear many women complaining that their husband doesn't listen to them or neglects them well here is a reason why. Are you a woman that he enjoys being around? That is it in a nutshell. I know married men that can't stand beinga round their wives. They dread going home because they know the minute they walk through that door she will chew him out and he doesn't even know what he did wrong. After a while he just starts tuning her out. It's background noise to him. If you are not aperson he enjoys being around he will tune you out. .............. Keep deluding yourself into thinking that this is the way a majority of women are. WTFever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 .............. Keep deluding yourself into thinking that this is the way a majority of women are. WTFever. Many women are like this. The other day I saw a guy getting chewed out by his wife and I told fiance if she eer gets like that I will walk. Why take this so personally? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 If MY fiance' ever told me that if I ever got "like that" he'd walk, I'D walk! Did you actually say that to her? Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 on the radio this morning....cant remember the context. The news guy asked one DJ if he knew his partner DJ better than his wife.....then the convo went into spouse getting mad. the one DJ says, "I been married so long I just assume my wife is mad at me all the time. And when she is nice to me, then its just a bonus." I thought it was funny....but sad. People dont conmunitcate. Theres a certian group of people in my wifes and I's group of friends that hardly ever do couples things. its mostly the girls going out and men stay home with kids. and if there was a group get to gether, then its spouse and kids. But its like pulling teeth to get these wives to actually do things with there husbands. The look on the wives faces when I asked why dosent your husband come out. A look of , "what?!, then i wouldnt have any fun." needless to say, my wife and I try to do things as couple, becasue we LIKE to be around eachother. so in a sence wogg has a point, married couples should enjoy eachothers company, and if ya dont, then fix it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 If MY fiance' ever told me that if I ever got "like that" he'd walk' date=' [b']I'D[/b] walk! Did you actually say that to her? Yes I did. She knows what I will and will not put up with. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 If MY fiance' ever told me that if I ever got "like that" he'd walk' date=' [b']I'D[/b] walk! Did you actually say that to her? I was going to say the same thing.. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 All I can say is my hubby is a lucky guy. I don't b!tch and complain, I don't nit pick at him either. We have our little moments of irritation but that is mostly it. I will even say this, HE is the one who nitpicks, not ME. I tune him out, I make faces and we laugh. It's not a big deal. I saw my mom nitpick my father growing up and I swore I wouldn't do that once I was married later in life. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Yes I did. She knows what I will and will not put up with. If she knows then why did you feel the need to tell her then ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 on the radio this morning....cant remember the context. The news guy asked one DJ if he knew his partner DJ better than his wife.....then the convo went into spouse getting mad. the one DJ says, "I been married so long I just assume my wife is mad at me all the time. And when she is nice to me, then its just a bonus." I thought it was funny....but sad. People dont conmunitcate. Theres a certian group of people in my wifes and I's group of friends that hardly ever do couples things. its mostly the girls going out and men stay home with kids. and if there was a group get to gether, then its spouse and kids. But its like pulling teeth to get these wives to actually do things with there husbands. The look on the wives faces when I asked why dosent your husband come out. A look of , "what?!, then i wouldnt have any fun." needless to say, my wife and I try to do things as couple, becasue we LIKE to be around eachother. so in a sence wogg has a point, married couples should enjoy eachothers company, and if ya dont, then fix it. I will file for divorce before it ever gets to that point. That is one of the reasons I am having her sign a prenup. If it ever gets that bad I can leave and make a clean break. It's a worst case scenario escape plan. I hope I don't have to use but it is good to have it there. The fact that she is willing to give me that promise speaks volumnes about her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 If she knows then why did you feel the need to tell her then ? It was a spur of the moment thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 If she knows then why did you feel the need to tell her then ? And I was thinking the same thing as you said here! Poor woman. It sounds like you speak to her like a child. "If you do so and so, you WILL be punished!" What a way to communicate with someone you're thinking of marrying! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I really hope it never gets to that point, but Wog, are you saying if things got that bad, you wouldn't stick around and fix it? Or prevent it from going to that place? Couples are going to nitpick a little bit, it's normal. It's when it gets to be ALL the time and the other person just doesn't let up... