Guest Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 Can anyone give me some feedback on this?? My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years states she feels stifled and that she does not have the freedom she wants. She says she feels she is not allowed to do what she wants and cannot choose her own friends. She wants to be able to go and do things with friends and that i should be o.k with that. I really am, and have no problem with her having fun with friends. Here then is the problem. She states she cannot be friends with other women, that only men understand her, and that there are no women with the same interests as her. She wants to be able to go to dinner, movies, concerts, etc., with other single men. I am not invited. I feel that she is simply asking to be allowed to date, and that her request is inappropriate and disrespectful. She denies that anyone would have any other motive than to be her friend. I think she is naive if she believes that men (and a lot of women) quite often have other things in mind, even when they state that is the last thing that they would want! We are all human... etc.. I think is fine to have male friends in group situations, work, etc., but i can't bring myself to be sophisticated (or stupid) enough to say go for it when she wants to go out with other guys.. Let me have it, if i am wrong, i am wrong, i just want us to resolve this. (it may also be important to mention that we have not had any intimate contact in nearly a year and a half, and she sites my not being willing to allow her to go out with other guys as the reason. I feel she should clean up her own backyard first and worry about someone else later!) Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I'm going to be blunt here, but what she is telling you is pure BS, that she can't have or be friends with other women, that only men (single) understand her. Thats a bunch of BS. Thats her way of justifying the fact she wants to be with other men. You also stated you all have not be initimate in nearly a year and half and she puts it off as you not allowing her to go out with guy friends. Hun I think shes already going out with guy friends, she seems a little to adament about doing it anyway, and her excuses are just poor. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
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