Husband neglecting you?

[Sassy]

And I was thinking the same thing as you said here! Poor woman. It sounds like you speak to her like a child. "If you do so and so' date=' you WILL be punished!" What a way to communicate with someone you're thinking of marrying![/quote']

 

Couldn't agree more with you Touch . Maybe this marriage is doomed from the start.

[Presario]

I can see at least two reasons why a husband ignores his wife:

1) the husband is a jerk, and he doesn't like anything, including his wife,

2) the wife is a jerk and the least the husband can do is to ignore her.

 

The sad thing is that many husbands ignore their wives. I even saw a TV commercial where a guy watches the telly. His wife is talking to him, and after a few seconds the guy just hears "bla, bla, bla..." Then he imagines he's at a bar with his buddies and drinks his favourite beer. Once he finished his beer, he wakes up on the sofa, hears his wife again, and sighs. Sad, but apparently this commercial targets many man. But hold on... I've got another story - a true one.

 

My friend had a girlfriend who would talk incessantly. Once she called him on the phone, he had to go to a bathroom, so he left the phone without telling his girlfriend about this. When he got back after five minutes, she was still talking not having realized the guy was gone! If you had such a girlfriend (who doesn't care what you say, but just keeps talking) how would you not filter out what she says?!

 

I'm a lucky guy. I enjoy my wife's company and I'm looking forward to getting back home from work.

[Becoming]

Wog, are you actually putting this in your pre-nup, or are we misunderstanding? What is in the pre-nup?

[Chump64]

Woggle, if you don't want a nagging wife, then maybe you should figure out ahead of time what it is she wants you to do. A lot of nagging is the result of lazy ass husbands who sit in a recliner after work with a Bud Lite while the wife cooks dinner and manages the kids, with very little help. Too many people are programmed to live like their parents did, where the woman was a slave to the man. Instead of a prenup, why don't you figure out a breakdown of household chores and expectations?

 

Often, there's a damn good reason for nagging.

 

Oh and yes, like Becoming, I am sitting here laughing at the thought of a "No Nagging" clause in a prenup!!

[alturrnababe]

Woggle, being in a "husband neglecting me" situation right now, i have to say that alot of times people don't know what is said behind closed doors...there are often reasons for 'naggy' behaviour.....sometimes, people feel powerless and that is the only way they can communicate, i think.....In some cases, there really are no other ways to get your point across, you know?

[Mz. Pixie]

Woggle, being in a "husband neglecting me" situation right now, i have to say that alot of times people don't know what is said behind closed doors...there are often reasons for 'naggy' behaviour.....sometimes, people feel powerless and that is the only way they can communicate, i think.....In some cases, there really are no other ways to get your point across, you know?

 

Amen.

 

He thinks all women are the same, AB.

 

To hear him tell it he's perfect and it's always the woman's fault. I'm a little leery of people who think they never do anything wrong in a relationship.

[Mz. Pixie]

Many women are like this. The other day I saw a guy getting chewed out by his wife and I told fiance if she eer gets like that I will walk. Why take this so personally?

 

I take it personally because I've been in this situation. I was very easy to live with but when your partner starts neglecting you, you tend to start being vocal about it and sometimes people consider that nagging. I consider it discussion and communicating what one's needs are.

 

My husband now can't believe how easy I am to live with. I don't gripe about the toilet seat or the toothpaste or who sets out the garbage.

 

The issue with the nagging Woggle?? The woman starts that because of other things in the relationship that are bothering her. It turns into being about division of labor or who does what,when in reality it's about how that makes her feel when he doesn't sit out the trash, which in turn makes her feel unimportant. It's never as simple but it's rather a condition of what's actually going on in the marriage.

[Woggle]

This is only my opinion, but pre-nups are for wussies!! If you're already looking for an out, you have no business getting married.

 

Let's see if you still feel that way when your wife decides to go find herself and takes everything you have. Men need to wisen up and realize women are out for themselves these days and most of them hate men so they have no issue taking us for all we are worth.

[Chump64]

"wisen up"?

 

[Woggle]

"wisen up"?

 

 

Yes. Men need to lose some of these gentlemen tendencies and realize that women on an average are not innocent. Times have changed and if men don't wisen up women will run roughshot over us. We need to start fighting back in the battle of the sexes.

[blind_otter]

And here I thought women had been prostrate in the face of history until the middle of the 20th century.

[a4a]

Yes. Men need to lose some of these gentlemen tendencies and realize that women on an average are not innocent. Times have changed and if men don't wisen up women will run roughshot over us. We need to start fighting back in the battle of the sexes.

 

:eek: But your woman is different right? Goodness Woggle I am not being a bitch but....... are you sure about taking the big plungeroo?

[Woggle]

:eek: But your woman is different right? Goodness Woggle I am not being a bitch but....... are you sure about taking the big plungeroo?

 

Yes. She is vocally anti-feminist.

[Chump64]

So you've already got her under your thumb. You are covered - your Stepford Wife is waiting in the wings. Why are you here ranting, then?

[RecordProducer]

It takes two to tango... If a man has a reason to hate his wife's guts for nagging then she probably has a reason for nagging also... or maybe she is just a bitch... or he is just an ass... or they are both wrong for each other... you never know...

 

People have different needs and perrsonalities... it's so easy to NOT get along.. so hard to get along...

 

I think if people can't fix the problems, they should either try harder or split.

[Moose]

Let's see if you still feel that way when your wife decides to go find herself and takes everything you have. Men need to wisen up and realize women are out for themselves these days and most of them hate men so they have no issue taking us for all we are worth.

