joel Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 ok heres the story-what would u as a girl or one of ur female friends was dating a 25 yr old and he told u he never had a gf relationship or even dated before-turned off, weird, not date him anymore, keep him-what would u think or u really suspected this guyl was a total newbie-(can;t really kiss, doesn;t now what to do, nervous and jittery) what would u as a girl or women dating this guy do. is this ok or not. i now some women care about a guys experience in the bed-which kind of girl wants a newbie guy-he won;t be able to please her in bed and be done in 5 secs. that what i kind of worried about-since sex in a need and not a want-if i ever get a gf or even date that she might leave me. and my folks always said all u need is money and a great job and more money and taht all women want-well not always from waht i hear good sex and the ablity to please is jsut as important-since like i said it is a need. btw on my update i got like a date -meeting with some gal off the online dating site but shes one of the girls i ain;t attaracted to at all-too big and obese-might just go there to meet her and see what happens-she might have friends who are at least avg lookin. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 learn to speak some english. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 I don't want sex until marriage so my partner will have to have the same values. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 learn to speak some english. ha, well parts of the post were a little enigmatical but I think we get the gist of it:cool: I'd wonder about a 25 year old who said he'd never been on a date before more than I would someone who said he'd never been in a relationship. Some people just do alot of dating but never settle down because they're very picky or just aren't ready to. Never going on a date would suggest some major confidence issues to me. However if i was attracted to him ~ physically or otherwise ~ I wouldn't rule him out. Actually his lack of experience would probably give me more confidence around him b/c I'd know he wouldn't be comparing me to other girls he's been with...there wouldn't be any. Oh and congrats on your date btw...but question: why are you even going out with this girl if you're so completely and utterly unattracted to her? You've even insulted her by saying you hope she has a friend with her who's "at least average looking"...implying that your date is not? Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 she said she would bring her friends along or a friend -hoping that freinds or freind i would be attracted to. she just a big girl and i'm not attracted to big girls-seems liek that all i can get obese and big girls- i want a avg, slim, girl like myself-i'm skinny guy Link to post Share on other sites
Skeered Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 first of all I don't think that just because a guy is 25 and hasn't dated or anything yet is weird...some guys have troubles approaching women or hate rejection so they don't try. As far as you having a date with a girl you met online, if you meet her and have no attraction don't start scopin out her friends that's really rude. I mean this person is meeting you in hopes that there might be a connection and I'm sorry if you don't care for a woman that is a little heavier than you then you should have specified that in your information and if you did then you should maybe be honest with her. Just a thought. Don't hurt her feelings I guess is what I'm trying to say..lol Link to post Share on other sites
RubixCube28 Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 Why did you even agree to meet her if your not attracted to heavy set women?? Maybe if you clearly stated that your not looking for that.. In your profile you wouldent end up being contacted by them.. I agree with the other poaster its rude to check out the girls friends.. Dose she know you have no intrest in her? And are just a parasite hopeing to attatch to one of her friends..Because you have no other way to get near women..No wonder you have no life experances you don't know how to even deal with people you sure your 25 and not 16 lmao... Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted February 22, 2006 Author Share Posted February 22, 2006 well thats how ppl meet these days-yea throught friends of friends .......... how else u goin meet em-rest of the other girls no luck-don;lt get me wrong oh yea i tried at least i'm meeting someone-heck who nows -friendship is always good Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 No experience or little experience wouldn't bother me. I think it's a good thing that you're going. It will be an experience for you and it will be good for you to socialize with someone regardless of whether you're attracted to her or not. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 btw on my update i got like a date -meeting with some gal off the online dating site but shes one of the girls i ain;t attaracted to at all-too big and obese well JOEL if she's got a nice set of large breasts at least you could get a nice tit-job Link to post Share on other sites
TeaCooler Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 i think the fact that you don't seem like the brightest crayon in the box would turn me off more than the fact that you haven't dated. in all honesty, i would probably figure out why you haven't dated as soon as you started talking, and i would just move on. coherence is always good. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 i think the fact that you don't seem like the brightest crayon in the box would turn me off more than the fact that you haven't dated. The communication problem is going to be a tricky one to overcome - unless, of course, Joel's posts are just an elaborate joke (which I'm really hoping they are). Joel, even if there is a learning difficulty involved, you can't use it as an excuse for every bit of laziness. That post of yours was practically unreadable...but nonetheless, I got the general idea. If you don't know how to put on a condom, I recommend you buy a box and start practising now. In the event that you ever get lucky, there will no doubt be awkward moments...but you can start preparing now in order to keep them to a minimum. Nervousness and a bit of fumbling is okay, provided it's not accompanied by excessive sweating (ie during foreplay) shaking or attempts to carry off a suave James Bond type seduction act. In fact, just avoid doing celebrity impressions at any point during the act of intercourse. However good you think your Impersonation of Jim Carrey in Dumb and Dumber is, nobody wants to hear it during sex. If in doubt when kissing - and I'm sure you will be (in doubt, that is) - keep it soft rather than attempting to hoover her face up. Also, you want to aim for a happy medium, saliva wise. Not too dry, otherwise she'll think she's kissing a lizard. At the same time, you don't want to be sloshing spittle all over her. Just remember that it's only you, her - and, perhaps, her collection of soft toys watching. If she tells people that you couldn't get it up or tries in any other way to humiliate you later on, you can just deny it. What's she going to do? Present video-taped evidence? Remember to check all the cupboards and cuddly toys for hidden cameras before having intercourse. Also remember to stay calm and keep your mouth shut as much as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 ... just avoid doing celebrity impressions at any point during the act of intercourse. . I might use this as my new LS signature! Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted February 22, 2006 Share Posted February 22, 2006 i think the fact that you don't seem like the brightest crayon in the box would turn me off more than the fact that you haven't dated. in all honesty, i would probably figure out why you haven't dated as soon as you started talking, and i would just move on. I feel the need to defend him now. In my humble opinion, only long time posters who have repeatedly dealt with joel and have suffered multiple attacks of frustration should be allowed to put him down. If you put him down because his English is so abysmally bad, you're judgmental, because he is a CBC, a Chinese born Canadian (I hope I got this right) and therefore his native language is not English. On the other hand we long term posters know that he has been repeatedly advised to improve his language skills, like better spelling, less grammar mistakes, more coherence in his posts, etc. which he ignores with the nonchalance of a pro. We have indeed earned the right to be frustrated. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 There's no need to criticize Joel on grounds of his poor mastery of the English language, and there is certainly no need to insult his intelligence. If you're going to call someone on the carpet, do it because of what they write, and what the reveal about themselves, not the style or manner in which they do it. There are people here who's spelling and grammar skills leave much to be desired and yet we still hold them in high regard. That out of the way, it is obvious that Joel doesn't have a lot of good relationship skills, and he needs to work on this. I think, Joel, that part of the problem is that you're being suffocated by your parents; you're afraid to be your own man, and I think that's killing whatever chances you have. You should work on being your own man first. Consider the things we've talked about in the past, like moving out, going to school, getting a part-time or full-time job...be your own man. Have goals. Work to pursue them. Achieve them. With that, confidence is sure to follow. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 There's no need to criticize Joel on grounds of his poor mastery of the English language, and there is certainly no need to insult his intelligence. If you're going to call someone on the carpet, do it because of what they write, and what the reveal about themselves, not the style or manner in which they do it. There are people here who's spelling and grammar skills leave much to be desired and yet we still hold them in high regard. If he writes like this he shouldn't be surprised if he only attracts desperate girls - normal girls with standard would not talk to him. Ask the ladies here if they find the picture of himself that his posts invoke to be very appealing. Language is not the only factor when it comes to attraction, but it certainly is not to be neglected when it comes to romance, see Cyrano de Bergerac, and if your ability to master it drops under a certain level, then not even Brad Pitt looks can help you. And he has been repeatedly told to work on it. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I feel the need to defend him now. In my humble opinion, only long time posters who have repeatedly dealt with joel and have suffered multiple attacks of frustration should be allowed to put him down. If you put him down because his English is so abysmally bad, you're judgmental, because he is a CBC, a Chinese born Canadian (I hope I got this right) and therefore his native language is not English. On the other hand we long term posters know that he has been repeatedly advised to improve his language skills, like better spelling, less grammar mistakes, more coherence in his posts, etc. which he ignores with the nonchalance of a pro. We have indeed earned the right to be frustrated. Silly silly Loony. Ms. TeaCooler has been around her longer than you and I put together. I have to agree with you though, his English is terrible but he knows it and that's not what he came here to get advice on. He has also noted that he primarliy focuses on other foreign born women such as himself so hopefully they will be more understanding of his difficulties with language. I think that Joel should listen to amerikajin's advice, it was very sound advice. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 There's no need to criticize Joel on grounds of his poor mastery of the English language, and there is certainly no need to insult his intelligence. If you're going to call someone on the carpet, do it because of what they write, and what the reveal about themselves, not the style or manner in which they do it. There are people here who's spelling and grammar skills leave much to be desired and yet we still hold them in high regard. Ok AMERIKAJIN....lets look at the facts here. JOEL posts about the same stuff each and every time. He averages about 16 posts per month since June of 2004. He does not take advice from anyone or show any "learning"..... most likely JOEL is a poster created by someone else on LS just as a gag. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 No, Dave1234 was a gag...Joel's just sad. Needs to get out more. You can do it, Joel. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 Yeah, I think Joel is being serious. His posts are sad and repetitive but not nearly creative enough to have been made up. I remember his other posts from '04 ~ he put up pictures of himself at one point, no? And asked everyone to grade him or something to that effect? He just desperately needs to find a source of confidence. His not posting often seems to be more of an indicator that he's for real. My hypothesis is that if he were purely looking to get a rise out of people his posts would not only be more outrageous but more frequent... ha, this one girl who used to post alot over the summer comes to mind as an example... "Julie" I think? i.e. ~ Monday: "I was raped and I liked it" ; Tuesday: "My boss offered me 50million to have sex with him":rolleyes: Wednesday: "I was abducted by aliens and now I'm pregnant" ... ok I made the last one up. :laugh Whatever happened to her anyway??: Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 If he's born in Canada, then why is his grammar/English so poor? Canada's first language is English, you know. Even if he has a learning disability, we know he goes to college and he said he gets like a C+ average. Not great I know, but not terrible either. He should know how to write in a coherent manner. Something is fishy. Link to post Share on other sites
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