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 It was a spur of the moment thing. Ever heard of thinking before you speak? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I was gonna say, b/f Touche said it. I was reading a DAvid Sedaris book where he talks about his older sister always beginning sentences with "You're not gonna like this..." as if the option to not say something bad doesn't exist! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 I really hope it never gets to that point, but Wog, are you saying if things got that bad, you wouldn't stick around and fix it? Or prevent it from going to that place? Couples are going to nitpick a little bit, it's normal. It's when it gets to be ALL the time and the other person just doesn't let up... I will give it a certain amount of time to be fixed but if it wasn't being fixed I would leave. am perfectly okay being single. It is great to share my life with somebody else but if I could be single and happy as well. Why be miserable? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 Ever heard of thinking before you speak? If I think it I say it. I am one of the most honest people you will meet. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I think there's validity in being someone that your partner enjoys spending time with. BUT....I think it goes both ways. I've met lots of women who don't time spend with their hubby. Not too long ago, I was one of them! There's no 'corner on the market' here. Men aren't the only ones who avoid a 'nagging' partner. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I will give it a certain amount of time to be fixed but if it wasn't being fixed I would leave. am perfectly okay being single. It is great to share my life with somebody else but if I could be single and happy as well. Why be miserable? LOL true, I mean it reminds of my grandparents. They loved eachother but they also really HATED eachother too. I think you have nothing to worry about Wog, so don't go so far into the future and picture what life will be. Just enjoy things as they are now. I hightly doubt anyway she is going to turn into an evil witch and become a nitpicker machine! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 LOL true, I mean it reminds of my grandparents. They loved eachother but they also really HATED eachother too. I think you have nothing to worry about Wog, so don't go so far into the future and picture what life will be. Just enjoy things as they are now. I hightly doubt anyway she is going to turn into an evil witch and become a nitpicker machine! I agree with you. She is a sweetheart and one of the nicest people you could meet. I am actually happy right now so I figure while I have my own life in order I will pffer advice on this board. The advice I give may not be what people want to hear but they need to hear it. Too many people on this board are too touchy feely. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I hear many women complaining that their husband doesn't listen to them or neglects them well here is a reason why. Are you a woman that he enjoys being around? That is it in a nutshell. I know married men that can't stand beinga round their wives. They dread going home because they know the minute they walk through that door she will chew him out and he doesn't even know what he did wrong. After a while he just starts tuning her out. It's background noise to him. If you are not aperson he enjoys being around he will tune you out. This may be the case for some, but its also a choice in how one handles a spouse who complains about this or that, or chews them out for whatever reason. And while it may be understandable some people may not want to be around their spouse or wants to avoid them becasue of the chewing out they may have received, theres, probably a good reason for it. However communication would be my guess as far as whats lacking on that matter, then again it may be something that goes even deeper than that. A spouse chooses to complain/chew the other out, just as the one on the receiving end of the chewing out, chooses how they react to it. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Of course, your behaviour will always be impeccable such that you will never do anything which might anger, annoy, or frustrate her to the point where she would be justified in reacting. We'll have to call the Pope and make sure you're next in line for sainthood. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I will file for divorce before it ever gets to that point. That is one of the reasons I am having her sign a prenup. If it ever gets that bad I can leave and make a clean break. It's a worst case scenario escape plan. I hope I don't have to use but it is good to have it there. The fact that she is willing to give me that promise speaks volumnes about her.This is only my opinion, but pre-nups are for wussies!! If you're already looking for an out, you have no business getting married. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 This is only my opinion, but pre-nups are for wussies!! If you're already looking for an out, you have no business getting married. Oh my God, I jsut agreed with Moose. That's what I'm talkin about. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 If I think it I say it. I am one of the most honest people you will meet. There's honest and there's tactless and undiplomatic. If you say everything you think, look at your watch because your marriage won't last. I totally agree with Moose on the prenup thing but you are going to need one. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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