Oh give me a friggin' break already will ya!!!!????

 

If you're not capable, or smart enough to find a honorable woman who'll make a LIFETIME comittment with you, don't blame all woman kind for YOUR short comings.

 

Women are in charge by the way. The sooner you realize this, and go with the flow.....the better off you'll be.

 

And women, don't get a big head either, you're just above a creature that picks up his underwear with his toes and flips them up into his hands to catch them......

[a4a]

Oh give me a friggin' break already will ya!!!!????

 

If you're not capable, or smart enough to find a honorable woman who'll make a LIFETIME comittment with you, don't blame all woman kind for YOUR short comings.

 

Women are in charge by the way. The sooner you realize this, and go with the flow.....the better off you'll be.

 

And women, don't get a big head either, you're just above a creature that picks up his underwear with his toes and flips them up into his hands to catch them......

 

My goodness Moose........You have indeed found the secret to a happy marriage!

[Touche]

Yes, I've always thought Moose is very wise!

 

Are you listening Wog?

[Woggle]

So you've already got her under your thumb. You are covered - your Stepford Wife is waiting in the wings. Why are you here ranting, then?

 

She is far from a stepfrod. She is actually pretty independent and very strong but she is not a feminist. If a woman does not hate men she is not a feminist and my fiance does not hate men.

[Woggle]

Oh give me a friggin' break already will ya!!!!????

 

If you're not capable, or smart enough to find a honorable woman who'll make a LIFETIME comittment with you, don't blame all woman kind for YOUR short comings.

 

Women are in charge by the way. The sooner you realize this, and go with the flow.....the better off you'll be.

 

And women, don't get a big head either, you're just above a creature that picks up his underwear with his toes and flips them up into his hands to catch them......

 

I am in charge of my own destiny. My fiance is in charge of hers.

[whichwayisup]

Women are in charge by the way. The sooner you realize this, and go with the flow.....the better off you'll be.

 

And women, don't get a big head either, you're just above a creature that picks up his underwear with his toes and flips them up into his hands to catch them......

 

Uhmm, I've done that too... Then I kinda have also flipped them up in the air and OOPS they've landed on my hubby's head...

 

That expression, "Yes Dear" comes into my mind right about now.

 

You know, if it hasn't happened yet, I think I should start a new thread of what each of us think "nagging" is.

What some may think nagging/nitpicking is could be just lighting the fire under the butt of our spouses. WE ALL need a kick in the pants at times. I know I do.

 

I am in charge of my own destiny. My fiance is in charge of hers

I agree, but entwined together, your destiny's collide and grow...That's a good thing.

[Becoming]

Quote:

I am in charge of my own destiny. My fiance is in charge of hers

 

I agree, but entwined together, your destiny's collide and grow...That's a good thing.

 

So you're going to live two separate lives in tandem? That's not marriage. Your destiny will be her concern and hers yours. And when your individual destinies collide, as they inevitably will, what then? You'll get yours, and she will submit?

 

No wonder you want a pre-nup, then. You'll need it when she wises up and figures out what feminism is really all about--equality.

[Moose]

Let me try to explain my way of thinkin' here.....and maybe you can understand why I think most of what you're saying is bologna....

Let's see if you still feel that way when your wife decides to go find herself and takes everything you have.

I would never marry someone who didn't already, "know herself", so there would be no need for her to seek that which is not lost.

 

Besides, even if she got some wild hair and convinced herself of, "re-discovery", and took all I had.....so be it. She'll probably need it more than I would......I've come from the bottom of the barrel before, I know it wouldn't take me much to get back on my feet.

Men need to wisen up and realize women are out for themselves these days

A, "wise" man would spot a materialistic woman a mile and a half away. Only a foolish man would let his pecker talk him into marrying her.

and most of them hate men so they have no issue taking us for all we are worth.

Don't take offense to this, but women don't hate men. They hate, "man mentality". For example:

Yes. Men need to lose some of these gentlemen tendencies and realize that women on an average are not innocent.

I can almost hear all the women say in unison: "AND MEN ARE!!?? You're placing men, above women......did you not watch, "House" last night??? ALL humans begin their life as women, until a certain gene developes enough to tell the balls to drop out.....I knew that before the show....did you?

Times have changed and if men don't wisen up women will run roughshot over us.

So let's turn the tables back on them? We men did this to ourselves.

We need to start fighting back in the battle of the sexes.

What battle?? Where? I must be missing it.....my email must be messin' up again.....

She is far from a stepfrod. She is actually pretty independent and very strong but she is not a feminist.

I'm usually a good judge of character, but being the type of person you come off as, shouldn't this be your first warning sign? I mean, I could be waaaay off base here. But you said:

Many women are like this. The other day I saw a guy getting chewed out by his wife and I told fiance if she eer gets like that I will walk. Why take this so personally?

because, and independent and very strong woman is going to chew you a new hole sooner or later......and you say she's going to agree to this??? I'm sorry, but I don't believe you.

 

One last thing.....and if you choose to answer me, it would be purely for my entertainment.....but, how would you word such a clause in a pre-nup?

 

I read and write contracts on a daily basis, and I'd like to see how you'd measure these parameters.....

[Chump64]

feminist does not = manhater

 

I don't know why I waste my time with ignorant people.

[Curmudgeon]

I know married men that can't stand beinga round their wives. They dread going home because they know the minute they walk through that door she will chew him out and he doesn't even know what he did wrong. After a while he just starts tuning her out. It's background noise to him. If you are not aperson he enjoys being around he will tune you out.

So, you knew the ex, did you?