How do i deal with my stress and issues?

[nice guy444]

My problems started a while back almost a year ago when my girlfriend of a year and a half cheated on me with my friend whom was going to be my roommate if i transfered to that particular school. It couldnt have come at the worst possible time, It was the weekend before valentines day, and I was having an extreemly hard time at my college due to the atmosphere that sorrounded me.

 

This girl who i had dated for about a year and a half was everything i wanted and we took care of eachother. She was a sweet innocent person and did not seem to cause many problems until second semester of freshman year of college where her drinking and her flirtatious attitude under the influence had cause many issues and had put me in many hard spots that I got both of us out of (many of the time it was guys trying to fight me because she would start problems).

 

Anyways she dumped me about 2 days before valentines day last year yet she showed up at my school and acted normal around me. i was willing to work through the problems with her because i felt we had too much to lose and all she needed to was stop giving in to peer pressure and be her normal self.

 

She then dumped me for the kid she cheated with, yet while she was with him shed constantly call me and instant message me yet i did my best to keep no contact tho it hurt like hell. During this time things got really hard for me at school i moved home and also had many health issues related to depression.

 

So i decided to see a Shrink. (things didnt seem to get any better) Finally around my birthday she came back to me and in person talked to me for a few hours and begged me to come back and showed me that she had made many changes for the better and she dropped all those bad people that she was trying to impress.

 

We again dated for about two months until the middle of this past summer where she went away to work for a month where she cheated on me again and left me for a rich kid who already had a girlfriend of two years himself and he who lives half way across the country. Thats when i said enough is enough. I cut all possible ties and avoid all spots that we used to go.

 

It is now second semester of my sophmore year she has had 3 boyfriends since me all who use her. (i dont hear this info by choice) All year she has pranked called me, used fake screen names and pretended to be new girls to find out what my dating status was and to mess with my head.

 

Before I went out with her, and while i was with her i was a very happy person, always an optimist, had tons of friends, and was able to focus. Now my thoughts are cluddered with thoughts of her, and when they subside at times she tends to do something out of the blue to hurt me in her messed up way (she now calls my friends who she isnt close to, says mean things about me, and hits on people who are close to me)

 

I dont know how to release my stress, or clear my head of her. I also havnt been able to meet a girl since she left. I have transfered to a new school, and still dont have many friends because ive lost most of my confidence.

 

I work out everyday, do breathing exercises, go to a phychiatrist, I try to meet new people, and i try to go out as much as possible yet i cant seem to find myself, nor can i seem to be happy, everywhere i go there is some reminder of her.

 

How do i rid myself of her and the stress i have? and how do i meet a new girl? How do i start to trust people again? Any tips on confidence, destressors, or anything pertaining to gaining back my social life would be greatly appreciated

[JadeStar]

She has proven time and time again she can not be trusted, and its best for you to know and understand you're better off with out that situation. Sounds like you're doing the right things, by exercising, doing breathing techniques, and seeing a counselor. So the only thing I know to tell you, is time. Hopefully time will heal things for you. Take one day at a time, and each day it will become easier. Maybe get out a little more and surround yourself with family/friends to keep you mind busy and off of her. Good luck to you.

 

 

 

 

 

Jade